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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 5:01:42 AM

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If you can't laugh at yourself, you are taking yourself...waaaaay toooooo seriously.

fastlane drops trow and begins to laugh at himself....

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 5:07:27 AM

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I always enjoy some humor in my playtime. I either get a good sadistic laugh by dropping cold water on his back and hearing him squeal, or I say something funny and he chuckles. Its all good and we enjoy it.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 5:42:28 AM

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Humor is essential to connecting with the sub. I'll say this as poliltely as possible, but what sub doesn't like it when His Domme is giggling her butt off as he's orally pleasing Her, and she's jumping all over the bed due to his expert linguistic skills.

I've laughed a few times when I shouldn't like when I put icey hot on My sub's testicles..was just a drop and he safeworded out in about 10 seconds. Thank goodness I had a soapy cloth right there. This is a sub who in over a year never safeworded until then, as he had an extremely high pain tolerance. I felt bad because it must've been intense for him to safeword, but it was so gratifying to finally know something I did to him finally got through.
Once when I had his c & bs all clothes pinned up and flicked them off with My flogger, omg he just flinched and looked like Homer Simpson when he goes "doh". The expression was priceless and I was laughing My arse off and feeling sorry for him too.
If a couple can't laugh together than they shouldn't be together. Just My thoughts.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 6:03:16 AM

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What's life without laughter? Certainly there's a time and place for everything but a good sense of humor is a necessity for me. I've sung the scarecrow's song from the Wizard of Oz while a spreader pole was being tied across my shoulders, down my arm and to my wrists. Then, when asked which tit was to get it first I pointed in opposite directions and said "that one!" We both got the giggles till he landed the first stripe.

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If a couple can't laugh together than they shouldn't be together.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 6:08:08 AM

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Humor is a huge part of my personality. I usually laugh even on my worst days. However where it applies to a Ds relationship, humor is a completely different animal. As far as humor in bed, which I think was the topic of this thread, I find it a bit difficult to be jestful while serving in a sexual or physical manner. I get carried off to an emotional place where humor is not something that would even appeal to me. However, out of the bedroom, I find it absolutely delicious to walk that line with a Dominant, where you have to read his tone to know when its ok to joke and when it's not. I love following that lead and watching my Ps and Qs and learning when I can get away with ball-busting and when I better keep my mouth shut. Yummy. : )

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 6:45:30 AM

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If my local partner and I went an hour without laughing together, it would probably mean that someone had died.

The only time it can be annoying is when we're having sex- the muscles clenching aren't always the best. And yes, that's happened more than a few times.

We actually make it PART of our play- making eachother laugh. It's very awesome. And we get to make fun of the ones who think we're not "real" because we're not "serious."

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 6:50:15 AM

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I probably spend the larger portion of my life laughing. I love to have fun. Many times we've had scenes that were initially meant to be serious stopped dead in their tracks and turned in a completely different direction by fits of uncontrollable laughter....sometimes I think that those are the best

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:01:39 AM

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Sir has a really odd sense a humour, which luckily I share, so he'll tie me up, and then somethiung amusing will occur to him, and I'll have been crying from pain but he'll make me giggle afterwards. Last time we played I was due 12 strokes with the cane for punishment. So I have to count them, then thank him for each one, when I have recieved the 12th I should ask him for one more which he may or may not give me. The 12th hurt so so much, with one breath "12 Sir thankyou Sir please may I have one more Sir please don't Sir!" He just burst out laughing and collapsed on the bed (thankfully I didn't get the 13th!)

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:02:19 AM

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G'morning all:

Humor/laughter is food for the soul. No wonder it's so refreshing in a scene. It's a pressure valve. It's cathartic. It's wonderfully invigorating.

Case in point. During a scene at Paddles here in NYC, I was tracing the edge of a paddle along my boy's spine, verbally building up how evil it was, how much pain it would cause him, etc. His response; "Oh god, it's round." I have a poly carbonate paddle in the shape of an over sized hairbrush. He thought that's what it was. When the paddle came screaming down on his naked cheeks with a resounding thump heard throughout the club instead of the dull but hideously painfully smack he expected, we both cracked up. I proceeded to thwack him about a dozen times with this paddle. It's made of a acrylic reinforced foam, patterned with steel plate embossing. It's like being beaten with a Nerf. It just makes the most delicious mind fuck. We were both laughing so hard, we were nearly in tears. I had to lean on him (while he's tied to a metal frame) for several moments to regain my composure. I leaned around front to kiss him. He adored it. Oh, he didn't exactly adore the poly paddle shortly after. *chuckling* As to name calling, he just wiggles and gets all excited. He likes verbal humiliation in that context.

