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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 7:52:24 AM   
DarkSteven


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I tend to find kissing works well with daddy dom / sub relationships and I love it in normal situations. But when trying to be strict and spanking someone etc. the kiss just unwinds the whole situation.


That confuses me totally.  During a punishment, I agree.  But kissing and physical affection is one of the ways that I signify that the punishment is over.

Punishments have never made up a significant part of any of my relationships.  So a short break on kissing isn't big.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 12:10:07 PM   
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I guess I am luckier than most...I screen my subs and explain their
duties so thoroughly that I haven't had to discipline one in a long time

my subs "love" and it shows and when the seduction that I "force" them to do
gets us in the mood for kissing, it comes naturally

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 1:50:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Great, you "screen" them.  What?  You think the other Dominants on here go to Subs-R-Us and pick one up and say, yup, I'll take this one, how much is she/he?  

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 6:18:18 PM   
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I guess I am luckier than most...I screen my subs and explain their
duties so thoroughly that I haven't had to discipline one in a long time

my subs "love" and it shows and when the seduction that I "force" them to do
gets us in the mood for kissing, it comes naturally



If I feel like beating her tits blue and yellow, or strapping her to a chair with an oscillator while I stick pins in her nipples and light them on fire, I must not "love" her. Then again you could just be full of shit.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 6:20:06 PM   
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Great, you "screen" them.  What?  You think the other Dominants on here go to Subs-R-Us and pick one up and say, yup, I'll take this one, how much is she/he?  



Don't be rediculous, Subs-R-Us went out of buissiness. You have to go to Autosub or SubsMart if you want to pick one up now adays. That or troll the bus station for strays..

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 7:24:20 PM   
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you're a real he-man you are

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/7/2011 3:28:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Endivius


quote:

ORIGINAL: GrandMasterChet


I guess I am luckier than most...I screen my subs and explain their
duties so thoroughly that I haven't had to discipline one in a long time

my subs "love" and it shows and when the seduction that I "force" them to do
gets us in the mood for kissing, it comes naturally



If I feel like beating her tits blue and yellow, or strapping her to a chair with an oscillator while I stick pins in her nipples and light them on fire, I must not "love" her. Then again you could just be full of shit.


This turned me on. A lot. Oh my...

My honey and I adore kissing each other. We are the middle aged couple you see on the beach hugging & kissing & giggling.

We also don't have a punishment dynamic. If he wants to flog or crop, paddle or wail away on my tush & other parts, he does so for his own enjoyment. He doesn't need to have a reason. He may stop long enough to yank my hair, slap my face and kiss me. He does both for fun. This is why I was happy to find a man who isn't afraid to let his inner sadist out to play on a regular basis.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/8/2011 10:14:44 AM   
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Great, you "screen" them.  What?  You think the other Dominants on here go to Subs-R-Us and pick one up and say, yup, I'll take this one, how much is she/he?  

Don't be rediculous, Subs-R-Us went out of buissiness. You have to go to Autosub or SubsMart if you want to pick one up now adays. That or troll the bus station for strays..

Well NOW ya tell me.   Who forgot to send me the memo?  Dammit Jannit, I need a new secretary, this one just doesn't do her job.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/15/2011 8:45:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Kissing is an emotionlly intimate action for men and he didnt want to be emotionally intimate with you or vulnerable in that way to you..... he was just not that into you, nothing you did, just some baggage that he carried with him from something else before.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/16/2011 1:32:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		At every greeting, i get a long sensual kiss and two to three face slaps....nothing sends me from zero to 60, his words, than those moments....he is balls to the wall accurate on that, as it works 100% of the time.. To me, the kiss could be the make or break of a relationship.




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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/2/2011 7:10:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh man I had a D like that - terrible - because I know he did it to stop himself from feeling emotional about me. But here's the irony - I used to want him to kiss me so badly, but when he finally did it was only because things were going downhill with us and I don't think he wanted me to go. So kisses galore - but that just changed the dynamic for me and ...you can see where this went.
Depends on why you want to kiss and why he doesn't I guess? There can be many reasons - but I would listen to your intuition...

