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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 8:44:01 AM   
LaTigresse


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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 8:55:00 AM   
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Nyxalith,

I hope that you don't run off so fast, especially since you have only been here a week. 

A lot of people on CM do not participate in the forums.  My Beloved rarely did before He met me and now is pretty much on only to see "What on earth  have written now!"  Anyway, He is one of those Doms that likes fuller figured gals.  He doesn't find attractive what is served up in fashion and even adult magazines.  He likes a little junk in the trunk.  Then again He just LOVES spanking so maybe He appreciates a larger canvas!

BTW, I did not meet Him on the forums.  I did however find Him in one of my searches.  He was one of many men that I found that prefer women of substance (in all areas my dear). 

Be patient and search for what you want.  Send out emails.  Make some friends.  Who knows, maybe you will be lucky like a number of us here and find someone who sees you for who you are and adores the package that it all comes in.  Best of luck to you whatever you decide. 

angelface

 
Yes, it has been only a week--here.  But I've been looking/not looking (not looking is for the people who say 'When you're not looking is when it happens' heh) for *seven years*.  Isn't that just a little too long?  What about the old saying 'One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results'?  That's why I am frustrated.  Not so much the week, it's the years.  That's why I am about ready to give up.  Two or three years is reasonable.  Seven might mean there's a problem, and I don't yet know what it is.
 
Also, again, I had someone nice/seemed compatible message me the other day.  He liked me until he found out my size.  Now my messages go ignored.  The irony is, this guy weighed about 300 pounds.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 8:56:24 AM   
Nyxalinth2


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ORIGINAL: zumala

I agree with angelface.  Don't let one thread of any sort discourage you from searching here on CM.  These things take time if you're looking for a special someone (as most people do) rather than just any old Dom who will accept you.
 
Cheers!
 
zuma



sure it takes time.  But *seven years* is a little extreme, wouldn't you say?  that's how long, overall, it's been, and I've tried everything, including NOT trying.  Maybe now it makes a little more sense why I am frustrated :)

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:18:53 AM   
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I can't say I prefer over weight or not because I think pounds are stupid way to measure someone's health and value.

I do know that skinny is a turn-off to me cause all I can do is look and think "I might break that" and then I can't be interested at all.


There may not be as much to smack around, but I doubt if every thin female is a weakling. I have a small frame, but I'm very capable of carrying a good amount of long, lean muscle on it. I out-performed all the "skinny" girls in school because I am strong, not because I was really "bigger".

However, I have also seen heavier girls out-do skinny ones in strength. If a 90 pound girl can't do a single chin-up, she has a problem. If a 150 pound girl can do three chin-ups, good for her! She's lifting more weight and doing a better job of it. I just happen to fall in the middle.



In the middle isn't skinny then, is it?

Also, not so much a factor for me, but many men I know say that thinking about sex with a skinny woman is a lot like thinking "ouch". I believe they are talking about supermodel thin where the point isn't the woman (or man) but the clothes, the make-up and the objects they are selling.

Of course these are men talking to me and I am not skinny but any stretch of the imagination. Damned strong? Yes! Curvy? Yes? Healthy? Overall, yes, certainly healthier than I was when I was underweight or ever my so-called ideal weight because I eat better, move more, and feel better about myself.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:30:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		As I said in the other post regarding weight, I believe in nuturing a healthy mind, body, and spirit.  I believe when you accomplish this everything else seems to fall into place, live with intention, not with excuses...(what I mean by this is that only you know what you are at peace with yourself about and what you are not at peace with...if there is something that "bothers" you about yourself, change it!  If you are at peace with yourself nuture it!

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:33:29 AM   
angelface183


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Status: offline 		Nixie (if I may call you that.  I am just afraid I am going to spell the rest of it wrong),

I went to look at your profile to learn more about you and there is none.  I do not know why you have been alone for 7 years.  My longest dry spell was for 5 years.  It started about 10 years ago. 

I was actually thinner then than I am now, but I did not feel nearly as sexy or confident as I do today.  I have gotten rid of a lot of emotional baggage and have experienced some heavy duty growing pains in this past decade, including the suicide of my younger sister nearly 18 months ago. 

