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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/20/2011 10:42:42 AM   
Hisprettybaby


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ORIGINAL: Cummingsub

I have noticed that just about every mistress on this site wants a future male subs to buy them things just to get noticed. Masters looking for female slaves do not ask for the females to buy them anything. Why is that?

Not all Dommes do. There are some that expect that, but then there are also some male subs that are into that particular kink too. If you're not into it, just hide their profiles and pass them by. Easy peasy. As for male Doms not wanting females to buy them anything, well, I have to admit I've never run into one who expects that. But I HAVE come across multiple male Doms who expect to be in total control of a girl's finances and everything she owns once she's in a relationship with him. So how is that all that different? Plus, like someone else said, most guys don't ask for money, they want their dicks sucked instead.

Everyone gets irritated by something. I get irritated by these guys who write from across country or a different continent altogether and want me to talk endlessly about feminization, cuckolding, and online Domination, when my profile clearly says I'm looking for local and that I am NOT into feminization or online. Then there are the guys who say they are owned and still want to play online, and all they write about is their wanky fantasies and what they want me to do to/for them.

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/20/2011 1:47:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		A Domme friend once said something to me that also may give some insight.

"Men like dominant women to be attired and appear in a certain manner. He wants me to be in a corset, stockings, thigh high spike heeled boots with perfect hair and nails while wielding a custom made pink flogger. It makes for a $700 evening."



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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/20/2011 2:55:21 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

A Domme friend once said something to me that also may give some insight.

"Men like dominant women to be attired and appear in a certain manner. He wants me to be in a corset, stockings, thigh high spike heeled boots with perfect hair and nails while wielding a custom made pink flogger. It makes for a $700 evening."

Sometimes, that kind of sexy fantasy fulfillment costs $$ for sure.

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? (Georgia) - 10/20/2011 10:36:28 PM   
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I used to give the guys that said this the hairy eyeball (sorry, zephy!) but then I changed my parameters on the other side to show me everyone in Michigan. Damned if they aren't right, there are VERY few of those red letter names, and at least 80% (purely an estimate) are of the $$$$$ variety. Which makes me sad, kind of, but also makes for the case of LEAVING THE DAMN HOUSE and going to pervy events.


ROFL .. She is right!


Eight out of every ten females listed here ask for $$$$$$$$$ AND say they are NOT Pro's! ROFL ...

Get out and meet real people ... or learn to distingish between the eight after cash .. and the two who want everything you are not ... and then settle for less!

ROFL Online is most often a fantasy game. Deal with it.

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/26/2011 4:38:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

A Domme friend once said something to me that also may give some insight.

"Men like dominant women to be attired and appear in a certain manner. He wants me to be in a corset, stockings, thigh high spike heeled boots with perfect hair and nails while wielding a custom made pink flogger. It makes for a $700 evening."




I can certainly understand that point myself.  A PROPER corset starts at 50 dollars, Boots can run into the hundreds, as can many of the other accoutrements. 

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/26/2011 8:04:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cummingsub

I have noticed that just about every mistress on this site wants a future male subs to buy them things just to get noticed. Masters looking for female slaves do not ask for the females to buy them anything. Why is that?


That's not exactly true......

(There are 3 that I've found that don't).

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/29/2011 6:04:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cummingsub

I have noticed that just about every mistress on this site wants a future male subs to buy them things just to get noticed. Masters looking for female slaves do not ask for the females to buy them anything. Why is that?


And the ones that don't charge are so turned off by the complainers who whinge and whine about something they could easily ignore, so it's catch 22, you better have a sex change and apply to one of the masters looking for female slaves!

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/29/2011 6:14:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TraciTv

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

A Domme friend once said something to me that also may give some insight.

"Men like dominant women to be attired and appear in a certain manner. He wants me to be in a corset, stockings, thigh high spike heeled boots with perfect hair and nails while wielding a custom made pink flogger. It makes for a $700 evening."




