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ToGiveDivine -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/27/2006 2:01:05 PM)
Another cookie-cutter utopia - look, we're all different and that's the way it's supposed to be. Trust me, if BlkTallFullfig looked like me, there'd be a lot less interest in her (Sorry, BlkTallFullfig, but looking like a middle aged white guy just ain't your thing :-D) Some men are totally enthralled with BBWs and BBBWs - as far as I'm concerned, it's what's inside that trips my trigger; if they've got sexy curves to go with it, then it's a bonus for me. You know your fine just the way you are; don't let anyone tell you different

slaverose442 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/27/2006 2:56:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aine I can't believe people are still responding to this one... me either rose442

JerseyKrissi72 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/27/2006 2:57:53 PM)
[:)]true beauty comes from within.

suraya -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/29/2006 6:04:05 AM)
ok, i don't come to the forums often so i am way late in replying to this topic, but as a "fat person" i am the one who is shocked. i personally am very offended by this whole thing, and i really want to say how dare you judge me for how i look or why i am this way. seems like you are the one with this issue, not the other "fat people" you have encountered. no, i am not truly happy with my weight, but i will be damned if i am with a man who hates fat people, that to me is bullshit. my Dom loves me for me, and He supports me if i wish to lose weight or not. maybe there are many people in the lifestyle who are overweight, but so what, who really cares? why would you be focusing so much on the other peoples looks? i know when i start critizing people its because i do not want to look at myself. but thats just me. i have dealt too long with judgemental people, both here and in my personal life, i chose to surround myself with people who accept me for me, fat ot otherwise. if my Sir started saying He hated fat people, i would be out of there so fast. i agree with many here, if you are with someone who things they can change you into what THEY want, honey, you are in for a heartbreak. i did that in the past, did everything this jerk wanted me to do, i wound up in the hospital with kidney failure because i was not permitted to pee when i needed to. He wanted to change me into some mindless machine, umm, sorry not me. of course you will do as you please, which is fine, to each there own, but geezus, ease up on those who are fat and happy. don't let what others look like bother you so much...this is just my opinion, take it for what its worth and i am sure i will get blasted for some of what i said, oh well.

zenfull2 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 4:40:16 AM)
I wont lie.. I weigh 190.. I hold my weight well, I am thick, curvey and plenty to love. I dont consider myself fat, in fact on the little heigth weight ratio I am just bordering overweight/fat.. I am overweight.. and personally, I LOVE IT. And I want a man with meat too, I want strong arms, large body, something I can CUDDLE with! Ooo be held by.. and much much more. There are different body types and different desires and plenty of everything to go around.

zenfull2 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 5:01:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom One day I dream of creating the S&M group for people who hate S&M groups. Goodness gracious I want to join that group!

SirLordTrainer -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 6:05:43 AM)
Ehh.. good question.. personally Im uncertain as to why there are so many and while I judge a person inwardly rather than outward appearance I feel its a health issue if a sub/slave is obese or a tubbie subbie as I endearingly refer to them as. Although I will say a big ass does make a better target! teasing! lol

velvetears -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 8:36:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rose442 Master and I have worked out a routine for this girl to lose this weight because of my self esteem and health issues. Well and because Master hates fat ppl. i don't think you have a serious inquiry at all. i think it disturbs you that some men, including your master, don't like fat people and you are trying to "get a rise" out of the people here on CM. i personally can't understand for the life of me why anyone would be with somone who they were told had a quality that persone hated. i feel sorry for you.

Amaros -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 10:19:02 AM)
My one caveat about taking on an extra large sub, would be practical: I have kind of a small place, and no plans to move anytime soon - the size makes it easy to maintain, but I've had to carefully choose the furniture to maximimise utility, and even custom build a lot of it - I would have to practically re-engineer the whole place to accomodate anyone substantially larger than myself. Sounds silly maybe, but there ya go.

