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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 4:44:14 PM   
ricken


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Status: offline 		I like kissing and we do it often. Actually I kinda like when she isn't exactly in the mood to make out alittle, makes pulling her hair back and holding her face while I force myself on her all the more fun...

When I was younger, I would say most of my causual sex started out as a make out session. I just cant even imagin sex with out kissing.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 6:56:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Although....he's spit into my mouth more than once when I've asked him to kiss me.
That is just the ultimate.

Mmmmmm, yes it is

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/10/2011 7:07:24 PM   
mons


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Status: offline 		it calls for love, emotions and all of the things i never want to have
again oh hoot, kissing is so hot and sexy, i am one hell of a kisser but'
my submissive must be tie so i can tease him, other then that no kisses
i learn how to kiss from a book, too shy and a father who watch us like hawks
yes he is hiding his true emotions i think, i maybe wrong but i am going on
how i am, he may love you and not want you to know!

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/11/2011 12:23:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless JanahX is right, consider this another vote for Lockit's POV.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/21/2011 1:53:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like an odd fetish. Makes me wonder about the guy. Clearly it took a toll on you, which says something. He woulkd say kissing comes later? After one year, still no kissing? What would you have to do to get some affection? I love to kiss. I had one sub who was fine with me doing quite a bit with her, loved having me tie her up and use her orally, fuck her pussy, ass fuck her, but kiss? never... And I respected her wishes. I can understand it - it's not "safe" in that body fluids are exchanged in an open kiss... but if you feel safe enough to fuck them you should feel safe enough to kiss them, IMO.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/22/2011 3:46:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		My first D kissed me passionately for about a week.  Then no more.  When I asked him, he said he did it at first to "get" me, but after that he only truly kissed a sub when he loved her.  Never got a kiss again and to me, it was hurtful.  Felt like I wasn't good enough for him to love.  Mind you he was a psychopath, but it took a long time for me to learn that of him.  OY VEY the problems that caused when he left were of ginormous proportions.

Now I'm with P, and he's so affectionate, and that's something I need in my life, not a want, an actual need.  To be held, and hugged and feel his arms wrapped around me as we go to sleep.  I'm a snuggler and a cuddler and a kisser, luckily so is he.  Has nothing to do with D/s or BDSM, has to do with the two of us really liking each other.

So some withhold kissing on purpose, others just don't like to kiss, and some love it.  Not much else to say on that matter, it's there with a Dom or it isn't.  You have to find someone who's on the same page as you are or it just won't work out and you'll end up feeling resentful.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/22/2011 3:50:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

As said by many some don't like to kiss, but others don't kiss for a reason. There are those that I will not kiss. Slaves do not get kissed..they are property not people. Pups don't get kissed...I don't let my dog lick my face why would I let a pup do it. Foot fetish boys do no kiss me...because...well feet are just nasty. There are a lot of different reasons for not kissing someone. If you really want to know why someone won't kiss you the best thing you can do is ask them why.

ETA- *oh* and I don't kiss people that pay for pain either, because I think that would just confuse things in the long run.
You don't let your dog lick your face?!?!?!  Doggie kisses are the best!

As for the subject of the thread, I love kissing.  Someone who would not kiss me would not be someone I would want to be with.

A tongue going across the roof of my mouth, or sucking on someones tongue, my self, leads straight to my clit for some reason.  Yummy.


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/22/2011 4:00:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've heard of using the lack of kissing as a punishment before but it's not something I'd be into. I like to kiss when the connection and emotion is there. I agree with many here though, if kissing never occurs it could be a problem within the relationship however, there are some people who just don't like to kiss. I'd never be able to be with a person who didn't like to kiss. I'd talk with him and express your concern.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/28/2011 6:19:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I must be one of the few subs that prefers not to be kissed. I would rather keep it apart from Ds if given the option. Not because I don't like it. The exact opposite. I like it to the point that I find it hard to keep my sub head on. Would be so easy to take back that control, maybe even to the point of turning the tables

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/28/2011 7:51:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not a fan of kissing, most people I've had a relationship with were bad kissers. And that was not a reason to not be with them cause I place more priority on being a good mate than a good kisser.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/28/2011 9:47:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

As said by many some don't like to kiss, but others don't kiss for a reason. There are those that I will not kiss. Slaves do not get kissed..they are property not people. Pups don't get kissed...I don't let my dog lick my face why would I let a pup do it. Foot fetish boys do no kiss me...because...well feet are just nasty. There are a lot of different reasons for not kissing someone. If you really want to know why someone won't kiss you the best thing you can do is ask them why.

ETA- *oh* and I don't kiss people that pay for pain either, because I think that would just confuse things in the long run.


Basically you're saying that you aren't emotionally intimate with these people. That you don't love them. Which accords with what the rest of us said.



Ok, sorry I didn't notice this so I didn't answer...but...No. I am very emotionally attracted to at least one of those people I was speaking about. But he feels his place is well to be in his place and kissing him would just end up confusing what he is actually looking for. So I dont do it, would like to, but don't.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/29/2011 12:23:42 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

As said by many some don't like to kiss, but others don't kiss for a reason. There are those that I will not kiss. Slaves do not get kissed..they are property not people. Pups don't get kissed...I don't let my dog lick my face why would I let a pup do it. Foot fetish boys do no kiss me...because...well feet are just nasty. There are a lot of different reasons for not kissing someone. If you really want to know why someone won't kiss you the best thing you can do is ask them why.

