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Winterapple -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 6:22:33 PM)
I think the OP was using a extreme example to suss out female perceptions of masculinity. Could a woman see a man who had been used like a woman by another man as a man? The rape example could bring up images of helplessness, of if he can't take care of himself how is he going to take care of me? Then unwillingly or not there is the image of him being used sexually by another man. I don't think he was looking necessarily for nasty sides as much as iirrational and involuntarily responses. That he was asking a section of women specifically who might have or some portion of them have rigid perceptions of masculinity is not that off the wall.

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 6:24:04 PM)
Winterapple to the rescue again. You're hired.

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 6:44:03 PM)
To respond to the accusation that I'm just looking for validation of my perception of female nature: Unless I'm just some kind of anomalous man, and am projecting my own fears onto the rest of men, I think it's safe to say most any man would be terrified that women would think less of him if they knew he had been raped. One of the rape victims in the video, who was interviewed anonymously, said he would probably never tell his girlfriend out of fear she might leave him. The question is, Is that a legitimate fear? And if so, why? I don't think it's necessary to be a rape victim to understand his position. It's only necessary to be a man with the usual male ego, the usual male fears. Edited for grammar.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 7:42:32 PM)
quote: Winterapple to the rescue again. You're hired. Don't let it go to your head, she really doesn't think that, she just wants to fuck you.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 7:44:41 PM)
quote: Is that a legitimate fear? And if so, why? Which has been repeatedly answered in the negative, yet you keep asking it. And that is what leads some of us to believe you are seeking validation for your own perception.

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 8:48:32 PM)
quote: Out quote: ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather quote: Winterapple to the rescue again. You're hired. Don't let it go to your head, she really doesn't think that, she just wants to fuck you. And she doesn't even yet know that I'm 6'6" with rock-hard shoulders and triceps. This can only get better. Oh, and I promise not to let it go to my head.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 9:00:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer What do you think he was looking for, then? Ah, god, Zeph, I generally hate amateur shrinks. In my early twenties I cracked up good and proper and saw a professional therapist for four years. During that time, by coincidence, I met so many tedious little twats who fancied themselves as amateur shrinks. Vain, narcissistic and profoundly screwed up little tits, every one of them. Windbags who'd learned that cod-psychoanalysing others was a fine way of forgetting about their own neuroses while at the same time beefing up their own self-images . . . . However, I'm sure that the OP isn't like this, which is why he'll no doubt be returning to comment any time now. Hey, hey, I may be vain, narcissistic, and screwed-up but I'm certainly not... uh... what was the last thing you said in that tirade?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 9:06:15 PM)
Hey NGN, how about we put this question to a survey?

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 9:49:23 PM)
Suits me.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 9:52:58 PM)
OK, exactly what question do you want asked? It has to be askable without a lot of preamble, and can't be specifically oriented to BDSM, because we'll be asking the general student population with no way of knowing their kink status.

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 9:59:12 PM)
"If you were to learn that a man you were interested in sexually had been the victim of a male-on-male rape in his adult life, would that diminish your interest in him to any degree?" How's that?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/20/2011 10:18:20 PM)
Sounds good. We'll have some data in a few days.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 4:04:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceGuyNihilist "If you were to learn that a man you were interested in sexually had been the victim of a male-on-male rape in his adult life, would that diminish your interest in him to any degree?" How's that? NGN, I suggested to Heather that the question be changed to eliminate the word victim because it has certain connotations and will probably skew the responses. How do you feel about changing it to something like "subjected to male-on-male rape" instead?

NiceGuyNihilist -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 11:03:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth quote: ORIGINAL: NiceGuyNihilist "If you were to learn that a man you were interested in sexually had been the victim of a male-on-male rape in his adult life, would that diminish your interest in him to any degree?" How's that? NGN, I suggested to Heather that the question be changed to eliminate the word victim because it has certain connotations and will probably skew the responses. How do you feel about changing it to something like "subjected to male-on-male rape" instead? "Subjected" has the same sort of connotations, but I agree that it's a little more neutral. Let's go with that. After I'd shut off the computer last night, it occurred to me that I'd like a question to be asked of the men: "If you had been subjected to male-on-male rape at some time in your adult life, would you be at all inclined to withhold that knowledge from women on the grounds that they might find you less desirable?" I welcome any recommendations for amendments to that one, too. Also, if anyone would like to start a poll regarding NGN's possible status as a nosy jackass, I give my full consent. Not that anything will change.

SuzeCheri -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 11:14:16 AM)
OK, the change has been noted, we will be gone a few hours, we have some....things, yeah, things. We have some "things" to take care of. When we get back we will check for the final wordings and will amend our other thread and notify our German interviewer as well.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 1:40:20 PM)
The words male-on-male in both questions could be eliminated making it the more neutral rape. After all rape is rape whether by a man or a woman with a strapon right? Besides the first is more common anyway.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 2:20:00 PM)
And perhaps change "subjected to" to the even more neutral "experienced".

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 3:15:45 PM)
and putting simply rape is even more neutral

Winterapple -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 4:23:01 PM)
Would or could a woman still love and desire a man who has experienced something that shook his self confidence and made him feel less than a man is probably more to the point. And can the question be asked without people feeling their integrity is being impugned by the question itself?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/21/2011 6:31:00 PM)
Oh dear Lord, who cares? It's a dumb little survey where 4 hot flirtatious girls are asking a bunch of people an awkward somewhat embarrassing sex-related question. It's not scientific, it's mostly just fun! I mean look at what our last poll told us, that was an interesting result now wasn't it? It's NGN's survey, we're going with his questions. He's the client, so to speak.

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