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susannah -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 12:07:39 PM)

ORIGINAL: INSIDEYOURMIND


Enjoy your love for someone, surprisingly, you will see that romance will find you!


"Love works in miracles every day: such as weakening the strong, and stretching the weak; making fools of the wise, and wise men of fools; favouring the passions, destroying reason, and in a word, turning everything topsy-turvy.
-- Marguerite de Valois"

I really like this quote above, it's such a broad, hopeful perspective,and I see it play out in life in general (not just "bdsm" relationships, but it's really applicable to them, too). Another "keeper" (I am a packrat and "clip n/ save" and tape valuable sayings that just "hit me" at the right time I guess, next to my computer?) My hubby will appreciate this one, too).

Thanks, you two, glad you found eachother, and thanks for keeping hope alive!

-susannah



susannah -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 12:42:02 PM)

Maybe I think too much, but I do think heaving expectations that are too high onto one's partner (from either side) will kill parts of a relationship that can otherwise really "bloom."

Wish I could be more specific, but I found this quote, and I love it (it applies to my "philosophy" and fits in w/my personal situation as far as letting oneself "grow" -it's a quote I look at occasionally to aspire to:

"To live content with small means, to seek elegance, rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy, not "respectable", and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, think quietly, act frankly; to listen to the stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart; to bear all cheerfully, to act bravely, to await occasion, hurry never. In a word - to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious, grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony." - William Henry Channing

-susannah



aliljaded1 -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 1:55:03 PM)

i agree w/ you allll on this one .. "Anything worth having is worth waiting for "


i think im a quota-holic ... lol



susannah -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 3:53:56 PM)

Gotta say - I really love the quote in "aliljaded one's" profile.

So true - anything worth having is worth working for...speaking of creative work, I have to say - I love aliljaded one's post-pic as well. Such a beautiful and artistic photograph, and so creative! (and effort). Good luck in your quest! - susannah



proudsub -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 7:55:12 PM)

The eclipse was so awesome. It's very unusual for our skies in WA to be clear enough to see events like that. Hubby and i spent the entire time in the hot tub (we turned the temp down so we could stay in that long). That was so romantic playing under an eclipse.[;)]



susannah -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 8:45:43 PM)

Sounds yummy Proudsub! - susannah



Thanatosian -> RE: is romance dead? (10/28/2004 9:05:51 PM)

quote:

and then ask for a prayer donation to their temple


Sorry - cant ever see a line like this and not think of the 'Pear Pimples for Hairy Fishnuts' Sunday strip from Bloom County - how he ever got fishnuts past the censors I ll never know, but bless the fact that he did



strouder -> RE: is romance dead? (11/6/2004 9:21:04 AM)

THis may be a little late, but it's the first time I was able to reply. Romance is NEVER dead. I believe some think that romance is a sigh of weakness, when it is really a strength. At least for me it is. In any relationship, there is room for romance. Even a sub shold be romanced at times. It is what controld the mind of the sub, to believe that there is romance (true romance) in store for her/him if they behave as expected.
It can some times be used as a tool. The sub never knowing when the romance will turn to disipline.
Romance is not dead. Or at least it shold be a part of every relationship, no matter what that relationship is.

Strouder.



Nvernilla -> RE: is romance dead? (11/6/2004 1:17:42 PM)

Romance is a very big part of what I consider the lyfestyle to be. A lot of romance is involved in the non sexual incarnations of bdsm. Have you ever researched them?



Yankeestick -> RE: is romance dead? (11/6/2004 3:36:55 PM)

Is romance dead? Of course not.

However, one of the things that has happened is the separation of romance from sex as normative, rather than abberant, in our culture.

It was in the '60's and the '70's (ah yes...I remember it well...sort of) and free love was in the air, and Erica Jong's "zipless fuck" followed close behind. These days kids "hook up" with no thought of emotional involvement whatsoever (damn kids!). I know whereof I speak, because I saw something about it on TV - I think.

Closer to home: In our happy little world, how many people (men and women alike) "play" in the most intimate and technical ways - romance entirely irrelevant to (say) the stark fact that that one person's fist is fully swallowed up in another's flesh - a human glove.

She gloves me,
She glove me not...

I say: Forrest Gump is right! Romantic is as romantic does.

Some bdsm people seemingly have (or need) none in their lives (there are some here) - and others have (or need) oodles (there are a some of those here too).

I say: pick what's important for you, cultivate it, and let the world know that it's a primary value - right on your profile.

That way you'll attract the like-minded [:)] , and scare away the rest.[:-].

Wasn't it Socrates who said, "Know thyself" and "The un-examined wife is not worth whipping"...or something like that?

Best -

Yankeestick the Romantic



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