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Ninebelowzero -> RE: Spanked to death in the name of God? (8/21/2011 10:19:34 PM)
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OK hat into the ring time.
Regular physical chastisement of children hardens them to the next one after a while. The kid just gets to thinking well the last one wasn't so bad stuff it. So the parent has to up the ante & so a spiral of violence & abuse may well be born. Heretic says about the trip to the woodshed for an ass whupping well that in itself is ok but is a nuclear option, but again once endured a kid will either never do it again or think so what!
Once a kid starts to think that the beasting is endurable where do you go as a parent? What next a length of good old Hickory, a baseball bat? If parents put the effort in to be seen as Alpha Female/Male in the family, this approach isn't required. A quiet word, a raised eyebrow works as does a fur flying teeth bared growl at the other end of the spectrum. It's parents who don't engage with their kids who have these disciplinary issues (in general) parents too busy at work, too busy boozing, too busy with other stuff, we all know the look of abject disappointment on a kids face when they find out that Mum or Dad is going to be home late from work & they won't see them before bedtime, so imagine that on a prolonged timescale. I'm rambling now but that lack of engagement with a child at his/her emotional level is in the main the catalyst foe behavioural issues in my experience (abuse cases aside). So taking all the above into account, my kid is nearly always bruised scabbed dirty from rough play with myself but he knows who top dog is without a beating.
It is far betterfor both the child & the parent to go puddle jumping with your kid than bollock him/her for doing it themself.
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