I can certainly understand that point myself.  A PROPER corset starts at 50 dollars, Boots can run into the hundreds, as can many of the other accoutrements. 



Where the hell do you buy your corsets from? I want that address, I have yet to find a halfway decent one under £100, steel boning doesn't come cheaply and I don't go for the "pretends to be a corset" options.

Amazing how most guys have no problem expecting a woman to have all sorts of fetish attire and tools to cater to their fetishes, but they seem to have a hedgehog in their pockets when it comes to paying for their fetishes... Corsets, boots, floggers, whips, fetish clothes in general and fetish footwear are expensive, why on earth should women pay for you to get your kicks? Don't like it, go to your local munch and meet people, scale down and stop demanding and realize that you have to bring quite a bit to the table (ie do something that gets her going, even if it is washing her car or painting her house) - too much work? Well, ain't that a shame...

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 5:29:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		What do you say about the rampant fanasy many s-types have about living in a cage in their mistress' basement, only let out to "serve" (these "service" fantasies seldom involve washing the dishes or scrubbing the toilet), take3n out of the house as a trophy for events or to be passed around like the chubby girl at a frat party (no offense to the chubby girls out there, more a comment on self-image than size, if you know me you know my tastes run to rubenesque, voluptuous, bathylcolpian women), fed gruel or dog food regularly and basically being a burden on the poor archetype from bad bdsm porn? Who do you think pays for all the diapers and dog food and play party admissions in these fantasies?

Sorry for my typically gross run-on sentence.


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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 5:49:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Where the hell do you buy your corsets from? I want that address, I have yet to find a halfway decent one under £100, steel boning doesn't come cheaply and I don't go for the "pretends to be a corset" options.


http://www.timeless-trends.com/
check out timeless trends -- with the exchange rate, you could get an underbust for under £100; these ones are notoriously good for the price, and the steel bones are real.

http://www.corsets-uk.com/authentic/heavy-lacing-corsets.html
i've heard good things about their corsets, in the Elegantly Waisted group on fetlife. a few americans i know have bought corsets from them, too, and they've been pretty decent.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Amazing how most guys have no problem expecting a woman to have all sorts of fetish attire and tools to cater to their fetishes, but they seem to have a hedgehog in their pockets when it comes to paying for their fetishes... Corsets, boots, floggers, whips, fetish clothes in general and fetish footwear are expensive, why on earth should women pay for you to get your kicks?


someone's gotta pay for it, and if it's their demand, they should. but all you get are more whines about "money dommes." i guess, though, they just assume that that stuff is all a part of the "natural habitat" of any "weal" FemDom. =p i mean, can you call yourself a female dominant without any of those things?! i think not! =p

dominant guys don't seem to think that way; if they want something, they'll facilitate it. but i guess the kink-on-demand subs don't want to think of themselves as making demands, and thus, having to facilitate them. even as a sub chick, when there were issues with keeping me tied down, i happened by the store and bought stuff for him to make spreader bars from. =p he was happy i'd taken initiative to help with his plans, and put them together to his liking, but seriously, it's not that hard for a sub to put money towards something that might be fun for both of you. be a problem solver and help out, instead of just whining and expecting the Dominant to do/fix/create everything to suit you.

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde
What do you say about the rampant fanasy many s-types have about living in a cage in their mistress' basement, only let out to "serve" (these "service" fantasies seldom involve washing the dishes or scrubbing the toilet), ... <snip> ...basically being a burden on the poor archetype from bad bdsm porn? Who do you think pays for all the diapers and dog food and play party admissions in these fantasies?


great point, darchChylde; i wouldn't even dream of calling that "service." i'm fascinated by those who do, though. if they meet women who do specifically want to keep them locked up, then hey -- they're now serving the actual will of the Dominant, but if they come out with that first hand -- "please, Mistress, put me in a cage, so that i can be real property, and only let me out to serve me in any way you wish; strap-ons, forced bi, feminize me, whatever you want!" -- it's not about her will at all.  life is just "scene," "go laze around in a cage," "scene," "she'll feed me," "scene." where's the actual LIFE?

