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ORIGINAL: BluMac

Kind of noticed an anomaly here on collarme.com, I see that the majority of dom women have these statements in their profiles like "FEMALES ONLY - Contact me, read it again, Contact me - FEMALES ONLY"..........

Do female doms receive more pleasure when they're with female subs than with men? What's going on?

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ORIGINAL: BluMac

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Guys are a dime a dozen and girls are fun...

Reading this thread really depresses me, it's one thing to humbly sacrifice your ego and pride which can be considered honorable, but it's another thing to sacrifice your innate diginity as men. Yes I know this is a BDSM forum and yes I know this is the "Ask a Mistress" section but really, it's like you men have been brainwashed into being ashamed of your gender, and feeling inferior to females 24/7. Obviously I don't belong here, and this thread has convinced me to leave the BDSM scene, cause this just sickens me, how you men are making jokes about how worthless (dime a dozen) and repulsive males are, and what's worse is the women here not even stepping in to point out the good things about guys, like that HeatherMcLeather person, posting an ridiculously ugly picture of a man and a sexy picture of a woman, I could do the same by getting a picture of some fat toothless trailer park woman next to a shirtless Antonia Benderes. And yea, I know all of this is said in a jokingly manner, but remember, "A lot of truth is said in jest", and I think you people have taken femdom BDSM to such an extreme level where it is seriously detrimental to your mental health, and you women sit by and let it happen. BDSM should just be kinky sex play, just for the bedroom or fetish clubs, not 24/7, that's when it becomes as demented as pedofilia or rape, it becomes this unholy nasty thing. Just take a look at the female submissives and see if there is a common 'shame' in being female and complete sacrifice of all dignity there, is there? I don't think so, especially on the former.

I know you guys are gonna flame me for this, and get into that "in-crowd" mentality in which you do not think for yourself and say the same things everybody else says because it's "popular" or "safe", and I know you're gonna go on about how you're just kidding and how I shouldn't take myself so seriously and how I can't take a joke, blah blah blah, but that's not the case, I assure you, I'm often very silly, but when things get serious, I get serious, I have a BA in psychology and though that doesn't make me a psychologist, nor a know-it-all on the subject, I can tell you that there are some seriously fucked up psyches going on around here, and I don't want to be a part of it. I'm a fetishist for life, but never a wretched pathetic submissive or slave like you guys.

I've said my peace, now, I'm outtie!

PS- Mad props go to Back2theFuture for actually using his head and pointing out one of the problems; it's true, there are a whole lot of idiot men out there who bring men's reputation down terribly, but at the same time, you have to be an idiot yourself if you don't know that every individual person on this earth is different and unique, and grouping people into a stereotype is both inaccurate and ignorant. Anyway, much respect to Back2theFuture! Keep on speakin the truth!

BlueMac, I am not going to flame you. You know where you fit into the scheme of things and prefer to keep this as bedroom only kink. Good for you. That "I'm a wreched pathetic submissive/slave" thing doesn't float everyone's boat, but I cannot disrespect this as a kink. If saying this and feeling in that headspace gets someone's dick hard (or pussy wet)...ah...who cares. To each his own.

My sub isn't like the lowly worm thing, and neither am I. However, I do wear the pants in the family and he is like my old fashioned wife.

This is not how I planned my kink to happen; it was surprisingly erotic to be the leader...and receiving small services that most vanilla men take for granted as quite normal and not at all kinky, like wifey bringing him coffee or seeing to it that my "tie" (bra, lol" is washed. He enjoys serving because it makes him feel peaceful inside, and sometimes blissful; it's HIS kink, and the need to serve (not to be confused with debasing himself) is what makes him a submissive. Kinky play like bondage and sadomasochism is just icing on the cake. He is VALUABLE to me, and knows his worth...he is one of the few subs at this site (and I am referring to the entire site including the mailroom and folks we meet in chatrooms, not ones who tend to gather in the message boards) who are not married or otherwise sexually involved with someone, are just here for wank fodder, cybering, phone sex, a quick kinky one night stand, or otherwise looking for some kinky woman to make him her own dirty little secret.

Some people have kinks that you do not have...like groveling and humiliation. Each of us can come to this site and choose what we want to make use of and decide for ourselves what we need to ignore. Do you know how to use the Hide feature for people whose posts you do not want to read? Look under your own post, on the lower left hand side and you will see Hide, Profile, and PM. Find someone whose posts you want to have hidden from your view and click Hide. Problem solved. Yes, I do have several posters on Hide. It makes my experience in the forums more enjoyable.

There are lots of people who like bedroom only play and do not want to get too serious about ownership. Find them without taking shots at others who are wired differently than you are.

Btw, because the name of this site is CollarMe...I assumed that the forums area would attract more people who are into the D/s aspect of BDSM. I do not walk into a Catholic church and expect to see Mormons sitting in the pews.

Try not to take another's preferences personally. I am sorry that you haven't enjoyed the overall tone of the message boards...it is not CM's fault if some people talk a lot...while others are here for five years and have only made six posts. I am trying to make a point, not take a shot.

BE the change you want to see.

Good luck with your search.

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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

[]My sub isn't like the lowly worm thing, and neither am I.

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ORIGINAL: BluMac
Obviously I don't belong here, and this thread has convinced me to leave the BDSM scene, cause this just sickens me, how you men are making jokes about how worthless (dime a dozen) and repulsive males are, and what's worse is the women here not even stepping in to point out the good things about guys, like that HeatherMcLeather person, posting an ridiculously ugly picture of a man and a sexy picture of a woman, I could do the same by getting a picture of some fat toothless trailer park woman next to a shirtless Antonia Benderes. And yea, I know all of this is said in a jokingly manner, but remember, "A lot of truth is said in jest", and I think you people have taken femdom BDSM to such an extreme level where it is seriously detrimental to your mental health, and you women sit by and let it happen. BDSM should just be kinky sex play, just for the bedroom or fetish clubs, not 24/7, that's when it becomes as demented as pedofilia or rape, it becomes this unholy nasty thing. Just take a look at the female submissives and see if there is a common 'shame' in being female and complete sacrifice of all dignity there, is there? I don't think so, especially on the former.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

I pick spiders up and put them outside.

Master kills them with his farts

I may have exaggerated that last sentence...but not by much...

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ORIGINAL: Windsweptgold0

I cant say why most seem to but I am not one of them. The thought of owning a women does nothing for me at all

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I would love to have a female serve me. So far, no luck, but you never know. I don't directly search for women here anymore, my life is pretty much female-oriented anyway, so I will see what happens.

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ORIGINAL: BluMac

Kind of noticed an anomaly here on collarme.com, I see that the majority of dom women have these statements in their profiles like "FEMALES ONLY - Contact me, read it again, Contact me - FEMALES ONLY". Now, I know that along with the BDSM lifestyle typically comes some homosexuality or bisexuality, but the proportions are way off, and how these doms (except the doms for pay) seek to keep away male subs is beyond me. My only theory on it is that there are too many males bombarding their inbox. Can someone explain this phenomenon to me? Do female doms receive more pleasure when they're with female subs than with men? What's going on?

Anyway, I've nearly given up looking for a dom in CO, they're just impossible to find and the ones you do find only want women, go figure. Now, I say this with all due respect, please understand that. I'm just trying to understand this scene a little better... and maybe give me some hope! lol

PS- Any of you other sub/switch/slave guys see what I'm talking about here?

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ORIGINAL: MistressJulia1

I am a professional and lifestyle Mistress and I have no interest in women sexually or as a Dominant.  Step this way sub males ONLY.