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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 11:13:05 AM

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People lie in order to get laid. That's life. It's not new and it's not restricted to people on a bdsm site. Try OKCupid, Match and all those other dating sites and you'll find it full of marrieds hoping for an NSA fuck.

My experience is that the married cheaters on CM are more upfront about it than those on OKC. But yes, they are everywhere.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 11:14:07 AM

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iof course you do, Chrissy..ya missed ME dintcha??? LOL

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 11:14:48 AM

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*purrrrrs and smewchies ya back (in a non-monkey way, of course)*

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 11:16:49 AM

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I totally confess that I was dating someone for four months last year who said he was separated only to find out later that his version of separated was sharing the same home AND sharing the bed. This was someone whom I had visited at work, had his home phone number and could call whenever I wanted and had been to his home (I obviously need to learn to open cupboards and drawers to find the hidden photos) I have an even more mortifying admission but will leave that one to the I admit thread

C'mon, don't make us stalk you to learn that mortifying admission!

Hey, he did pass the dead giveaways in the "Is he lying to me about being married" tests:

1. You could call him anytime
2. You'd been to his home

Just curious - were you in his bedroom and bathroom and were there tell-tale signs there?

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:04:06 PM

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I only learned when I was nine, when I was lured by what seemed like an innocent lie away from a group of people in order to be molested.

Awwww.... Did this help to get you the sympathy vote, OP? Shall we treat you with kid gloves for fifty years or more?

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:05:21 PM

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god, I just love you :)

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:06:10 PM

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As I love you.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:15:27 PM

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LadyPact's words may seem sharp to many, but as someone that has worked in this area as well as I have, there are times when you must look a victim in the eye and ask them how long they are going to use their victimization as a coping tool. You can be victimized without becoming a life victim and if you are a lifelong victim, I must ask... who is victimizing you? The one that victimized you is gone... it is over... you can find counsel and heal... but if you are still a victim... you are doing it to yourself and will never be stable and happy until you stop holding on to your victimization. Even those that have been abused at young ages and for long periods can come through a true survivor. Not just someone that gets through it and still has an open wound, but someone that can heal, move on, have healthy relationships, no denial and no excuses. Even flashbacks can become a thing of the past.

There were times when I had to bring on the tears with some of the ladies. I had to point out some truth that hurt them and it broke my heart to do it, but I knew it had to be done. I knew it to be correct by the results.

Anyone who has been abused at any age... knows of lies and deceit. To be ignorant of it after that is denial. Then I would suggest... stop looking for a knight in armour or a relationship and get yourself to a good counselor.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:29:09 PM

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well, someone that was a stay at home mom for a couple of decades, yeah, thats a form or solitary confinement...

My Great Grandma was a stay-at-home housewife ever since she was 16. She knew people lie to get sex.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:31:42 PM

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I was a mom and a stay at home wife since I was 18. I still knew people lie.

Using that as an excuse is just lame.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 12:59:00 PM

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I'm all for the less try to be less snarky to newer posters idea. And I really am trying to do that.

Really??? Snarky Like any adult needs to be reminded that yes it's a sad state of affairs that "ppl do in fact LIE". It offends my senses that grand motherly type feels the need to remind of us of that fact like im some fucking 2 year old. My response would be the same to someone I just met or have known for a number of years.

If your ego got bruised get over it cuz I really dont care

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 1:01:27 PM

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All you have to do is to walk into my house and you'll say; "Man, this guy is fucking Single!"

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 1:07:25 PM

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Believe it or not, some people hide their married status by claiming to be "single" in their profile, in order to attract others. However, they are only separated from their spouce (to whom they continue to be married, for years). Have had some first hand experience with that situation. Now, i specifically ask up front if they are married. It may not mean anything to you, which is just fine...

GOD FUCKING DAMNIT!!!! THAT'S TERRIBLE... What kind of people would go on a site like CM and claim to be single when they are actually married... It's like they are sadists or something!
Thanks for the heads up.
And look on the bright side. Least we can still trust em when they say they're not overweight.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 1:10:33 PM

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My Great Grandma was a stay-at-home housewife ever since she was 16. She knew people lie to get sex.

Heather Darlin, if grandma looked even a little like her descendants, rest assured, she knew all about sex and all the things guys'll do to get it. Either that or Canada was wicked late coming out of the ice age

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 2:03:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

LadyPact's words may seem sharp to many, but as someone that has worked in this area as well as I have, there are times when you must look a victim in the eye and ask them how long they are going to use their victimization as a coping tool. You can be victimized without becoming a life victim and if you are a lifelong victim, I must ask... who is victimizing you? The one that victimized you is gone... it is over... you can find counsel and heal... but if you are still a victim... you are doing it to yourself and will never be stable and happy until you stop holding on to your victimization. Even those that have been abused at young ages and for long periods can come through a true survivor. Not just someone that gets through it and still has an open wound, but someone that can heal, move on, have healthy relationships, no denial and no excuses. Even flashbacks can become a thing of the past.

There were times when I had to bring on the tears with some of the ladies. I had to point out some truth that hurt them and it broke my heart to do it, but I knew it had to be done. I knew it to be correct by the results.

Anyone who has been abused at any age... knows of lies and deceit. To be ignorant of it after that is denial. Then I would suggest... stop looking for a knight in armour or a relationship and get yourself to a good counselor.

This but more than this, gorgeoushair, it appeared to me that you were using that abuse to gain sympathy which is disgusting

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 2:17:14 PM

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 2:30:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

LadyPact's words may seem sharp to many, but as someone that has worked in this area as well as I have, there are times when you must look a victim in the eye and ask them how long they are going to use their victimization as a coping tool. You can be victimized without becoming a life victim and if you are a lifelong victim, I must ask... who is victimizing you? The one that victimized you is gone... it is over... you can find counsel and heal... but if you are still a victim... you are doing it to yourself and will never be stable and happy until you stop holding on to your victimization. Even those that have been abused at young ages and for long periods can come through a true survivor. Not just someone that gets through it and still has an open wound, but someone that can heal, move on, have healthy relationships, no denial and no excuses. Even flashbacks can become a thing of the past.

There were times when I had to bring on the tears with some of the ladies. I had to point out some truth that hurt them and it broke my heart to do it, but I knew it had to be done. I knew it to be correct by the results.

Anyone who has been abused at any age... knows of lies and deceit. To be ignorant of it after that is denial. Then I would suggest... stop looking for a knight in armour or a relationship and get yourself to a good counselor.

This but more than this, gorgeoushair, it appeared to me that you were using that abuse to gain sympathy which is disgusting

Thank you, Zeph.

It appears I don't have to write my own posts this afternoon, I can just follow you around the boards.

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 2:35:48 PM

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Lazy bitch. I assume there will come a time when you will return the favor, yes?

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 4:30:33 PM

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All you have to do is to walk into my house and you'll say; "Man, this guy is fucking Single!"

lol That doesnt in any way mean that you dont have a longterm girlfriend (not living with you) that you want to cheat on.. I am not interested in those kinda guys either.. Now ya all smarter types tell me how you would find that out..

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RE: Watchout for the term "Single" - 9/16/2011 4:37:48 PM

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Smarter types?

Nice...

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