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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/17/2011 8:06:17 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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I suppose I need to just grit my teeth from now on when I read the countless number of, "oh and I love having a huge dildo shoved up my rectum! You like getting kicked in the balls?? WTF!?!!@??"

It's years of frustration that lead me to post what I did. I did my best to post it in a non attacking way and to be educationally subjective.

I should have just written a rant, as it is what I'm being accused of anyway.

I'm very glad I posted this thread. It gives me more insight to many things. I will say that I find it very interesting how some who have their own fetishes(be whatever they may be) still find it perfectly acceptable to judge and degrade others. Not saying that as incriminating, just saying that as observation.


In regard to your really really really long OP (which I too agree would have been more appropriate as a journal entry) you are preaching to the choir here. I think the point for many of us is: we...don't...care. You keep comparing the strap-on concept to ball-busting...ho-hum to both. Nothing new or exciting there. Your in-our-faces treatise on both these subjects have been done to death; we're bored.

I have no problem with ball-busting. I have my methods that don't inflict significant physical harm yet can instantly bring a grown man to his knees. You don't see me starting a thread about the details of how I do this or why my submissive partner might desire it. That's because nobody gives a flying fart except him and me.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/17/2011 10:01:39 PM   
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Truth of the matter is, right now it's still a very underground and harshly judged activity. I'm certainly not changing any minds, and I knew that going in.



You are hearing us but not listening.  It is not a harshly judged activity among fellow kinksters.  Many who contact you from the other side of CM, within the mail room, might be here looking for porn or easy lays and not really getting what we do.  Many from that side have not scened in r/t, but only in their fantasies.  This side of CM is different, as many of us have had r/t BDSM relationships...got that now?

You are preaching to the choir.    The last time I was with my sub...his balls didn't get all sore from kisses.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/17/2011 10:21:37 PM   
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Well lets give the guy a break at least.  He's being decent about it, and has taken a lot of trash talk in this thread pretty well.  He's willing to listen to everybody's opinions and is being a good guy about it; so let's ease up on him huh?



No.  If you think *I'm* tough on him, lord don't read what some of these other folks around here write.  I don't think that giving someone honest, clear, usable feedback is something that needs to be eased up on.  If you want to coddle him with half truths, that's fine.  It's just not my way.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 12:13:57 AM   
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I just think that it's very hypocritical for someone to judge someone harshly for liking a few swift kicks in the balls, when they for example like having 14 inch dildos shoved up their butt. In my opinion, I guess to each their own and I respect all fetishes, including those I do not like or understand.



Hypocrisy isn't in short supply -- in BDSM circles or any part of vanilla existance. But I certainly think it's OK for people to engage in kinky activities and still draw lines in terms of activities they consider repulsive or wrong or whatever. Sure, there are times when the "My fetish is fine and yours is sick" stuff becomes comical. But I would be lying if I said I respect all fetishes. Is that hypocritical? Eye of the beholder, I guess. I'd say more realistically most people do draw lines on the spectrum. We just all draw the lines at different places.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 12:35:12 AM   
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Honestly though, how could I really shorten it up? I speak for a very large percentage of those who enjoy ballbusting on the feelings that I wrote. I had to address that we don't want it to be public, that's often very misunderstood by people.


They have a saying in standup comedy -- you have to know your audience. And you don't. People who read a ballbusting thread on CM don't need an explanation of what ballbusting is. You just kept droning on and on about stuff everyone knows.

How could you have shortened it? Here was your point:

"I don't understand why some fetishes are more acceptable than others. I am a big fan of ballbusters, but it seems most people -- even more people in BDSM frown on it. Why is ballbusting so scorned?"

Everything else in your post was eye-glazing.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 4:32:06 AM   
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Well lets give the guy a break at least.  He's being decent about it, and has taken a lot of trash talk in this thread pretty well.  He's willing to listen to everybody's opinions and is being a good guy about it; so let's ease up on him huh?

And OP, no i wasn't kidding about what I said earlier. It is one of the many things I am into.


I appreciate your sincerity.

Thank you also for the clarification.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 4:35:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you everyone for your insight and response.

I do appreciate it and will take everything into consideration when posting again on this message board.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 6:44:00 AM   
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No. If you think *I'm* tough on him, lord don't read what some of these other folks around here write. I don't think that giving someone honest, clear, usable feedback is something that needs to be eased up on. If you want to coddle him with half truths, that's fine. It's just not my way.


I didn't mean you specifically, I meant in general

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 7:07:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're trying to be a good guy, stoni, and I applaud you for that, but you're also kind of missing it. 

In My opinion, a significant percentage of the readers on this forum didn't need a lecture or some kind of manifesto regarding CBT or ballbusting.  The latter term of which a lot of folks don't tend to use because it's not even correct from a realistic stance.  Let's face it.  If you "busted" a ball, you've kind of screwed up in your play to begin with.  In the literal sense, I would have to shatter someone's testicle to fit the definition.

Really, I don't need a lecture on kinks.  Most folks on these forums don't.  If I felt that I did, I'd hit a demo or pick up Haberman's book.


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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 7:42:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yea but at least he is accepting other's opinions, and he's even admitting that he probably shouldn't have made the post. What more can we ask of him?

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 7:59:52 AM   
LadyPact


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How about.....

Get the fuck off of the internet and go to a CBT demo?




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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 8:10:29 AM   
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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 9:55:25 AM   
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Didn't read it.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 12:38:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious


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ORIGINAL: Awareness

And frankly, if a woman confessed to me that she would like nothing more than to be punched in the cunt, I'd think she's fucked in the head too.

I think we know different women.
  And for that, I am profoundly thankful.



I'm sure so is VC, hers tend to have a pulse

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 2:34:47 PM   
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No. If you think *I'm* tough on him, lord don't read what some of these other folks around here write. I don't think that giving someone honest, clear, usable feedback is something that needs to be eased up on. If you want to coddle him with half truths, that's fine. It's just not my way.


I didn't mean you specifically, I meant in general


I don't regret posting what I posted, but I do realize that I should have posted it in a different way. I'm glad I posted it and I'm glad to have gotten responses. I myself am not much of a malcious person and appreciated those who attacked my post with the idea of educating me the way things work around her more so than those who just felt the need to attack me. However, I learned from their responses as well.

For what it's worth, thank you for sticking up for me.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 2:54:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		: ). I stick up for those that deserve it. There are a lot of trolls on these forums, and I can tell that you are not one of them.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 3:03:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I appreciate that Stoni.

I'll do my best to not tick off others again. Can't promise that I won't unintentionally sometime, but I'll do what I can.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 3:04:40 PM   
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Let's see.   Hmmmmmm.

How about.....

Get the fuck off of the internet and go to a CBT demo?





Out of curiosity do you know where any of these take place? The only one I've ever heard of was in Las Vegas.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 3:38:31 PM   
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Let's see.   Hmmmmmm.

How about.....

Get the fuck off of the internet and go to a CBT demo?





Out of curiosity do you know where any of these take place? The only one I've ever heard of was in Las Vegas.


In NYC they have them with fine regularity, you may just want to find an active BDSM group in your area or a big city near you, or find a Domme near you who is doing C4S - they have trouble finding guys who can take ball kickings, you might even get your kicks for free.

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RE: Understanding Ballbusting - 8/18/2011 3:44:29 PM   
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Out of curiosity do you know where any of these take place? The only one I've ever heard of was in Las Vegas.

Seriously?  What kind of flipping local groups do you belong to?

CBT is actually a rather semi-popular demo. 


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