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SailingBum -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/5/2011 2:44:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Or anyone elses. Dysfunctional, out of shape people who eat sounds like most of our society. I kind of like that. Perfection would bore me to tears. quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 My experience with munches has been that it's a bunch of dysfunctional, out of shape people sitting in a diner or pizza place eating mass quantities of food. Dammit, you were at my last family reunion? That may be so dysfunctional ppl might be the majority of the population, BUT I choose not to hang with those folks. I am not saying my friends are "normal" by any stretch but dysfunctional is not a word I would use to describe them. BadOne

Iamsemisweet -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/5/2011 2:53:16 PM)
Thank you Roch, for this post. We are going to go, and I am sure we will have a great time. We always do, where ever we go. It is at a place with pool tables, and next door to a bowling alley, so there are alternative activities available. LOL quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 IASS, Go! Don't let anybody persuade you to do otherwise. It's important (IMO) that people get off the computer and get involved with real-life kinksters. The odds of meeting a viable partner increase drastically when you're meeting real, local people, rather than just chatting on-line to strangers who live hundreds (or thousands) of miles away.. .

hangemhigh1953 -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/5/2011 3:12:18 PM)
At least based on the ones I've been to, it's basically a casual vanilla hangout but with people who share our interests.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 7:05:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet Thank you Roch, for this post. We are going to go, and I am sure we will have a great time. We always do, where ever we go. It is at a place with pool tables, and next door to a bowling alley, so there are alternative activities available. You're very welcome. Glad to be of help. Remember to be friendly and outgoing. Talk to people. Don't wait for them to come talk to you. After you attend, please post a report so we'll know how it went. There are lots of other people on here who are in the exact same position that you are. They're trying to decide whether they should attend a munch. Your post-munch report may help them. Good luck, and I hope you have a great time.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 10:39:57 AM)
Just because some people don't like munches, don't let that dissuade you from trying at least one or two. You wouldn't let a bunch of people on the internet make all your other decisions for you, so why this time? In my experience, munches are just regular people who happen to be kinky, wearing anything from casual to dressy clothes, having dinner and conversation. Heck, Daddy and I even organized some picnic potluck munches this last summer. Who says they all have to be indoors? Munch just refers to the fact that there's food there. lol ~Hisprettybaby~

littlewonder -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 10:53:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 My experience with munches has been that it's a bunch of dysfunctional, out of shape people sitting in a diner or pizza place eating mass quantities of food. Hate to say it but in the 4 different states that I've attended munches they were all exactly the same as this along with the added benefit that many came dressed in too tight clothing, leather pants and bosom spilling over corsets and talking about kinky sex as loud as they could while families sat at the tables around them.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 11:14:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 My experience with munches has been that it's a bunch of dysfunctional, out of shape people sitting in a diner or pizza place eating mass quantities of food. Hate to say it but in the 4 different states that I've attended munches they were all exactly the same as this along with the added benefit that many came dressed in too tight clothing, leather pants and bosom spilling over corsets and talking about kinky sex as loud as they could while families sat at the tables around them. Ugh! That sounds revolting. The munches in my area are in a separate dining area of the restaurant, so there aren't 'nillas within earshot. I think it's called a meeting room or something like that.

kalikshama -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 11:15:24 AM)
quote: talking about kinky sex as loud as they could while families sat at the tables around them. I agree that this is gauche. All the muches I've attended were in private rooms or separate sections. Perhaps lack thereof is a function of low population/attendance. quote: Your goal should be to get into one of the play parties to see the kinksters in action. To do that, you probably have to go to a munch first, so just bite the bullet and go. Even if you don't like the people at the munch, take the next step and attend a play party. You'll see that it's entirely different from the munch. I'd also suggest that you attend a seminar (if your group hosts seminars). I've found that seminars have a completely different feel from munches or play parties. Personally, I prefer seminars. Thanks Roch for the excellent post! This was my experience as well.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: I'm going to a munch (10/6/2011 11:19:08 AM)
I will write a review of the experience tomorrow. I am certainly not dressed in anything too tight, I opted for high heeled boots, a long boot skirt and a vintage Missoni sweater. I look like I am going to a rotary meeting.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: I went to a munch (10/6/2011 10:20:29 PM)
The munch was great fun. A couple of people went out of their way to be extremely welcoming, and that was nice. There were certainly some "out of shape" people there, can't really comment on whether they were "dysfunctional". The conversation was interesting, and rarely ventured into the sexual. Except for a couple of studded collars, i wouldn't really say people were dressed in fetish clothes either. All in all, it reminded me of a Rotary meeting. I have zero interest in ever being invited to a play party, but I would definitely go back to this munch group. I enjoyed the people. I do have to say, though, that the general attitude about CM was that it is "all about sex".

