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RE: Does Dominance Imply Order? - 10/26/2011 8:27:11 AM

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A total lack of organization (or cleanliness for that matter), a not taking care of or caring about your stuff and where you live is a sign of depression. Chronically depressed people don't make good dominants or submissves, b/c they don't make good partners.

A sign of depression, possibly. Is it only a sign for depression, doubtful. Probably a sign of a hundred other things.

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RE: Does Dominance Imply Order? - 11/2/2011 12:19:42 AM

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I can take this further and think that if their life is a mess ie bad divorce, no relationship with their kids ( lots of that around here) they have a string of ex's , they are overweight, etc then they are not dominant. I don't think that's necessarily true. everyone can have a patch in their life when the eggs are all in a row, but at the core they are still how they are. If the dishevelled life continues on and on and on I would say they might want to be dominant and are looking to find a submissive to fix them. Oh the psychology.

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RE: Does Dominance Imply Order? - 11/2/2011 3:26:00 AM

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Interesting! But don't most people want to be able to find the black pen when they need it, and the whatzamahoozey you only use once a year? Life is frustrating when there isn't some sort of order, isn't it?

I should add that my ex had his home exactly as he wanted it to be, but unfortunately he was a hoarder, so...I didn't consider his way very dominant. (and this may be colouring my outlook on this issue)

My bolding here. This is, I suspect, for blushes at least, the key. I live in a messy house. I know where the black pen is, and the whazamahoozey (its under the thingummyjig). There's a ladder against the wall because I haven't got around to putting the guitar and its stand in the roof yet. It'll get done - but probably not today. In the meantime I choose not to spend time putting the ladder away again - and then getting it out tomorrow. It's not in my way. I would probably fail your tidiness test - but I pass mine. To me, mine matters more, and I would expect the converse to be true. It's a person thing, not a dom/me thing.

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RE: Does Dominance Imply Order? - 11/2/2011 4:58:31 AM

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My home is spotless and everything is in perfect order.

This is not a dom trait. This is a trait of someone who isn't a fucking slob.

A slave/sub's house should be cleaner than a dom's house. After all, they're the one doing the cleaning (and they like doing it).

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