There have been times I've played with others in the past at this club. I always weave something humorous in. It relaxes the subject. Many is the time that I've been complimented on this technique. Too many people are too serious when they play. If it's not fun, why are you doing it? This outlook extends over to the vanilla portions of our lives. We're always giggling, joking, laughing. We're some of the happiest people I know. That makes us some of the luckiest people in the world. My boy never fails to put a smile on my face. I wouldn't trade that for the world.

p.s. - It may be rude to giggle or chuckle in bed, but that's never stopped us.

Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:24:19 AM

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i love humor and would not stay with a humorless Master. Life is way to short to be sad and i might add that the lifestyle is the joy of my life. this does not mean that laughter is appropriate all the time and i would hope a Master and his sub/slave would no the right times to enjoy it.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:28:19 AM

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Laughter makes the impossible seem possible, and it has been shown in studies to help your health. I really couldn't stay with anyone who didn't have a good sense of humor.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:45:47 AM

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Laughing during sex/play is a way of life for us ... and we make sure that anyone we've talked to long enough that they might get to play with us knows it (some people are sensitive ... guys tend to be moreso than women LOL). If we don't start giggling during playtime, then something has gone wrong (like when Holly whapped me in the nose with her elbow).

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 7:50:35 AM

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I have always loved to laugh anywhere. It has always troubled me if a dom is too serious when he is courting me. I used to talk to a dom that would ask me why I laughed when we talked, and I just laugh all the time,.. it was very unnerving and that courtship did not go that far.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 8:50:11 AM

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A compatible sense of humor is essential to me - I start teasing and making fun in the first emails. If he can't take it then, I figure he can't take it later!

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 9:15:50 AM

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A day without a smile is a wasted day...I love to laugh and use humor whenever possible and practical (or not so practical) I do smile and laugh when they cry sometimes I just cannot help Myself....I laugh when toy tells Me to burn the paddle and that we really dont need that lexicon cane do we?....I tease him that I am going to whore him out to the lowest bidder alot and his reply is to make it up in volume...There has never been a time where I have been with My toy that I have not had the giggles. he is such a sam and it makes Me laugh (within reason he is respectful and knows the limit usually) Even when I was sick and had pneumonia he made me laugh I was barely able to breath and said how I wish he was here using the vibe on Me and he said dont be lazy get up and use it Yourself...(he followed that with i know i am going to catch hell for that smiles) When I stopped laughing (and using My inhaler so I could catch My breath) I replied to him, think nuclear explosion pet...W/we both laughed I knew he was trying to make me feel better when he couldnt be here when I was so sick.(he had to work and lives quite a ways from Me) and My whole day brightens hearing his corny jokes in or out of bed in or out of the dungeon...always laughing ...if he reads this thank you lil toy you brighten My day and that serves Me very well (=^.~=)

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 9:57:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Reflectivesoul

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Even I would laugh if I called her a "strumpet." Isn't that something you serve with tea?

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ORIGINAL: ElectraGlide

I would come up with these names to catch her off guard like I would call her a strumpet or a jezzabel and she would start cracking up laughing for a moment even while she was tied up getting a good ass spanking. How do Doms feel about this, would it make them mad if that happened to them like their sub was not taking them serious.

strum·pet ( P ) Pronunciation Key (strmpt)
n.

A woman prostitute.

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 10:04:30 AM

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laughter is good, most often i end up laughing at myself but hey He laughs too so its all good

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 10:11:23 AM

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Hello All,
I think laughter is a wonderfully strong thing when shared. Peopl eshould laugh more often in my opinion.
I find I'm getting myself in trouble often when I play over laughter though. For some unknown reason when I'm dealing with extreme sensations for some reason I laugh. This gets misconstrued and my friends thinking they are not playing hard enough and turn up the volume even more like it's a challenge.
I have met people who feel laughter does not belong in a bedroom or in a scene other than a tickeling one, but I think it's a wonderful thing to have involved.
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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 11:39:32 AM

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I LOVE to laugh. I'm a bit (just a wee bit) of a smart ass, so I couldn't possibly deal with someone who can't take a bit of humor at their own expense from time to time. As far as humor in bed, I can't think of a better place for it. (cuz then if you fall over laughing you don't get hurt)

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RE: Humor in the bed.. Question for Doms and Subs.. - 5/22/2006 11:49:51 AM

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I believe laughter is good for the soul. I couldn’t BE with someone who didn’t have a sense of humor. Once, in a particularly playful mood with a couple I know, I asked if I was being SAMmy. I really like these two, and just wanted to check in that they understood I was playing and NOT laughing AT them.
Their response was that I am always respectful and more funny than smart-alecky. I am lucky to have such playful, Dominant friends…who enjoy having as much fun as I do. I wouldn't want it any other way...

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