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Wolf1020 -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 2:56:56 PM)
to me overweight has three basic categories- Full figured- Little extra packed on, some nice curves, maybe a belly, this is all well and fine Heavy- Bit more then full figured but she still carries it well, this is great also. Fat/Obese/whatever preferred term- That take heavy to another level that simply isn't carried well. There's no specifics its just a general way that it is carried. That isn't really alright. I personally find bigger girls just as attractive as ones who are "in shape" I'd much rather have a woman who was heavy and carried it well then an anorexic stick of a thing. In the end all weights and body types are fine, it really comes down more to how it is carried then anything.

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 3:33:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nyxalinth2 Yes, it has been only a week--here. But I've been looking/not looking (not looking is for the people who say 'When you're not looking is when it happens' heh) for seven years. Isn't that just a little too long? What about the old saying 'One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results'? That's why I am frustrated. Not so much the week, it's the years. That's why I am about ready to give up. Two or three years is reasonable. Seven might mean there's a problem, and I don't yet know what it is. Also, again, I had someone nice/seemed compatible message me the other day. He liked me until he found out my size. Now my messages go ignored. The irony is, this guy weighed about 300 pounds. Perhaps take a look inside. If you are constantly putting out the vibe that people won't like you for your size, then they won't, in my opinion. Are you living life to the fullest without a partner or are you basing happiness on finding someone? I don't think there is any set number of years during which one must find a partner, and although it is frustrating, life can be happy if you are doing what you want and loving yourself as a person. Be well, Julie

MistressMelissa -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 3:52:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo I do know that skinny is a turn-off to me cause all I can do is look and think "I might break that" and then I can't be interested at all. In my house we call the skinny, rib showing, "little ones", breakables. I had a very slender girl in the house once and she drove me crazy with what she would eat or would not eat depending on which dress she wanted to wear, then the day after she would eat like there was no tomorrow since she had starved herself to "look good" that dress. To much drama for me. Plus when you went to flog her, she was so damn skinny the "strike zone" was incredably small. It was no fun to play with her as I was always worried I'd hurt her. Give me a full figure slave any day of the week. Melissa Mistress of Ds Haven www.dshaven.com

SynesthesiaCage -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 4:02:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: redpetals marilyn monroe was a size sixteen.. I was curious about this, found some interesting info on it on snopes. http://www.snopes.com/movies/actors/mmdress.htm

slavejlb -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 4:05:07 PM)
Who is to judge what or whom is over weight, remember many ladies of old were consider prefect if they had some meat on their bones, and their breast were not small peas but something for a man to put strong hand on to and hold. For myself i know i am not pretty, i stand five feet one, and weight about 190 lbs, but i have been told when i smile my brown eyes soften and glisten, what a person weather they be slave, sub, dom or master, their heart should be what matters, their soul, their being, not what God gave them to look like. take care and be safe slave jlb

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 4:08:37 PM)
I dont like or dislike it...I'm neutral. If someone is big they are big plain and simple. I dont ever turn people away for size,its all about the personality and not the scale.

impishlilhellcat -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 4:21:19 PM)
I consider myself to be "chunky", "round", "curvacious"... etc... if you look at the charts I'm overweight. However I feel good about myself, I'm active, I exercise, and I eat healthy. Yet that extra weight stays. I came to terms with myself a long time ago and realized that this was how I was going to be. As long as I feel good about myself on the inside it really sends this glow on the outside. Oddly enough I've had Doms who want their submissives to be actively fit or height/weight proportionate email me and I'm the first to point out that I don't fit their requirments and most seem to be okay with just who I am. If they aren't I just figure it just wasn't someone that was worth getting to know me.

txpet -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 4:38:48 PM)
I'm not going to worry about it too much. [;)] I want to be more healthy and fit, not a sack of bones with no muscles. So I'm going to work out tonight. Whatever weight I hit with my muscle gain and fat loss is fine. I don't care. How's that? [:D] zuma [/quote] Sounds liek the most healthy statement i have heard regarding one's weight in a very logn time :)

jezabelKH -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 5:48:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: txpet I'm not going to worry about it too much. [;)] I want to be more healthy and fit, not a sack of bones with no muscles. So I'm going to work out tonight. Whatever weight I hit with my muscle gain and fat loss is fine. I don't care. How's that? [:D] zuma Sounds liek the most healthy statement i have heard regarding one's weight in a very logn time :) sounds very healthy and well adjusted to me. jezabelKH

IronBear -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 6:12:34 PM)
This applies right accross the board with me. I am less interested in weight than I am in the person as a whole.... I'm large so is Neets.. Extreems on each end of the weight scale (pun intended) are a turn off and probably include a health or logistics problem but I do mean the extreems.... I've always liked the classic voluptious junoesque woman in any case (So why was I dating models for a while? Bloody ego and because I could)... So if your cuddley, have a slave heart and a good head on your shoulders you have one foot in the door with me..