Amaros -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 10:31:53 AM)
Fortunately, I just replaced the bathroom floor, subfloor, etc., which was about to cave in, over the summer.

tade -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 10:32:48 AM)
Personally I like bigger women, always have. Anytime I am with a skinny woman I always get the same feeling that I get with a laptop keyboard, feels like I'm going to break it soon.

patina -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 8:06:49 PM)
ORIGINAL: perverseangelic ] I'm overweight. This is partially due to the medication that I take that causes weight gain, and partially due to the fact that I'm more sedintary than I should be. I have weight issues, sure. I plan on loosing weight. [quote In fact I have lost 100 lbs I just have not had new pic made of myself. 30 yrs ago before 20 yrs of birth controll pills and 2 kids I weighed 115lbs after 21 yrs of marriage and 2 yrs of a nasty divorce then 5 yrs of stress of having no money I got ripped off in the court system and my ex back owes me a lot and the medication I have to take now 6 of them say will make you gain weight. I gained weight up to 249 lbs Through the help of the new Hoodia patch I have been able to lose a lot of weight. I would like to lose more but my Daddy says no he like big girls and so I will stop. [:)] ] Having said all that, my Owner thinks I'm beautiful, and it's helping me learn to think of myself that way. I come from an emotionally abusive family that insisted I was hugely fat for my entire childhood. It's been amazing for me to be with someone who loves my body just as it is, and doesn't pressure me to be anything other than who I am. I'm -glad- he appreciates my body, because it's helping me to appreciate it.[quote I too am glad to find someone who appreciates me for me not the size I am as what will happen if or when i gain more weight. I do not have to worry about that now, My brothers and father took great pleasure in telling me I was so fat and ugly that no man would ever look at me to the point my son started saying it to me. He denies now he ever did. ] I think that while loosing weight is wonderful, it's much much more important to learn to love yourself no matter what body you're wearing. While loosing weight would probably make me feel even better about myself, I'm much happier knowing that I love my body becuase it's -my- body. I think that it's good to love -yourself- and to be sexy because you are a sexy individual. [quote I have come to finnaly appreciate myself for who I am and for what I am worth. I am of value and what ever man gets me is lucky. [:-] Take this with a grain of salt. I'm...senstive about this stuff. I'm working on it. quote: Damn right I'm sensitive, not that I blame any one person, I blame society as a whole. If the companies didn't put so much junk into the food so that we got hooked on sugar as kids then we wouldn't be eating so much of it. If they would make more nutretional foods we would do better, If the almighty $$$ wasn't so important it might be better for everyone. ok I'm sorry I'm rambling. thank goodness it takes all kinds to make this world go around. IcyHot baby girl Patina somehow I got this box thing up can't get it off

truesub4u -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (9/30/2006 11:15:26 PM)
Damn I leave for a day or more and someones digging up dead horses...LOL

Frank01 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/1/2006 12:12:55 AM)
People get rejected as partners for a LOT more reasons than JUST being fat-get over it.

forevershal -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/11/2006 8:30:10 PM)
As i read this, i hae to whip away a tear, for lover of self and beauty is what matters. Not weight, lack of it or more of it. If you as a person, love and respect yourself, then that is what matters. At one time in my life i weighed 250 pounds i lost over 100 of that, and i was a size 10 but still weighted 145 pounds. I am 5 '5 and i am 55 years old. I love myself, and i lost weight for me. It was for me, and i am very proud of what i am now but i was also proud of what i was then. I was in a poly home and i was the smallest there, but that had nothing to do with lifestyle that had to do with Masters desries. You say that your Master hates fat ppl, so what else does he hate. For this lifestyle, acceptance in all is part of it. Being fat, skinny, ugly or beautiful, pain slut, or not, you are you and you are a reflection of your Master so if he hates Hummm maybe that is why you hate?

