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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/27/2006 8:21:44 PM

BearNFirelight

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ORIGINAL: MDdesiree

Good Day.

I was wondering, if the subject of : slave's freedom on the Internet, has already been discussed. I made some research for treads, but I could only find subject about Online relationship, but not about the Freedom of a slave on the Internet.

So I am curious, because I find a lot of slaves & sub chatting ( I don't know if this is freely or not ). Are you Masters/Mistresses/Mentors always with Your slave-sub when they chat ? If You live in a seperate houses, do You restrain the Internet-Session that they can have per day ?

I think its a simple matter of trust and control. Varies from Master/Mistress to sub/slave on a case by case basis. If the Dom feels they need to exercise that level of control, then they do and there is no right or wrong about it, just what they choose to do. If they trust their sub/slave, then I don't see a problem with allowing them to be on the Internet.

In some cases, I'm sure directions are given to test the sub/slave as well. ...and just as often the sub/slave is probably testing the Dom to see if they will be controlled or let loose to do as they please. Far to subjective to define in black and white.

I do know there are a fair amount that monitor their submissives communications online simply because their sub/slave may be a bit guilable and there are plenty of wannabes out there that will go out of their way to try and steal a sub/slave away. Insecurities??? Maybe, but again their choice to make as the Dominant.

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/27/2006 10:14:43 PM

LthrdWolf

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ORIGINAL: BearNFirelight

I think its a simple matter of trust and control. Varies from Master/Mistress to sub/slave on a case by case basis. If the Dom feels they need to exercise that level of control, then they do and there is no right or wrong about it, just what they choose to do.

Well put BearNFirelight.

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 3:54:29 AM

Smythe

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ORIGINAL: MasterDaddy123

First, All My slaves live with ME in My Stable.

slaves earn tiem on the net and can only go onto the net with My permission and yes, I am right there next to them. They ask permission to to post or IM..tellling Me what they are going to say first. They can only speak to others with permission. I read ALL thier IMs and emails first before thay do.

I hope they don't rely on you to correct their spelling.
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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 4:04:04 AM

MHOO314

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ORIGINAL: Smythe

I hope they don't rely on you to correct their spelling.
Smythe

Bravo Lady Smythe! Well said!

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 6:38:53 AM

Wildfleurs

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ORIGINAL: MDdesiree

So I am curious, because I find a lot of slaves & sub chatting ( I don't know if this is freely or not ). Are you Masters/Mistresses/Mentors always with Your slave-sub when they chat ? If You live in a seperate houses, do You restrain the Internet-Session that they can have per day ?

I guess my question can also be reverted. There is a lot of Masters/Mistresses/Mentors online...what do You intend to do once You find your slave(s) ? Will You keep on being on the Internet or drop it ? I know that in order to get together, Internet can be usefull ( not 100 % necessary of course ).

Just like any beginings of relationship, You will probably stop chatting for a while, but then the need to get back online comes again for many. How do You cope with that ?

My owner doesn’t really care what I do on the internet. I don’t have an interest in developing relationships with other people, except perhaps local toppy women. But since we are fairly active locally chances are we’d know the person in real life anyways (one or both of us). I know he still chats with people online, and I don’t care much about what he does online either (that’s his business, not mine).

He doesn’t restrain my internet access because while I may pop onto the forums or other things during the day it doesn’t really get in the way of life. He also doesn’t know all my passwords to log in and check my email (he wouldn’t remember all of them anyways), but generally I’m always leaving myself logged into things so if he wanted to read my email, which he’s done for silly fun at times in the past, it would be incredibly easy. And I don’t have anything to hide so I don’t care.

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 6:57:33 AM

RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs
And I don’t have anything to hide so I don’t care.

That for me is the key point. I know that if my girl was feeling insecure about what I maybe doing on the net I'd have no problem in logging in and showing her most of what is in my mail etc. (Aside for a few things which concern other folks privacy) because like yourself I have noting to hide. It is early days yet and we haven't discussed it in depth (Shows how worried I am about it) but I trust in the fact that she would similarly have nothing to hide and therefore have no problem should I require her to show me.

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 5:33:16 PM

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When I first met my Lord before we entered a formal M/s relationship, he encouraged me to ask the same question of many different people (dominant and submissive) to get as many different perspectives as possible (whether online or in person). He then wanted me to take all the information that I learned and come to my own conclusions and formulate an answer that resonated with me. What I discovered along the way was that so often what resonated with me was extremely compatible with his own thoughts and opinions. Even after becoming his, I do this. He doesn't find other people's thoughts, opinions or ideas to be a hindrance to his authority over me.

If I wish to have a private chat or email exchange with someone, I will get his approval and in most cases it is given. I have excellent decision making skills so my Lord has little need or desire to micro-manage who I do or do not talk with; as long as it does not interfer with my availability to him then there is little issue with it.

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RE: Chatting-Slaves - 2/28/2006 5:42:54 PM

kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

And I don’t have anything to hide so I don’t care.

C~

That is true for me as well. One thing I make sure to tell people who wish to have private emails, chats or conversations with me is that there are no secrets from my Lord or alandra. The three of us do not hide anything from each other. It is our desire to share ourselves completely with each other and to be as involved with each other's lives as possible. Things may not be shared just because it does not enter our minds to share it, but if you tell one of us something it will most likely be shared with the other two.

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