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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/9/2011 9:19:53 PM

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Ehhh.... Maybe you suck at it ?

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/9/2011 9:23:39 PM

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I had a sub who would give me head, I could fuck her pussy or ass, but otherwise, no kissing or affection - she just wanted to focus on the D/s aspects.She also liked being bent over my spanking bench for a spanking, flogging or paddling. And she loved it when I tied up her nice boobs with rope. I love to kiss and I had another sub I would see for that, my main sub.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 6:35:32 AM

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As others have said, usually it indicates intimacy issues. I have to assume, that for those who don't have such issues but still don't like to kiss, that they are open about their dislike for the act.

If he's not open about it, but claims you haven't 'earned' a kiss yet, then I would assume he does have intimacy issues and isn't willing to acknowledge them and work on them.

I have to say, if he didn't want to kiss me, I wouldn't have gotten involved with him. Because for me, it's important.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 6:41:35 AM

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I can see how some folks might not like it, but the "thaT comes later" says that he's using affection as a bargaining chip/tool/weapon/game piece to keep you from feeling worthy or successful. Not a happy thing IMO.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 7:14:52 AM

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 7:18:25 AM

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Was with one guy who didnt like it.... and was up front about it from the get go. But he was most affectionate and caring in every other way.

Was with another who eventually said it... almost sheepishly... and it ended up with him being emotionally distant and ... lol.... he withheld "favors" in an attempt to control.

It can be both things. Hard to say, but actions speak louder than words.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 7:47:49 AM

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I've seen this with people that had issues with being intimate on an emotional level, for whatever reasons. Typically not good ones as far as I was concerned.

I always told the men I was with... when I don't want to talk or kiss you... its over. Until then I kiss and talk until blue in the face sometimes, but when I stop either... bye bye.

Lots of people can fuck... if they don't kiss... something is wrong in my opinion.

I totally agree with the above. If someone doesn't want to give you face time, they are just not that into you, or have issues with intimacy, or both.

Kissing to me can be more personal and intimate than intercourse. You can easily fuck someone w/o dealing with who they are or even looking at them. To me, kissing says you are willing to deal with who the other person actually is (as opposed to being a handy receptacle or organ).

Faces are, to a huge extent in my mind, physical extensions of who we really are. Our character is in our face, there is wisdom in our wrinkles, humor in our laugh lines. Many may disagree with me, but I think who we are and how we have lived our lives is written in our faces.

So if someone doesn't want to give me face time, they is a serious limit as to how intimate I can get.

I cannot agree more with you!

I once had someone who'd after a few months stopped kissing, it was the beginning of the end.
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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:33:23 AM

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As said by many some don't like to kiss, but others don't kiss for a reason. There are those that I will not kiss. Slaves do not get kissed..they are property not people. Pups don't get kissed...I don't let my dog lick my face why would I let a pup do it. Foot fetish boys do no kiss me...because...well feet are just nasty. There are a lot of different reasons for not kissing someone. If you really want to know why someone won't kiss you the best thing you can do is ask them why.

ETA- *oh* and I don't kiss people that pay for pain either, because I think that would just confuse things in the long run.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:34:37 AM

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The feel of my lips on hers is reserved for my woman alone. I dont kiss play partners, fucktoys, or anyone else. I dont want them to get confused and that is a strong reminder of their place in my life.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:35:05 AM

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Ahem.... the slaves are property not people is your personal opinion. I know many who would disagree with you.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:37:26 AM

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Yep so do I but when I post I post my opinion. No one has to agree with me.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:43:04 AM

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My lips are exclusive to the one I have a romantic relationship with.
Which is also my Dom.... so if he stops kissing, it is the beginning of the end of our relationship.

That's how it works for me.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:50:56 AM

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I have no problem kissing my women. I usually reserve kisses on the lips, to make them more valuable. Pecks on the cheeks and head for good girls makes the french kisses during a good shag all the more enjoyable.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 8:52:38 AM

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but I enjoy being kissed dammit! Lol
Is this something alot of dom's restrict by way of punishment//control with their subs?

I enjoy kissing too. I have been in only one true D/s relationship and he stated in his profile that he was a champion kisser/hugger so i was surprised when he didnt want to kiss me. I found out later that he does kiss, just not me. I had a bad experience with him (other issues too) which is why now i wont be a slave or sub except in the bedroom. I simply want more than some Doms feel their subs/slaves should get. Its sort of a weird place to be since its not D/s enough for some (many?) Doms and yet its not vanilla either..

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 11:00:26 AM

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Yep so do I but when I post I post my opinion. No one has to agree with me.

So very, very true

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 11:30:30 AM

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I'm a bit *funny* about kissing and am not really sure why exactly. I've never enjoyed it as a blanket activity but then I don't enjoy anything as a blanket activity.

I could never say * I enjoy kissing*.......I COULD say that * There are times when I really enjoy kissing*.

If I was in control I'D make sure any kissing was done when I was up for it, too. I'm not hugely affectionate and nor is M.There are certain times when it's just *ok* to do it, otherwise I have just naturally respected his *space*......probably because I like mine respected too. (Not that that makes much difference if M wants to do whatever he wants to do...........LOL....but that's a slightly different thing).

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 1:29:44 PM

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I had a sub who would give me head, I could fuck her pussy or ass, but otherwise, no kissing or affection - she just wanted to focus on the D/s aspects.She also liked being bent over my spanking bench for a spanking, flogging or paddling. And she loved it when I tied up her nice boobs with rope. I love to kiss and I had another sub I would see for that, my main sub.

BUT But but..... I thought the dom was the one in control??? Well there goes THAT theory.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 1:42:03 PM

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we kiss a lot , but in play not making love if i try to kiss him he will deny me it often, its a control thing but this is the only time and he will kiss when i am not begging for it durin gplay

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 3:07:13 PM

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As said by many some don't like to kiss, but others don't kiss for a reason. There are those that I will not kiss. Slaves do not get kissed..they are property not people. Pups don't get kissed...I don't let my dog lick my face why would I let a pup do it. Foot fetish boys do no kiss me...because...well feet are just nasty. There are a lot of different reasons for not kissing someone. If you really want to know why someone won't kiss you the best thing you can do is ask them why.

ETA- *oh* and I don't kiss people that pay for pain either, because I think that would just confuse things in the long run.

Basically you're saying that you aren't emotionally intimate with these people. That you don't love them. Which accords with what the rest of us said.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 3:50:09 PM

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I'm a toughy feely kinda person. If he's in the room I walk into I almost always touch him and give him a kiss.
He's never stopped me.
He's a great, deep kisser.
Although....he's spit into my mouth more than once when I've asked him to kiss me.
That is just the ultimate.

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