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 7:36:28 AM   
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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 12:01:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Where the hell do you buy your corsets from? I want that address, I have yet to find a halfway decent one under £100, steel boning doesn't come cheaply and I don't go for the "pretends to be a corset" options.


http://www.timeless-trends.com/
check out timeless trends -- with the exchange rate, you could get an underbust for under £100; these ones are notoriously good for the price, and the steel bones are real.

http://www.corsets-uk.com/authentic/heavy-lacing-corsets.html
i've heard good things about their corsets, in the Elegantly Waisted group on fetlife. a few americans i know have bought corsets from them, too, and they've been pretty decent.



I know the UK site, but they only have one underbust and an overbust off the rack, doesn't work with my build (I'm a bit chest heavy), plus I'm not really keen on the materials they offer.

As for the timeless trends, the exchange rate might be in my fave, but then sending and customs... We have very greedy customs people who slap import duties on.

I hardly ever buy corsets from the web without seeing them (except from Vollers) as all too often I've been really disappointed as the front fastening wasn't as smooth and well made than good ones in shops, which really leads to the corset in the end being ruined or ending it's life prematurely in the trash. Always floors me why most of them use the cheap front panels, the ones with nicely rounded fastenings can't be much more expensive and are just so essential.


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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 12:25:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since this question is asked on a regular basis and answered over and over, I am going to try a simply reply. Because we own all the pussy, that's why. There, does that satisfy you?

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 10/30/2011 12:49:33 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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ORIGINAL: Delilya

Since this question is asked on a regular basis and answered over and over, I am going to try a simply reply. Because we own all the pussy, that's why. There, does that satisfy you?



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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep
quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde
What do you say about the rampant fanasy many s-types have about living in a cage in their mistress' basement, only let out to "serve" (these "service" fantasies seldom involve washing the dishes or scrubbing the toilet), ... <snip> ...basically being a burden on the poor archetype from bad bdsm porn? Who do you think pays for all the diapers and dog food and play party admissions in these fantasies?

great point, darchChylde; i wouldn't even dream of calling that "service." i'm fascinated by those who do, though. if they meet women who do specifically want to keep them locked up, then hey -- they're now serving the actual will of the Dominant, but if they come out with that first hand -- "please, Mistress, put me in a cage, so that i can be real property, and only let me out to serve me in any way you wish; strap-ons, forced bi, feminize me, whatever you want!" -- it's not about her will at all.  life is just "scene," "go laze around in a cage," "scene," "she'll feed me," "scene." where's the actual LIFE?

I'm with Lilly on this. ^^^

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 4:49:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cummingsub

Masters looking for female slaves do not ask for the females to buy them anything. Why is that?

They ask for blow jobs. Everyone gets paid somehow. Let's face it, dude... blow jobs last about 3 mins but Prada lasts forever.

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Let's face it, dude... blow jobs last about 3 mins but Prada lasts forever.

I LOVE that!♥
Let's face it, dude... blow jobs last about 3 mins but Prada lasts forever.
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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 5:25:11 AM   
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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 7:47:12 AM   
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Is it the first of the month already?!!


yup, All Saints Day... bewtter known as Why Don't I Have a Hangover Day in my world



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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 8:44:19 AM   
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just sayin' ...

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 8:50:56 AM   
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Is it the first of the month already?!!

oh dear heavens Blushes I just snorted rice thru my nose
stingggggggggggggggzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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RE: Why do you have to pay to serve? - 11/1/2011 8:53:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP, you dont have to pay to serve... its your choice.
Granted YOU may only find Pay to serve , but you should widen your expectations or learn that women are not JUST Interested in what you want.
Complain and whine but its not going away, ever. I have a list of about 30 pay piggies from the other side, why do you want to limit their desires to make your search easier?

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