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/3/2011 6:27:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GrandMasterChet


you're a real he-man you are


I get that you think you're a chivalrous "real man" in shining armor, but get over yourself, dude.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/3/2011 8:34:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Everyone is different. The same as some people are in relationships for a long time and one can rarely say i love you. One may like to hear it said and feel the relationship is loveless and often it is not. They feel that way just because the other cannot say i love you. Granted i feel for some the words can come so easily out of their mouths that they could be lying to your face just to make you feel good and could say those words to anyone. My Grandfather was just that sort of man never said i love you to grandma rarely kissed her either but would always put his hand on her shoulder, open doors for her and an all around gentleman in that aspect. But as she would tell you after a fight the man would be in tears and kissing all over and would say the words then because he really did love her. The fear of losing her would bring it out. She said, it would be after a fight he would tell her never ever take me the wrong way if i lost you i would die. Some people over do kissing the same way, you see them out in public in front of everyone doing deep french kissing for everyone to see. Is that really love or just flaunting it in public? Myself i do not like to over do either one and want them both to come at more natural moments so the other knows i really mean it.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/3/2011 9:29:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say that the way in which he was dominating you did not evoke the response of submission in you.  If it had, you would have been there hanging on his every action, striving to please him, and hoping to earn a kiss, no?  That's clearly what he was going for.  Didn't get it.  Not with you anyway.

Submission is essentially a response to domination.  He was not enough of a dominating influence in the relations between you to have you as he wanted you. That's going to happen. Even though you are "a submissive" not everyone who attempts to "dom" you is going to evoke submissive responses from you.

The next man that you meet might, whether he chooses to kiss you, or not.  Good luck.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/3/2011 9:33:40 AM   
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you're a real he-man you are


GMC,

So, you took a humorous post by a poster that most of us have read and decided to trash it for no apparent reason.
That is slightly interesting.

That he joined 5 days before you and has 804 more posts than you do (hence the "most of us have read line" above) and is half your age has no bearing on what I am going to say (and none of it is meant with disrespect).

(having read all of your posts) No doubt you don't see many of us as submissive enough for you.
The evidence is that obviously this does not bother us.
Many of us are partnered or else are secure in our desire that our submission have some specificity: we know we desire being submissive to someone who deserves it - and not just to anyone....(for those of us on the s side of the kneel).

Most of the posters here know I am an owned slave.
I might not be a slave by your definition, but since I am His slave, that doesn't matter.

When I read posts such as those you have made, it only reinforces the knowledge of how fortunate I am to be His.
So, for that reminder, I thank you.

In turn, I would like to offer the following information as a gift; whether or not you accept it is up to you:
Most people don't look favorably toward the newcomer who pisses in the pool.

I don't think you truly meant to come across as pompous as you have, and so, in the event I am correct, there is a lot that could be gained by listening to the perspectives and personal experiences of the women (dominant and submissive) who post here.
Perhaps you might consider listening even if you think it doesn't apply to you.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 12/6/2011 3:59:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		kissing is a really big thing for me.. if there is none then.. whats the point..
it turns on the taps (so to speak) and you can tell a lot from a kiss alone.
I need and want emotional envolvement from play partners..


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 5/1/2012 9:57:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I love to kiss, but my first Dom never did. The only time he kissed me was after my first play date, and then it was a kiss on the forehead. My second Dom loved to kiss, I mean epic make out sessions.

I guess it all depends on the guy, some might see it as a control things, and other just might not be into kissing.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 5/1/2012 1:09:23 PM   
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Well, I certainly can't and won't speak to "men" or "doms". But I have to laugh because in my marriage I have not trained Carol to any particular sexual technique. But man, I DID take the opportunity of owning her to train her how to hug & kiss me on command and those are two of my favorite commands. When she's on her A game she'll slink across the room and start the hug with hips pressed together and her arms around my waist. Then the hug will roll upwards till her arms are around my neck and her body is pressed against mine. Then the kiss starts. Honestly, I get a little fuzzy about the details after that but at some point time returns to it's normal flow and I feel thoroughly kissed.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 5/1/2012 1:18:20 PM   
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~fast reply~
Well, I certainly can't and won't speak to "men" or "doms". But I have to laugh because in my marriage I have not trained Carol to any particular sexual technique. But man, I DID take the opportunity of owning her to train her how to hug & kiss me on command and those are two of my favorite commands. When she's on her A game she'll slink across the room and start the hug with hips pressed together and her arms around my waist. Then the hug will roll upwards till her arms are around my neck and her body is pressed against mine. Then the kiss starts. Honestly, I get a little fuzzy about the details after that but at some point time returns to it's normal flow and I feel thoroughly kissed.

PITCHERS er it Nayer happened.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 5/1/2012 1:38:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on the Dom,but kissing to me, is part of the control. When I lose the desire to control you, I will lose the desire to kiss you, or allow you to kiss me.
Nuff said

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