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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: hardyballzee
Ballbusting is nothing to be ashamed of or embarassed about.

  Oh, I disagree.  I think it's fucking hysterical.  And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

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ORIGINAL: hardyballzee
No, I do not have a question. Although I do wonder why some forms of BDSM deem appropriate or acceptable while others do not. That I overall question. Why is choking and spanking for instance seen as "ok" by society, where as something like ballbusting or whipping is not.

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I have spoken with many men and women who are into ballbusting and while I can only write from my perspective I tried to voice for many of them. What I wrote about the public Vs private issues, the sexuality of the activity and the trying to get outsiders to understand are feelings that many of us share. The only real just me part of the post was explaining why I enjoy ballbusting.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: hardyballzee
No, I do not have a question. Although I do wonder why some forms of BDSM deem appropriate or acceptable while others do not. That I overall question. Why is choking and spanking for instance seen as "ok" by society, where as something like ballbusting or whipping is not.

If you honestly think that choking has some uniform acceptance among those who are interested in kink, you haven't done much reading outside of your own particular fetish.  Try topics such as face slapping, electric, fire, cuttings, needles, and darn near anything else that folks want to distinguish one type of play from the other and you'll see the same reception.

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I have spoken with many men and women who are into ballbusting and while I can only write from my perspective I tried to voice for many of them. What I wrote about the public Vs private issues, the sexuality of the activity and the trying to get outsiders to understand are feelings that many of us share. The only real just me part of the post was explaining why I enjoy ballbusting.

While you may have discussed it with a number of folks, the mistake is in attempting to sound like you've got the popular vote.  I can sit here and promise you that there are just as many masochists out there who want the activity for the pain, not the sexuality involved in it.

Just from what you've written on this particular thread, I can give you My word that I have certain kinks that you absolutely do not understand, nor would you want to participate in them.  Seriously, I'm cool with that.  It isn't My job to make you want to understand about kinks that you don't enjoy and I don't feel the need to try to explain them unless someone comes along with a particular question.  There's a difference between folks wanting to learn about something and not giving a toss because other people are out there doing their own thing.  Your post didn't offend anybody, though I would be willing to wager that it fills the latter category.

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ORIGINAL: hardyballzee
I have done research on choking, which is why I posted what I did about it. I will however, look up more research on it as well as the other topics that you mentioned.

To me there's a difference between not understanding and not wanting to participate in them and being hostile towards those whom have fetishes I don't like/agree with.

To me it's very hypocritical and rather wrong to look at someone who likes to have people poop on them as if they're really screwed up and need to be alienated when I myself enjoy something equally as seen myself.

That's really a major point I was trying to get at but obviously failed. I just think that it's very hypocritical for someone to judge someone harshly for liking a few swift kicks in the balls, when they for example like having 14 inch dildos shoved up their butt. In my opinion, I guess to each their own and I respect all fetishes, including those I do not like or understand.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: hardyballzee
I have done research on choking, which is why I posted what I did about it. I will however, look up more research on it as well as the other topics that you mentioned.

To me there's a difference between not understanding and not wanting to participate in them and being hostile towards those whom have fetishes I don't like/agree with.

To me it's very hypocritical and rather wrong to look at someone who likes to have people poop on them as if they're really screwed up and need to be alienated when I myself enjoy something equally as seen myself.

That's really a major point I was trying to get at but obviously failed. I just think that it's very hypocritical for someone to judge someone harshly for liking a few swift kicks in the balls, when they for example like having 14 inch dildos shoved up their butt. In my opinion, I guess to each their own and I respect all fetishes, including those I do not like or understand.

You might want to be really careful throwing that word "hypocrite" around.

Just sayin'.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

I think we know different women.

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And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

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While I do my best to respect people who are into eating other people's poop, I have a hard, hard time trying to accept it.

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Hardy you really need to back down a tad. Folks are trying to give you good advice. And as for your statement about being a hypocrite I'm wondering something. You like getting kicked in the nuts...cool,cool, thats just lovely. And you say you have no right to judge someone that might be into some other thing like fecalphilia. Would you say the same thing if it were pedophilia. How about necrophilia. The fact of the matter is every human makes judgements having to do with what they do and do not want in their personal life. That has never changed and it never will.

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ORIGINAL: stoni23

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And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

ROFL

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While I do my best to respect people who are into eating other people's poop, I have a hard, hard time trying to accept it.

Well, I like to eat other people's poop... But I don't see any reason why I should care if other people understand it or not. I know it's fucked up, just like I know getting your balls stomped on is fucked up. If other people want to look down on me for the things I like to do, that's their problem. You should adopt a similar philosophy, because you're never going to be accepted by everybody for what you like to do and have done to you.

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

I really wish I could just stop and leave it with your last comment because I have more than a few friends who are homosexuals, but I can't. Because sadly I don't think so much that the world views have changed so much as just the politics have. But that is a whole different topic than the one you originally posted.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

Look, you are talking about CBT which is very very common.  No big deal.  You just enjoy the CBT concentrating on your balls.  When you use the word ballbusting, in my opinion, you are entering an extreme form of CBT that not everyone is comfortable doing.  In my definition of the word ballbusting, damage can easily be done. 

You have opened my eyes in one area.  I figured after a guy's balls were bruised and sore, the last thing on his mind would be sex.  However, you say that ballbusting is a turn on.  Gotta admit, I found that strange. 

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It is one of the strangest fetishes out there or at least made out to be that way by those outside of it.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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It is one of the strangest fetishes out there or at least made out to be that way by those outside of it.

Hello Hardy,
This is the only sentence I've read.  I stopped after reading it because of a number of inaccuracies.

"strangest fetishes" Not really. 
"made out to be that way"  not so much.
"ballbusting" another one of these?
"first post" + long writing + no ? = lecture
"fetish name" Just plain negative reaction from me.  I generally don't like 'em.

You may be into this, and that's cool.

Your post, however, was insulting.  After reading one sentence I came up with that?  Yep.  Here's how - you were obviously lecturing a group of people who wrote the book (sometimes literally) on wiitwd.  You made the assumption that we wanted / needed to hear it without checking out that assumption.  I searched and found four threads on this topic in the last three months.  Obviously not as uncommon or strange as you seem to think it is.  This tells me you are actually clueless about your own chosen topic or you are completely self-centered about it.  Either one is a perfectly fine place to be, but when you put your cluelessness/egoism out for the rest of the world to look at, we will call you on it.  Here on the message boards, people get called on their stuff all the time - it's not personal.  It's a discussion. 

That's the other thing.  What you did was not start a discussion, you gave a lecture.  Now that is not in and of itself an issue - mummyman recently started a post regarding safe mummification that was very positively received.  He, however, is a known entity.  We know him, he has proven himself to be knowledgeable and a good conversationalist.  You are just some dude that walked into a room and started lecturing a bunch of in the know people.  Imagine going up to Bill Gates at a cocktail party and telling him how to use Windows Media Maker.  That's more or less what you did.  Know your audience.

I harbor no ill will to you or have any feelings one way or the other here.  I'm just letting you know how I received your post and why I would choose not to read it.

Of course the ironic thing would be that you don't read mine!  Ha!  That would serve me right!

good luck,
sunshine