LillyBoPeep -> RE: Feminism Has Made Women Too Masculine (9/25/2011 8:50:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Cooking, worshipping, having him control the sex. Those kinds of things do not equal loss of voice, loss of caring, loss of self worth. i agree with you here -- none of that is really all that unusual, at least not in my relationships. but as others have said, my problem is that this is what he thinks ALL women should do, and that's silly. however, i agree with something else you said before -- his having this belief in his own little bubble really has no bearing on the lives of others. and some women DO prefer to think that this is their role and should be their role. what's more dehumanizing -- being treated in a way that fulfills you despite the fact that it may be unusual or unpopular, or having other people say "the way you want to live is wrong!" this happened to my Top friend and i at an event we went to. people who are supposedly familiar with kink but are, for some reason, uncomfortable with MDoms and fsubs. i was standing around minding my own business, and my friend sat down. the lady started jabbing him for not being chivalrous because he took the chair. this lady doesn't know that i happen to like standing, or sitting on the floor. whether i'm in a D/s relationship or not, sitting on the floor/ground or standing are my first choices. anyway, he made a joke about not having a pad for me to kneel on, thinking she'd get it since she's supposedly all into kink, and she flew off the handle. so we left. but i was offended because her attitude was that someone this is wrong, even though i totally agree to it. i'm not being oppressed or mistreated, this is something that fulfills me. and her attitude (i'm sure she thought of herself as a heroine for standing up for my poor little self) was one of the most offensive things i've dealt with in regards to D/s. there's still this underlying assumption that somehow women can't make good decisions. just because the OP has a belief, doesn't mean that a girl he gets with is automatically downtrodden. isn't it possible that she actively chose to be with him because that ideology fulfills her?
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