MasterSlaveLA
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That is pretty much the definition of a mental health issue...
Bullshit. More likely that YOU are the one with "mental health" issues are merely projecting YOUR issues on another. Moreover, you chopped up what the OP stated to fit your premise -- well it doesn't... here's her ENTIRE commentary, paragraphed for easier reivew:
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I meant days where you/me/slave/sub whatever might just be having a rough patch. Not an entire life-crisis or an emotional dark-cloud fueled by depression or grief. Of course I didn't mean that we have no responsibility for our actions and I am not talking about a situation where there is nothing a Master can do to help and still expecting him to "fix it."
Let me give an example and maybe it will be clearer. I'm prone to being tempermental and there are times when stress just hits me over the head and I end up just fuming, frustrated, angry over things that at other times wouldn't even phase me. Master can take 3 min and snap me out of this if he chooses to. Distraction, re-engaging and encouragement are the steps. Pain works excellently for me as a distraction, one pinch in the right place causes me to stop what I am doing, focus on him and listen. Re-engaging is that period of focus. He generally uses it to remind me that I am his and I take my cues from him not from my own, sometimes neurotic, thought process. He is calm. I am calm.
To be a good girl for him involves remembering this. Encouragement is reminding me that whatever I am freaking out about is not actually that bad, I am capable of conquering anything I choose to.
I was simply relating this the other day and was told that it seems unfair and unreasonable for him to have to step in for me when I should be able to deal with my own emotions.
I don't see it this way, I see it as, if he can do that why wouldn't he since it makes everyone's life easier in the end? However, the more I considered it the more I wondered. Do other slaves have this sort of understanding or dynamic? Or does it actually reek of unfair emotional manipulation and I fail to see it because I am the one benefitting from it?
That is NOT "mental illness", and if you think it is, then you have more than a LOT to learn. A bit immature?!! Sure. But as I've seen this sort of thing with many Power Dynamic couples, it more likely stems from a need to feel secure/safe in the relationship -- i.e., she acts out, he comes to her rescue, and she's reassured of his love for her. That is NOT "mental illness", that is... unless you equate those involved in a Power Exchange relationship as being "mentally ill" -- as MANY seek to give such "control" and "guidance" and so forth to their Owner(s). The supposed "fixing" as it were (which it's actually not), is little more than a reassurance of the other person's love/caring for them. Again, a bit immature to many, but it's the type of relationship that works for some... she needs, he needs to be needed -- and both find comfort/purpose in this.
Note that Daddy/little girl and/or Dom/brat dynamics -- much of this sort of thing happens frequently. So again, that's NOT "mental illness"... that is, unless you consider many involved in the Power Exchange Dynamic as being "mentally ill". A sub/slave acts up... their Dom/Master/Mistress comes to their rescue... and all is once again good.
Mind you, not a dynamic that appeals to everyone, but it appears to work for many -- so not "mental illness", but rather (to borrow a phrase), a different kind of loving.
< Message edited by MasterSlaveLA -- 9/6/2011 1:33:47 AM >
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