ETA- *oh* and I don't kiss people that pay for pain either, because I think that would just confuse things in the long run.


Basically you're saying that you aren't emotionally intimate with these people. That you don't love them. Which accords with what the rest of us said.



Ok, sorry I didn't notice this so I didn't answer...but...No. I am very emotionally attracted to at least one of those people I was speaking about. But he feels his place is well to be in his place and kissing him would just end up confusing what he is actually looking for. So I dont do it, would like to, but don't.


But you are intentionally refraining from that emotional connection. It is your choice, but it is still you maintaining a level of detachment. However, since you are the one in charge and WANT to kiss him, why not teach him that his place could remain the same and still involve kissing?

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/29/2011 9:27:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Are you asking me why I will not push him to be something he does not want to be? I did that to him once and he left. I understand why he did it. He needs something but not that. I enjoy the part he takes in my life so I do what I need to do to keep us both happy in our roles. It gets a little complex to try to understand but I was talking about the pup here. When I first met him I was very big into the idea that you don't let a dog lick your face(I really don't let mine) So it was no big deal. Over time I became more attached to him. Could I try and remove his place as a pup...yes I guess I could, but as I said he left once do to that. As a part of my life he wants to be a pup. If I am to think of him a pup..well...dogs don't lick me and I don't lick them either. I'm not sure why it's a big deal. Is it because people are assuming that every loving realationship is a sexual one, and that to have sex one must kiss the other person? Because if that is it well I don't have sex with him either. It doesn't mean I don't love him. It also doesn't mean there is an emotional connection with everyone I have ever kissed.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/29/2011 11:44:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I understand what you are saying completely, believe it or not. The point is that there is typically a reason why people in a relationship don't kiss. One of the reasons several gave, was that part of it was to keep the D/s part separate. I made the statement based on the fact that you said you WANTED to kiss him, and as the top, well...

For the record, I also can't stand it when a dog licks me, yuk!

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/29/2011 4:12:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AzPetGirl

Just wondering if any of the Dom's on here use "kissing restriction/denial"
with their subs?
I would assume this has something to do with the depth of the relationship (i.e....married d/s folks probably don't observe this restriction as much?)

I'm just curious because I had a Dom who was VERY harsh with me, and rarely if ever kissed me,
even when we first met, just to give him a "peck" hello...his response was,
"nahhh nahh...that comes later" but he never wanted to kiss me, not in the "normal" way.
Maybe kissed me twice through my whole time knowing him, which was over a year.
made me sad :(
I assume it's just part of the whole control thing....at least maybe for that particular guy.

but I enjoy being kissed dammit! Lol
Is this something alot of dom's restrict by way of punishment//control with their subs?



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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/29/2011 8:43:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I understand what you are saying completely, believe it or not. The point is that there is typically a reason why people in a relationship don't kiss. One of the reasons several gave, was that part of it was to keep the D/s part separate. I made the statement based on the fact that you said you WANTED to kiss him, and as the top, well...

For the record, I also can't stand it when a dog licks me, yuk!


I agree and I never said those that gave their reasons were wrong. I only commented back because it was implied that I didn't kiss someone because I don't care about them. That there is no emotion in it for me. There is but at tmes we all most learn to temper our own emotions so they do not do harm to others.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/31/2011 6:27:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tj444

... I have been in only one true D/s relationship and he stated in his profile that he was a champion kisser/hugger ...


I'd have taken that as the first clue. 

Beware of men who proclaim to be good at or love certain activities.  In my experience, it usually means the opposite.

Of course... it could have been just me. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

...he's spit into my mouth more than once when I've asked him to kiss me.


Oh, Aileen... just eeewwww!

However, if you like it, I'm happy for you. 

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 10/31/2011 7:39:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: tj444

... I have been in only one true D/s relationship and he stated in his profile that he was a champion kisser/hugger ...


I'd have taken that as the first clue. 

Beware of men who proclaim to be good at or love certain activities.  In my experience, it usually means the opposite.

Of course... it could have been just me. 

Yes,.. well what can i say? lol I was very rusty after being married for a long time and internet dating was new to me. And that particular guy was just weird and impossible to figure out.

Now I take what guys tell me (especially from online) with a big grain of salt... and i use different methods to find out who is lying to me plus listen to my inner voice more..

Guys sometimes just make me wish I was a lesbian!... (sigh)


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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/4/2011 1:59:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to find kissing works well with daddy dom / sub relationships and I love it in normal situations. But when trying to be strict and spanking someone etc. the kiss just unwinds the whole situation.

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RE: No Kissing Allowed? - 11/6/2011 7:12:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Go with the flow....just like I don't always like to get off (BJ, HJ, fucking, JO) I don't always like to kiss. I do nothing fake....I live (as a DOM) for the moment. If my sub and I feel like kissing, we kiss. Nothing should be mandated as needing to happen...especially if there's a turnoff like bad breath, scruffy beard stubble, etc.

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