It was only when I began to truly like myself and be honest about my expectations and desires that I was able to find someone that I wanted to spend some time with.  I don't know what to tell you as the only things that I know about you are that you are overweight and you want to be loved.   There is nothing wrong with that.  That descibes a hell of a lot of people in this world.

You know there are a lot of intelligent, kind, and caring people on this site.  There are a lot of asswipes, too, just ignore them.  I bet any number of them would be glad to help you.  But first, why do YOU think you have been alone for 7 years?...and sweetie, it ain't the weight


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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:36:15 AM   
MasterRenegade77


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Wants My slaves to be in the Middle I don't like a bag of bones but neither do I like Plus size women...
That's just My taste, I've heard of a few that like big girls but they're hard to find!!!

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:38:25 AM   
tade


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Status: offline 		Personally I have always went for women that were "rounder" than most of the guys I know liked. I have been with skinny women as well as women who were muscular and I always go back to my favorite type eventually. We've always said that if we fucked a skinny woman the way we do we would probably break her. My dog loves bones, I'll take the meat every time. Keep your chin up darlin'.... 

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:50:23 AM   
Bearlee


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I like women to look good in clothes, I am less interested in a skinny woman who can't dress than a large woman who can.  Part of it is attitude, some have it some don't.  Another is deportment, if you carry yourself like a fat slob, that is what you are.  If however, you carry yourself as the beautiful creature you are, well, there you go. 


Ahhhhhhhh... well said, Sir!  I like 'big guys' myself...but I cannot abide slobs.  I dislike nasty nails, stained shirts, missing teeth, unkempt hair and tennis shoes; but give me a big guy who takes care of himself and I'm more than a little interested!!!  

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:52:04 AM   
Bearlee


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ORIGINAL: Nyxalinth2

I am thinking that what I need isn't going to be found here on collarme, though.


Well, it sure isn't if you don't even post a profile and tell people about yourself.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:53:34 AM   
xxmstrchasxx


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My sub is a little overweight and I could care less. I have never said anything about it to her and never will.  It wouldn't matter to me if she was 300 pounds (except if her health paid a price)  I wouldn't trade her for anyone I have ever met.  Again, it's what is in the heart and their attitude that matters to me the most.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 9:56:31 AM   
xxmstrchasxx


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I like 'big guys' myself


Yeah I'll bet you do!
Oh you meant weight wise huh? LMAO

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 10:04:23 AM   
txpet


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Status: offline 		What someone looks like certainly does not have anything to do with what they prefer their partner to look like. In many cases people prefer people similar to themselves but not in all.

As for searching for seven years ... that is harsh. i do have to wonder though ... are you unwilling to settle for a relationship that is not exactly everything you want? That can be good in the long term, but in the short term it is good to find people to get close to and care for also.

i don't know any answers really, but i do know there are apparently a lot of people that do like to play with a fullsize female ... here and on other sites that are not BDSM related, i have gotten a lot of responses and offers ... and i am certainly not small.
i believe it is important to mention my size up front. No surprises, less disappointment.

Good luck!


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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 10:13:19 AM   
DarkSideOfThMoon


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Status: offline 		Some people are VERY fussy about physical type, I had one guy tell me to be with him long term I would have to consider breast enlargement surgary.... Uhuh yeah, I was off so fast he only realised when the door slammed in his face. My measurements go 34, 28, 32 D/DD english sizes that's roughly a 10 on the top and bottom, and an 8 around the middle. For some people I'm too small... it's different strokes for different folks... I know pleanty of  collared submissives who I guess would be calssed as over weight... try not to let it dwell on your mind... and as someone up there said, it's not your weight...

Bina

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 10:31:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: xxmstrchasxx

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I like 'big guys' myself


Yeah I'll bet you do!
Oh you meant weight wise huh? LMAO


Why Sir!!!   Sheeshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...  Now I know what that 'Indecent' tag means beneath your name!  <giggles>  Yes...weight wise, O Silly One.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 11:19:45 AM   
bluefairy


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Status: offline 		I am a big girl myself and I have never had a problem with weight being an issue... It basically comes down to the fact that I would never be interested in someone who didn't find me beautiful in every way. You have to have confidence in you... Feeling sexy is sexy and No one has to be alone... But you have to pick up and decide you are worth love and respect and if someone thinks otherwise then to hell with them.

