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Farido -> 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 8:26:41 AM)

Hi,

After many months of playing with occasional/part-time subs and slave girls, I finally met a slave girl who is flying soon to my place for test leading to 24/7 arrangement. She is in her 20s, we spent a couple of months of long distance relation and now she is ready to fly to my place for a couple of test/training-weeks..... If things go on well she will be collared and will stay with me permanently.

I need the help of the Doms/Dommes, Masters/Mistresses who are experienced with the 24/7 arrangements, with the following question:

How do I treat my new slave during the first 24 to 48 hours to make her feel relaxed and welcome while keeping those lines between the master and his slave well defined.

This is going to be our first face-to-face meeting together and we didn't have the chance to meet outside in person before.

thank you.




MstrDennynSlave -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 8:50:03 AM)

I'm not a Master/Mistress, but I am a slave to my Master. During the first 24-48 hours, treat her as you would any woman in a vanilla relationship. It is about getting to know each other first. You have talked long distance, yes, but that doesnt take the place of meeting face to face. There will be many things you will be finding out about each other the first few days. Take this time to listen to her. Being her Master doesnt mean you will take over and not listen to anything she says. She is going to be nervous. You are going to be nervous. Be yourself, but don't start right in on the, "I'm your Master, you obey me", routine. Even though she knows that is what is expected of her, it could very well make her bolt if you start too soon. Treat her as you would expect to be treated were you in her position. Not necessarily as a slave, but as a woman that is meeting someone for the first time. Even though you have talked, she is most undoubtedly very scared and nervous. Not sure what to expect. And relax yourself. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she will be. Talk to her as you would with someone in a vanilla relationship. Add a few things that you would like to teach her, have her do, within the conversations. But dont overwhelm her with everything all at once.

Take her out to eat if you dont feel comfortable cooking the first meal for her. While eating lunch/dinner, talk about anything under the sun that interests you both. Some women are comfortable talking about why they are meeting someone, and some aren't. Take your cues from her. Most of all, RELAX and enjoy yourself and her company.

Hope this helps you out. And best of luck.




littlewonder -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 8:52:49 AM)

HOw about meeting her for coffee first and seeing if either one of you even like each other? And then sending her back home for continual meetings over a course of time to get to know each other.

Nothin like moving in before you even meet I guess though. [8|]




Farido -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 9:02:29 AM)

Thank you for your replies. Very helpful hints. 




JanahX -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 9:10:58 AM)

Moving is in the top five of the most stressful things someone can go through. Especially when it's in a place that they are not familliar with.
One of the most asked questions I get on CM, is if I will relocate. My answer is, "only if it's an offer that I can't refuse" - meaning, it has to be worth it for me leaving my job, friends, family, community, home.

Also, when two people start co-habitating together there are many things about that person that start to come out - usually the "best face" fascade starts to shed, and sooner than later, you see the thorns behind the "everything is roses" face.

Its an adjustment. Been there done that.

Just make her seem like she's wanted. And have a social life planned for her. Is she going to work out of the home, go to school?

OP, I just took a glance at your profile. So another hurdle might be that you and her might have some difficulties with your 25-30 year old age gap? Good luck.




poise -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 9:40:17 AM)

Congratulations, Farido. Is this the 19 year old virgin you sought help with in training last year?

You sound really nervous, and I bet she is too!
Since you have been training her for so many months online,
there is a behavior of yours that she has come to know and trust.
So how you treat her face to face shouldn't be any different than
how you've been treating her online.

And remember, she will be testing you too!




JanahX -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 9:45:25 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

Congratulations, Farido. Is this the 19 year old virgin you sought help with in training last year?

You sound really nervous, and I bet she is too!
Since you have been training her for so many months online,
there is a behavior of yours that she has come to know and trust.
So how you treat her face to face shouldn't be any different than
how you've been treating her online.



And remember, she will be testing you too!


hey Farido ... so did you ever get to pop that cherry? Please, enquiring minds want to know, Nothing like an old fucking man popping a 19 year old- teenagers cherry. Asshole.




sexyred1 -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 10:16:18 AM)

Testing people for 24/7 without ever meeting in person first?

Just shakes head....




MistressDarkArt -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 10:59:25 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

HOw about meeting her for coffee first and seeing if either one of you even like each other? And then sending her back home for continual meetings over a course of time to get to know each other.

Nothin like moving in before you even meet I guess though. [8|]



This. She may decide there's no in-person chemistry once she meets you and that'll be that. Don't put the cart before the horse.




OsideGirl -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 6:25:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Testing people for 24/7 without ever meeting in person first?

Just shakes head....

Mind boggling, isn't it?




LadyPact -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 6:33:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise
Congratulations, Farido. Is this the 19 year old virgin you sought help with in training last year?


I knew I remembered that nameThank you, poise!

You've got to love this place sometimes.

Same answer as the last.  Meet and see if you click.  Stop playing the internet games.




Arpig -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 8:18:03 PM)

quote:

Nothing like an old fucking man popping a 19 year old- teenagers cherry.
Damn right!!It's just the...huh. what, there's more...oh you mean this bit
quote:

Asshole


[sm=couch.gif]Never mind.




HannahLynHeather -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/30/2011 11:54:32 PM)

i'd say you are a fucking pig, but you have cunningly disarmed that insult!




MasterSlaveLA -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/31/2011 1:56:54 PM)

 
Sleep with one-eye open... BWAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAAAAAA ! ! !

[:D]





zephyroftheNorth -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/31/2011 4:14:13 PM)

quote:

Congratulations, Farido. Is this the 19 year old virgin you sought help with in training last year?


Well OP, is it the same girl?

[sm=popcorn.gif]




MRRoy2 -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/31/2011 6:43:19 PM)

You have spoken with her so use what you know about her to decide what she is expecting of you and go from there. Dont run her off but at the same time remember that she may be expecting this life to start soon. I would give her the respect of any new relationship at first. Then let it progress.




Endivius -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (8/31/2011 8:31:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Farido

How do I treat my new slave during the first 24 to 48 hours to make her feel relaxed and welcome while keeping those lines between the master and his slave well defined.



Chlorophorm and a pine wood box.[sm=ballchain.gif]



No but seriously, you are over thinking this. Stop worying about your dynamic and worry more about connecting with eachother. Be yourself. Kinky stuff will fall into place later.




Awareness -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (9/2/2011 2:25:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

i'd say you are a fucking pig, but you have cunningly disarmed that insult!
  Yeah, but you'd say that about any heterosexual man.




mons -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (9/4/2011 2:32:55 AM)

When You wrote to her online she trusted you then and she will trust you in person!  You have gain her already with you online talk, that tells more because a person opens up when they feel free too express what they want and need!  Just be what you are and that is the person she trust and believe in when you wrote to her, what ever you said made her know she is safe in your hands!   That is all be you!

Mons




LiveByYourNature -> RE: 1st visit of my new 24/7 slave (9/4/2011 3:07:19 AM)

You be yourself, only the part of yourself who isn't whipping her clothes off, figuratively or literally, yet. If you've told her what to expect by way of protocol, begin there, giving her time to learn in person. If you have not told her, begin there, instead. Maybe. But, really, seriously, be yourself but not super intense about it.




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