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ORIGINAL: metamorphic

It always amazed me how eager some boys (emphasis added) are to be desired by women. Its a gender role reversal. What do you think drives this behavior?

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ORIGINAL: metamorphic
It always amazed me how eager some males are to be desired by women. Its a gender role reversal. What do you think drives this behavior?

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I'm finding this thread and some comments on it rather disturbing. Women are supposed to want to be marketed, wanted by everyone, etc. Have you seen who all is included in that everyone? I wouldn't want to be wanted by everyone... hell, not even by half of everyone. Sex sells... so therefore... women sell? What the fuck have women been striving for all these decades... to be summed up by barbie and other marketable women? Note, there wasn't a brain surgeon or rocket scientist in the mix.

Not every woman wants to be a pin up or marketable in a manner that insults women and categorizes them. Any men that wish to go there... deserve their barbie moment I guess... but those that want everyone to want them are friggin insane in my opinion or maybe they are selling something.

Because a lot of men put women in a place where they became so called, marketable, doesn't mean that a lot of us liked it or wanted it. Personally I could have lived quite well without it.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Oh dear, how dismal. For both sexes, but - still - more so for women. (The word 'women' there gets no capital, because - let's face it - it's ludicrous).

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It always amazed me how eager some males are to be desired by women. Its a gender role reversal. What do you think drives this behavior?

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ORIGINAL: SaharahEve
Look...I capitalized Vaginas, too. Mwahahahaha.

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You don't generally see Jane going "gee, that girl in that corner thinks john doe is hot and wants, now I suddenly think he is hot and want him."

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ORIGINAL: LiveByYourNature

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You don't generally see Jane going "gee, that girl in that corner thinks john doe is hot and wants, now I suddenly think he is hot and want him."

Oh, yes I do! In fact, I noticed some poor guy at the bar where I used to go dancing, one night, who was obviously fresh out of a divorce and hadn't been on the dating scene since the late 70's, who was being made fun of by many pretty little girls who were standing nearby, especially this one girl, who also kept looking over at me, in her "OMG why is a woman who is old enough to buy her own drinks here?" fashion, so I took pity on him, walked over, kissed him, and, suddenly there she was, standing at the bar, looking stunned and nervous, and obviously trying to work up the nerve to let him flirt with her. So, I walked off, walked back, told him I had to do that again, kind of pushed her out of the way and laid one on him and she tapped me on the shoulder and said "Excuse me? I was trying to have a conversation with him!" He said thank you, I left.

Women do it all the time. Sometimes women end up being married to a guy that they didn't even want, just because they get carried away with competing with other women, just like some men do about women.

Men and women are not that different. They pretty much all like to be noticed, like to be wanted in some fashion from a safe distance, want that special someone to notice them up closer, want to be taken seriously as a person but desirable as a lover.

There is no role reversal in a man wanting to be found attractive by a woman. Men have always wanted to be found attractive by women. Not all of them have known how, and, like many women, many men want to be allowed to just be themselves and to be found charming without having to dress up too much or pretending to be something they aren't . .but, it's same shite, different gender, all the way.