Nigousan -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/11/2006 9:31:56 PM)
I'm only overweight because I've had problems with weight gain with my first born, and then water weight gain from being on the pill shortly afterward. I also had problems with my reproductive organs, and before I could even fix that, I got pregnant with a 2nd. Had a miscarriage, and am slowly losing weight (6 pounds in the past month WOOHOO. It's something.) Why worry about all the other people on the site or in the lifestyle? You should worry more about yourself and your Master. I'm not happy with my size, because I know I can fix it. But I'm happy being a thick girl. Big bust, Big butt, nice hips, and soft skin. I love it. I just wish to be a bit smaller in the face/stomach/thighs...like I used to be. It shouldn't be our weight that matters most (unless you're just 100% unhealthy, and it becomes dangerous...like anorexic/bulemic or severe/morbid obesity)...it should be who we are on the inside. Some people just look really unhealthy - thin or fat -. Just look at yourself long and hard in the mirror...and really wonder why you're losing that weight in the first place. Yourself because YOU think it's right... Or your Master...who sounds like he just wants to mold you into that "perfect model"? Even though you're submissive, you're allowed to be a little selfish. Do it for yourself and your health, first and foremost. And then tone it up if you want it for your Master. But never ever do things, that deal with your body, just because someone told you to.

Kedicat -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/11/2006 10:45:27 PM)
This whole thing is BS. Size matters to some, be it body, dick, tits. Size and health matters to some in the activities they like to share. Age matters for similar reasons. Sure we can all be wonderful people on the inside, or assholes too. But the physical matters in many ways. If I can find almost zero physical erotic attraction to someone on the physical level, and am seeking a physical erotic relationship, SIZE etc MATTERS!! Get over it!! If I am looking for a good friend it leaves more options open. But then can they go climbing or skiing with me? And other physical activities? I am in reasonably good health and active. I have a certain range of what is erotic to me. A person who is looking for an all round relationship has to consider their limitations and the possible partners limitations in many facets. Weight is one of them. Why get pissed off about it!! If you are straight, are you a narrow minded asshole for not considering an erotic relationship with someone of the same sex? Crap! I hear vanillas cut down in here. Many would never consider a vanilla as a mate! Guess they are all disgusting people on the inside. People have isues with my age, my thinness, my hair color. Fine, move on and good luck.

songofeire -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/11/2006 11:16:52 PM)
Why do some people on this list obsess about what other people (most of whom they do not know and will never meet) do and/or look like? Is it that they so need to conform that they must check on what everyone else is doing, to be sure they are doing it "right"? And then they move from there to being self-elected sheriffs making sure everyone else is conforming to what they perceive to be the "rules". What is it so hard to understand that there are no rules except those between the people involved in a given activity, and that the words used are defined by their users, not by onlookers? And as for size...why would anyone concern themselves with what other people look like? Maybe they want to belong to a club where only the beautiful people congregate, and the sight and thought of fat people makes them worry that they may have joined the wrong one and might be identified with these untouchables as a result. It seems to insult and enrage them to see fat people being treated as if they have a right to sexuality and a positive self-image. Thank heavens, most people on this list, and most of those whom I have met in ten years of active participation in bdsm, can see what is on the inside of people rather than judging the outside. As you know, we are all outside the norm here simply by being kinky, and our lives and choices would not be accepted by most "normal" folks, whether we are outwardly beautiful or not. We congregate, therefore, in dungeons and groups of kinky friends in the real world, and in forums such as this on the internet, to be able to speak with others who are like minded...perhaps not in the details, but certainly in our choice to be different. If we can't be non-conformists here...if some people on this list want us to conform to THEIR rules as a substitute for society's...then there really is no place for us to hang out safely, at all. MarinMasoMama

popeye1250 -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/12/2006 3:59:03 AM)
I just wish more slender/ petite women would join this site for those of us who prefer that type.

zumala -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (10/12/2006 6:57:55 AM)
Wow... when they dubbed this 'The thread that never dies", they weren't kidding! zuma

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