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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 7:59:30 PM   
domiguy


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doesn't mean that your extracurricular activities are a fetish.


You may be correct, I've always assumed that being tied up, beaten, among other things, were fetishes.
I may not understand them completely.

I'm not sure.

Is there a difference between a preference of activities and a fetish?

Even so. All the BDSM stuff I have been involved in wasn't physically sexual...


There is a difference only because words have meanings.


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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 7:59:53 PM   
0ldhen


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Fetish: Psychology, any object or non-genital (or genital) part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation. So the are forever intertwined.



Yup.....Harleys........

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 8:14:56 PM   
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If you had to spend the rest of your life only doing your fetish, or being able to have sex. But you could not do both...which would you pick.




I'd choose love.


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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 8:49:08 PM   
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If you had to spend the rest of your life only doing your fetish, or being able to have sex. But you could not do both...which would you pick.




I'd choose love.



womp womp womp.

Fag.



J/k!!!

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 9:01:03 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		I have no fetishes, thank goodness. They are very limiting. So of course I'll take sex rather than a non existant fetish.

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 9:09:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy


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ORIGINAL: MrSprocket


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ORIGINAL: Andryanna


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ORIGINAL: domiguy

doesn't mean that your extracurricular activities are a fetish.


You may be correct, I've always assumed that being tied up, beaten, among other things, were fetishes.
I may not understand them completely.

I'm not sure.

Is there a difference between a preference of activities and a fetish?

Even so. All the BDSM stuff I have been involved in wasn't physically sexual...


There is a difference only because words have meanings.


ah okay. i understand now

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/16/2011 11:01:46 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I don't consider anything I do to be a fetish, so bring on the sex. 


Of course, if what you meant was some of the S&M activities vs. sex....like others have said, sex is always part of our S&M so I repeat, bring on the sex.  

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 12:37:06 AM   
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My fetish is motorcycles so......

Hmm.......Harleys or sex......Harleys or sex.......?

Harleys of course.....see...I always know where it is, if it breaks down I know it is my fault and I know exactly how to fix it, I only have to feed it if I take it out, it is alway ready whenever I am, it can ride for more than an hour, it has a built in vibrator, and my friends would never ride it without my permission.


I wish this was facebook so I could "like" your comment.



Add it to one of the many poster-cards in your profile pics.  Problem solved.



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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 7:03:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'll take submission to the Dominant I'll (future tense) love over sex any day. If that includes "fetishes" then sweet.

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 7:14:37 AM   
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If you had to spend the rest of your life only doing your fetish, or being able to have sex. But you could not do both...which would you pick.



neither

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 7:57:21 AM   
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Blah with "official" definitions ........... :)

I have a hand fetish..... love a manly man's hand.... it is just amazingly HOT !!

Kink is what usually gets me off and hot and bothered ..... :)

Sex means with a man to me. Vanilla or under the direction//fun/kink of a dom?
I think I have been celibate too long and dont remember what that is. ....... :)


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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 10:26:26 AM   
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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 11:01:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't have a fetish. I do on the other hand have more than one paraphilia(if you don't know look up what  the difference is). But seeing as that was not part of your question I will keep the paraphilias and the sex...go me

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 3:15:02 PM   
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Fetish.

Assuming I could still masturbate. I would hate to be orgasm-less for the rest of my life. Even then, though...serious consideration would have to be given to trade sex for my fetish. I don't think I could give the fetish up.

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/17/2011 7:26:44 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		No contest. Sex with M.... I have no fetishes. Unless sex with M is one.........lol

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/18/2011 6:28:26 AM   
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I don't have a fetish. I do on the other hand have more than one paraphilia (if you don't know look up what  the difference is). But seeing as that was not part of your question I will keep the paraphilias and the sex...go me


According to the DSM-IV-TR and proposed V, you're out of luck unless you're unhappy with your paraphilia

"cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" (Criterion B)

I think it's funny that sadism made it into the first DSM but masochism wasn't recognized until the 80s.

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/18/2011 2:45:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		My fetish is power. I've tried sex w/o power and ya know what? It's kinda drab, vanilla even. Matter of fact, I'd rather have sex alone (Hey, at least it's with someone I love), than have blah dreary boring sex.



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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/18/2011 2:49:25 PM   
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If you had to spend the rest of your life only doing your fetish, or being able to have sex. But you could not do both...which would you pick.




I'd choose love.



Best answer yet! I don't need kink and I don't need sex. I do need love.


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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/18/2011 5:11:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		My fetish, if masochism qualifies as a fetish. I read this question as, "If I had to have soft, painless sex forever OR if I could still get beaten but never have sex" which would I choose? A good session gives me almost everything I get from sex but not vice-versa.

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RE: Sex vs Fetish - 8/18/2011 5:27:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd pick a kink (not my favorite word) based relationship that was really amazing (close, loving bond; friendship etc) without sex to a relationship that had sex without the kink factor.

Asking me to choose to have kinkless sex is like asking me to choose to eat peas or liver or something; it's not something I'm into regardless of the situation so no reason to opt for it at all.

~freedom

Edited to add: Sex would only account for a certain part of living but the rest of the relationship would make up the bulk of life which to me means much more


< Message edited by Hisfreedom -- 8/18/2011 5:29:40 PM >

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