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 1:00:57 PM   
LaTigresse


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I am a big girl myself and I have never had a problem with weight being an issue... It basically comes down to the fact that I would never be interested in someone who didn't find me beautiful in every way. You have to have confidence in you... Feeling sexy is sexy and No one has to be alone... But you have to pick up and decide you are worth love and respect and if someone thinks otherwise then to hell with them.


My thoughts exactly!

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 1:49:34 PM   
jezabelKH


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ORIGINAL: Nyxalinth2

Since we just had someone asking this in a less positive light, who here likes their subs/slaves with extra meat?  I'm 5'9", I weigh 230, and it's fairly evenly distributed over my frame.  I would like to lose weight--I'm working on it--but I don't want to drop below a size 14.  I like being curvy.

At the same time, though, I dislike the idea of putting myself on a shelf and my life on hold until my weight reaches some special magic number.  Unfortunately, Doms who like a girl bigger than a size 16, with whom I am compatible, and there's real sexual chemistry, etc. seem very far and few between.  Especially here in Denver.

Show of hands, Guys? :)


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check out both of His slaves profiles jezabelKH and tinkerbellKH and His profile TXSadistMaster and you will see His girls have meat and He is such a carnivore!

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 1:57:04 PM   
zumala


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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: zumala


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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I can't say I prefer over weight or not because I think pounds are stupid way to measure someone's health and value.

I do know that skinny is a turn-off to me cause all I can do is look and think "I might break that" and then I can't be interested at all.


There may not be as much to smack around, but I doubt if every thin female is a weakling. I have a small frame, but I'm very capable of carrying a good amount of long, lean muscle on it. I out-performed all the "skinny" girls in school because I am strong, not because I was really "bigger".

However, I have also seen heavier girls out-do skinny ones in strength. If a 90 pound girl can't do a single chin-up, she has a problem. If a 150 pound girl can do three chin-ups, good for her! She's lifting more weight and doing a better job of it. I just happen to fall in the middle.


In the middle isn't skinny then, is it?



Well, actually it's hard to say.  I've been called both skinny and chubby during the SAME time frame by different people.  I therefore must submit that both terms are subjective.  Heftiness or lack there of with someone my size seems to be determined by the individual eye of the beholder.  *shrug*  Since other people can't make up their minds, I'm not going to worry about it too much.   I want to be more healthy and fit, not a sack of bones with no muscles.  So I'm going to work out tonight.  Whatever weight I hit with my muscle gain and fat loss is fine.  I don't care.
 
How's that? 
 
zuma

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RE: Who *likes/prefers* overweight subs? - 5/23/2006 2:03:53 PM   
bignipples2share


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marilyn monroe was a size sixteen..


I love it when people throw this out there especially in a thread where it really has no bearing since the question was if some Doms like their girls bigger than average. My understanding was that Marilyn was a size 14 (not 16) but you have to keep in mind over the last 30 - 40 years sizes have actually gotten bigger so the size 14 Marilyn wore in the 60's is likely about the same as a size 8-10 now. Add in how much variation there is in women's clothing sizes and saying that Marilyn was a size 16, 14 or 20 doesn't really mean a darn thing. She was a beautiful, curvy woman but she wasn't exactly chubby.

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Yeah, what MsIncognito said.
Her dressmaker said her measurements were 35-22-35 5'5 1/2 and approx 118-140lbs as it fluctuated with pregnancy and as she aged. She'd be swimming in material if she wore todays size 16. One of her dresses was a british size 16, which equates to an American size 12 and probably her largest dress at her heaviest, not her normal.
I'm a larger person. Due to past reasons, which I will not go into, I'm not in shape, (intend to get there) yet I've always been with athletic men. So that is what I'm accustomed to, attracted to and look for. They might need to be blind though, or maybe a blindfold LOL
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