Nyxalinth2 -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 7:00:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelface183 I went to look at your profile to learn more about you and there is none. I do not know why you have been alone for 7 years. My longest dry spell was for 5 years. It started about 10 years ago. I deleted it, becasue I need to rework it, and put in a photo as well. You know there are a lot of intelligent, kind, and caring people on this site. There are a lot of asswipes, too, just ignore them. I bet any number of them would be glad to help you. But first, why do YOU think you have been alone for 7 years?...and sweetie, it ain't the weight Well, for several of those years, I was working on baggage, too. Bad baggage. Interestingly, I had MORE offers (turned them down, because these guys were just...brrr. Homeless, or crackheads, or creepy married men wanting to cheat. Had little to do with how they look. I go by chemistry) before I worked out msot of my baggage! In 2002, there was one guy, but the sex was dreadful so I don't count it. there was someone with potential right after him, we went out once, never heard from him again. In this case, a blessing: turned out he was a rapist who kept out of jail on legal technicalities! He was finally put away in 2005. I thank the gods that I never went home with that winner. Point is, I'm still working on myself. Sad thing is, now that I've done a lot of work, no one approaches or seems to go for me. My guess is that I've improved enough to ward off the asshats, but not enough to attract quality. My profile basically said that I was looking for a Dom who could appreciate an intelligent sub who had a life and interests outside of her submission, I said I only had a few limits (hard ones like no scat, kids, or animals, no slavery) that while I was new I was eager to learn and find out what my limits might be, and that I would be more than happy to please the right man. Not many takers.

Nyxalinth2 -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 7:02:34 PM)
I took it down becaause it wasn't working. and when someone did message me it was obvious that they hadn't read it, they lost interest when I filled them in, and there you go.

zumala -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 7:58:24 PM)
I typically get 30 morons for every intelligent person that mails me. A little patience and the delete button go a LONG way around here. [;)] zuma

littlemissub -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 8:12:47 PM)
Amen zumala

cravinspankin -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 8:48:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful As far as I can tell, the BDSM scene is far more size-friendly, and less body-obsessed, than the swinging or vanilla community. I've never felt anything but comfortable being all-kinds-of-naked at a fetish party. Cin That's certainly been my experience as well. I worried when i entered this lifestyle and started getting involved in the local community that my weight might be an issue. I know, as it was in the vanilla world, that there are a lot of Doms who don't like heavy women. So be it. We all like different things. However, I've met plenty who do, and have had a great time. People who judge me based on my size, just simply aren't worth worrying about.

Arpig -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 10:25:09 PM)
A person's weight is so very far less important than who the person is in both determining their worth and their beauty as to not even be a factor.

Strangelove -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 10:51:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I like women to look good in clothes, I am less interested in a skinny woman who can't dress than a large woman who can. Part of it is attitude, some have it some don't. Another is deportment, if you carry yourself like a fat slob, that is what you are. If however, you carry yourself as the beautiful creature you are, well, there you go. Well said, and ditto. ;)

txpet -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/23/2006 11:23:27 PM)
Being sexy is inthe way you carry yourself ... the way you move ... the look in your eyes ... the facial expression ... it is body language and attitude not the body itself. Master can pose me for pics but the best pics are always taken when i am doing something on my own and He just happens to catch it on film ... when i am not thinking about the camera or know it is there. Confidence is sexy and the camera shakes mine away. (Though i think Master plans on taking pictures until that is no longer true.) There are very few people whose looks actually effect their, hmmm, "sex quotient".

Ciel -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/24/2006 12:15:11 AM)
I prefer heavier women; my submissive is overweight, and we are both comfortable with the fact. She is healthy, and her weight presents no problems to any activities I wish to do; I'd even say it helps with some of them. [;)] I have nothing against skinnier women and I don't make assumptions that they must have something wrong--it's just not what I'm drawn to. I can understand that other people like what they like, but the hatred I've seen directed towards fat people in some places does nothing short of disgust me--they seem to feel justified, preaching from behind their computer screen, that it's not only fine to mock them, but they believe it's doing a favour because the shame should motivate them to lose weight. I've spoken with overweight people who feel persecuted no matter what they do--if they're seen not excercising, they're being lazy. If they are, "it's good to see them get off their fat butt and do somthing." If they're seen eating anything but a salad, they'll be mocked and taunted for 'not needing that'--if they do eat a salad, they're talked down to about finally eating right. I know how it is to feel like you're not doing anything right, and it's far from motivating. There's a huge line between not being attracted to someone and being a downright ass, and it saddens me when people cross it and try to excuse it with self-righteousness.

xxmstrchasxx -> RE: Who likes/prefers* overweight subs?* (5/24/2006 3:39:24 AM)
quote: Why Sir!!! Sheeshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... Now I know what that 'Indecent' tag means beneath your name! <giggles> Yes...weight wise, O Silly One. I just wanted to make sure you were still talking about weight wise still when you wrote that LMAO LMAO Bearlee, I'm glad you got a good sense of humor.

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