SoulAlloy -> RE: I went to a munch (10/6/2011 11:02:09 PM)
Glad to hear you enjoyed it :) Every munch I've experienced has been different, some so huge it's been impossible to get round everyone, some cosy and relaxed with pleasant conversation, some with traditions and games, there's a play munch nearby too which I've been meaning to try out one day... As for people thinking collarme is all about sex, most of the people I've chatted to judge it from the messages they receive and never got as far as the boards, it put me off joining for a while. Play parties aren't for everyone, though they can be good fun for voyeurists and exhibitionists ;) - personally I just love an opportuinity to dress up, not many non-play fetish events near here though so compromise with organising my own dvd and takeaway nights with my kinky friends

HannahLynHeather -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 12:13:27 AM)
quote: All in all, it reminded me of a Rotary meeting. well butt fuck me jesus! if that ain't a ringing endorsement. a rotary meeting, eh? yea, that'll have them lining up around the block to get in. and you'd go back? fuck woman, your life needs some serious excitening up.

lobodomslavery -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 12:16:13 AM)
i ve gone to munches before. Let's put it like this if one is expecting anything other than a friendly parting of the ways at the end of the meeting , one would be severely disappointed. Its basically kink conversation among semi strangers, a few drinks and a parting of the ways. You are unlikely to find your next slave or Domme at a munch kevin

LadyPact -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 2:59:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather quote: All in all, it reminded me of a Rotary meeting. well butt fuck me jesus! if that ain't a ringing endorsement. a rotary meeting, eh? yea, that'll have them lining up around the block to get in. and you'd go back? fuck woman, your life needs some serious excitening up. Some days, there's just no winning over this shit. All the woman is saying is that she didn't get faced with a room of folks who constantly wanted to talk about sex or kink. Instead, there were <gasp> folks who talked to her about other subjects. Again, damned if you do and damned if you don't.

GreedyTop -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 3:06:16 AM)
what LadyP said

Rochsub2009 -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 6:39:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet The munch was great fun.................. I have zero interest in ever being invited to a play party, but I would definitely go back to this munch group. IASS, Glad to hear that you had a good time. I told you that you would. It sounds like it was just like I described. I understand your lack of interest in attending a play party, but I'd strongly suggest that you do so anyway. I'm a big advocate of gathering knowledge and experience. Even if you choose to never go back after the first time, I'd still suggest going once. That way you will know exactly what goes on, and you will be able to give a fair and knowledge-based description to anybody who might ask your opinion of play parties in the future. Personally, I don't enjoy play parties. But I've been to dozens of them, so I can say that from experience. But despite my personal feelings about play parties, I still think that they are a good thing for certain people, and I would definitely give a positive review of them to a person that I thought would enjoy that type of activity.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 6:56:54 AM)
Well said, ladyP. It was enjoyable and low key, and the conversation was fun. What's the matter with that? Whatever, Hannah. What the fuck do I care whether people are lined up around the block? It was hard enough to get a parking spot as it was. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather quote: All in all, it reminded me of a Rotary meeting. well butt fuck me jesus! if that ain't a ringing endorsement. a rotary meeting, eh? yea, that'll have them lining up around the block to get in. and you'd go back? fuck woman, your life needs some serious excitening up. Some days, there's just no winning over this shit. All the woman is saying is that she didn't get faced with a room of folks who constantly wanted to talk about sex or kink. Instead, there were <gasp> folks who talked to her about other subjects. Again, damned if you do and damned if you don't.

OttersSwim -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 7:11:19 AM)
We went to our first munch and saw a room full of strangers. Now we go to nearly all our local munches to see our friends- the people who were formerly those same strangers. Tomorrow night we are having a "sort the porn" party with about a thousand of our vintage porn magazines...who will attend? Yep, many of those that we met and became friends with at the munch. Munches are not about hooking up, picking up, or satisfying your fill-in-the-blank fantasy. They are about socializing with people who share similar interests. For us, munch events are part of our social circle and fit perfectly in to our overall "kinky life". As with so many things in life, You get out of it, what you bring in to it.

OsideGirl -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 7:16:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery i ve gone to munches before. Let's put it like this if one is expecting anything other than a friendly parting of the ways at the end of the meeting , one would be severely disappointed. Its basically kink conversation among semi strangers, a few drinks and a parting of the ways. You are unlikely to find your next slave or Domme at a munch kevin I met Master at the OC social. We've been together 11 1/2 years. I've made some life long friends from attending the socials.

Missokyst -> RE: I went to a munch (10/7/2011 9:20:23 AM)
Whew, thank goodness. Glad to hear you weren't turned off by a munch. When I see people post stuff like "a bunch of overweight dysfunctional, ect ect.." it honestly bugs me. They don't have to go. They don't have to like it when they do. But to classify people they don't know based on a meeting or two {{shudder}} it makes me wonder if I should be looking for a golden halo around their heads and the body of Venus/Zeus. Munches and members ebb and flow. Things change from month to month. When I was running one we actually got a review on a major website as being "some of the friendliest people they had ever met". I was really proud of that. As for parties, not all of them are play. Sometimes we would have movie dates, perv shopping, game nights, ect. And in the more metro areas sometimes they have flea markets. It is just a matter of what people want or make happen. quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet I have zero interest in ever being invited to a play party, but I would definitely go back to this munch group. I enjoyed the people.

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