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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/25/2006 11:42:53 AM

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i respectfully disagree. Posting a question such as the Op's give one access to the viewpoints of others, and has been highly educational for me.

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I'd answer but you wouldn't understand the very basic logic of it and it would only give you fire to the idea that I care what you think, put energy into flaming you and that anyone who might happen to agree with me is somehow part of "my clique" continuing our ongoing "Drive Candy Crazy" mission.

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i have a solid career behind me, and am demonstrably able to grasp "basic logic".

It takes a modicum of energy to post, period. As to flaming, remember "maybe They just don't like getting email from you" post from the "Why Do Men Resent Getting Email" thread? i could produce other examples ad nauseum, but all the regulars know about your habitual, knee-jerk flaming of myself and others.

Can it be true? Are you really saying you're finished with me? Gee whiz...wish i knew what the magic words were.....would have said them ages ago. <Now to see whether this holds true...taking bets.>

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/25/2006 11:59:03 AM

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Can it be true? Are you really saying you're finished with me? Gee whiz...wish i knew what the magic words were.....would have said them ages ago. <Now to see whether this holds true...taking bets.>

I thought you had her blocked? You claimed as much in this post.

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/25/2006 12:01:11 PM

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Asking respectfully? Of course, just as you would ask or say anything else.
However, if he says no, I do not want you making suggestions, or communicating how you feel, then you have to decide if that is the type of relationship that you want, if it is....great, if not, then perhaps you may want to start thinking about moving on.
For me, sometimes I find it difficult to ask for what I want or what I feel I need, not for fear of rejection, but more out of feeling guilty in some way, eh, hard to explain. The difference is that Sir wants to know what's going on in my head, he encourages me to pour myself out to him, and little by little it becomes easier, as I realize that it pleases him for me to do so.
If he could care less what I thought or felt, I would have to get to stepping.
In the end, I know he has the final say, I accept it, respect it, and trust that he has his reasons for doing or not doing. I am fortunate that Sir is very level headed, and rational.
Anyway, I may have been of no help at all, and that is okay too, I tried. In any event much luck to ya.

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/25/2006 1:14:58 PM

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Each Dominant is different but i know that He wants me to communicate those things to Him, but those things should be done respectfully of course.

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/25/2006 1:21:44 PM

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My Master loves it...I write Erotica (now BDSM erotica) and he is inspired by what I write (occassionally my own fantasies) and he will take it a step further... :)

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/27/2006 9:23:25 AM

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the creativity of two devious brains are far better than one

This is just such a wonderful quote. I read it and got the "evil giggles."

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/27/2006 1:30:22 PM

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i am just curious.. do You care if Your sub/slave comes to You with ideas of things they would like to try?

I don't "Allow" my girl to have ideas, opinions or suggest things...... I "Require" it

I like a person in my collar, not just a piece of meat and people tend to come with minds of their own, I enjoy her mind even more than I enjoy her body.

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/27/2006 2:50:23 PM

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Discussing your Fantasy with your Master is all part of open communication with him. If your Fantasy is too dark for him to help make it a reality then it is up to him to find those who know he can trust and not endangering your life and emotional well being. Just be careful with your fantasy so it does not get turned into a nightmare. Be safe and well.

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RE: Do You care if they ask?? - 5/27/2006 9:05:33 PM

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Well here is my two cents. I want my sub/slave to let me know where their desires, fantasies, and mainly limits are. That helps me understand what she is seeking and needs. I'm going to play the game my way, but will also be mindful of where she wants to go. I think any good Master understands that submission is a gift and therefore you need to take care your sub/slave.

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