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Rochsub2009 -> RE: Question for those who go to play parties (10/5/2011 1:27:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
You've got two questions on this thread that I can address. Let's start with the how common is it part.
These days, it's pretty darn common. One of the reasons for this is that the net has changed a lot of things. It isn't all about people coming to the house that you've known for years and years to attend a play party. Quite often, it's folks that you've met a few times at munches (the vetting process that you spoke of) and then they are invited to attend. These are folks that you've talked with casually at dinner, but until you see them play, you don't know how they are going to act at a play party. You honestly don't know if they are familiar with rules or what rules might be different than the last place they were used to playing. It's not universal.
We're not talking about private parties here. We're talking about parties that are held through munch groups. From a legal standpoint, that group is taking a bigger risk than you are in signing a copy of the rules.
Thanks for your response LadyPact! You've provided a couple of aspects of things I hadn't considered. :)
I'm actually surprised that you hadn't considered those things. Just look at your own situation. Do the sponsors know you? Can they attest for how you're going to behave? Probably not. Now multiply that by 100 or more.
In the old days, the local kink community was very small. We knew everybody, and things were less formal (but far more secretive).
My local group used to have about 30 members. Since we started our FetLife group, our membership has exploded. We now have over 200 members. New people attend every week. And most of them are complete strangers to us. There is nobody in the group who can attest for them. We don't know if they're serial rapists. We don't know if they have criminal records. We don't know if they've been kicked out of a similar group in another city. We don't know if they know how to use the equipment properly. And yet, all they have to do is attend one munch, and they can then come into our facility and "play".
Imagine that YOU were the host. Wouldn't you want some type of assurance to protect yourself? When you look at it that way, do you see why a waiver might be necessary? What would YOU do if 150 complete strangers were coming to YOUR house (or to a space that you had rented) to whip, flog, bind, burn, bruise, cut, cage, and suspend one another? I'll bet you would have them sign some type of waiver. Wouldn't you?
It's easy to question the rules when you're not the one taking the risk. But if you place yourself in the shoes of the hosts, I think you'll see things in a completely different light.
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