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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/5/2011 7:55:30 PM

joybaby

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My iphone always changes "awww" to asses, so someone sending me a cute puppy picture might get a reply of "asses!!". It also changes my nephew's name, Jordan, to Korean. Every time. It seems to have "learned" my kids' names-Britton and Kegan-but it won't learn Jordan, which is much more common-at least I would think so. The auto correct feature can be turned off, but I leave it on because it automatically adds the apostrophe...shes becomes she's, for example, without me having to switch screens to do it myself. Sometimes it adds it when I don't want it...it's when it should be its, he'll when I wanted to say hell, etc. You have the chance to change it, if you notice it before pressing send.

I don't know about the other threads that have covered this subject, but in THIS one, I haven't seen where anyone has mentioned my personal pet peeve-people who don't know the difference between "dominant" and "dominate". I see a lot of posts from people claiming to be dominates.

Coming in second is all the married men (maybe women, too, but I don't see those profiles) who are looking for "discrete" relationships.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/5/2011 8:29:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: joybaby

My iphone always changes "awww" to asses, so someone sending me a cute puppy picture might get a reply of "asses!!". It also changes my nephew's name, Jordan, to Korean. Every time. It seems to have "learned" my kids' names-Britton and Kegan-but it won't learn Jordan, which is much more common-at least I would think so. The auto correct feature can be turned off, but I leave it on because it automatically adds the apostrophe...shes becomes she's, for example, without me having to switch screens to do it myself. Sometimes it adds it when I don't want it...it's when it should be its, he'll when I wanted to say hell, etc. You have the chance to change it, if you notice it before pressing send.

I don't know about the other threads that have covered this subject, but in THIS one, I haven't seen where anyone has mentioned my personal pet peeve-people who don't know the difference between "dominant" and "dominate". I see a lot of posts from people claiming to be dominates.

Coming in second is all the married men (maybe women, too, but I don't see those profiles) who are looking for "discrete" relationships.

(I actually thought your nephews name was "Korean"......wtf did I know?)

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/6/2011 7:35:13 PM

mons

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Your right to be upset and cringe when you read letters that are wrtting so bad!
Have you mention this to anyone of the writers? It maybe a simple case of a learing
disorder!

I am an excelllent reader i know the defintion if so many words but as i have a learning
disorder, I have written post here that many just could not understand!

If this is one sub/slave speak to them about it! It is true it is like someone is just not listening, but they are i think, find out
and ask! A writer letter doest not show the true intelligence of a person! I am still learning to really write again!

mons [:-)

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/7/2011 3:42:44 PM

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Agree with this post...folks!!! Your computer has all the answers as far as spell-check and others. Yes, it would be nice to have spell check on Collar.com, lets chat with the webmasters of this sect. Maybe they can add this extra to this .com
Enjoy spelling correctly, it helps man kind......lol

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/7/2011 3:48:17 PM

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Damn lazy ass younguns today. When I was a kid you had to type out an entire word, and do it on a fucking typewriter that got tangled ribbons and ran out of ink. That was if you were rich!

Poor folks like us had to use these lead-filled pieces of wood that you made so sharp you could poke an eye out, and actually touch paper with it and move it across the paper to make shit appear. Took the whole motherfucking hand to do that.

Fucking pussies. They don't know how to write and only use their thumbs.

Pfffthhhh

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/7/2011 4:27:35 PM

LafayetteLady

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You forgot how with manual typewriters you had to hit the keys so hard, you thought you would snap your damn fingers off! And what a thrill when the correctable type ribbon came out!

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/8/2011 7:51:11 AM

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I always thought the autocorrect stuff was a joke. But my son just got an iphone and it does the weirdest things. I can't even imagine how it jumps to some of those words.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/8/2011 4:51:26 PM

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i forgot about the strangest one my iphone did...i was telling a prospective dom that i was in a meeting (typing with one hand under the table so bosses didn't notice)....i glanced down just before i hit "send" and i-well, the phone-had written "i can't talk now, i'm in a assfuck". Apparently my phone thinks i have a much more exciting life than i actually do. I have tried to hit random keys since then to bring up the word "assfuck" again, and i can't do it. The funny thing is, if my daughter types the word shit, it changes it to shot, so it seems that it doesn't like profanity, but "assfuck" is just fine.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/8/2011 5:21:12 PM

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Done to death or not, it still drives me up the wall! I actually have in my profile that I require messages to include correct spelling and grammar, and complete sentences. The number of "hello Mistress" messages boggles my mind.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/8/2011 5:23:37 PM

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The most recent gem I recieved :

"lo m8 i c u r gorgis"

This is why These messages get deleted. Fucking seriously?!

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/10/2011 6:44:21 PM

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Awww, but Endi, we all know you're gorgeous Ma'am. Nope, never gonna live that one down.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/10/2011 8:33:50 PM

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Mistress Lillian,

In the general sense, I adore crafty, eloquent wordsmithing. Artful communication and ability with language are both huge turn-ons, as is a varied, full vocabulary. However, I'll note two exceptions, as follows:

First, something meaningful doesn't have to be overly word-heavy (read: verbose, pedantic, etc.) and often something extremely heartfelt is, none-the-less, comprised of a few, simple words. Timing, context, courtesy, intent, and knowing your reader are as significant as the words themselves. Thus, a correctly timed "fookin' hell yeah, you did great", while not grammatically correct, may communicate exactly what a given listener needs to hear.

Second, as others have pointed out, there are unique circumstances for every individual. A person may not speak your mother tongue. Scheduling or medium constraints (text messaging, instant messaging, and so forth) may cause typing restrictions. Other issues (dyslexia; access to formal education; a person's natural affinities - example: I've always identified with language, but never with manual manipulation of numbers; and a myriad other things) are factors.

For me, the bottom line is... I appreciate when someone makes the effort to communicate at their best and in a way that is mutually appropriate, meaningful, and sincere. I also find it particularly endearing when it's obvious someone made me an extra-special priority and their writing reflects this.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/10/2011 10:32:32 PM

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Textspeak aside, I really don't see the issue here. The fact that you have received a message means that someone has made the effort to contact you.

The way I see it mistakes and stupidity are essential components of living and are there so we can all learn and evolve both from ourselves and each other.

As a qualified TEFL teacher I know that English has more words than any other language, around a million and a half. The most intelligent among us know perhaps maybe thirty five thousand. However most of us use maybe only three to four hundred words on a daily basis.

It's used throughout the world by maybe 800 million people. It also differs geographically not just between countries but also between cities and even districts of large cities. I'm here in London in the UK but I can fairly accurately make out most UK accents, the major US ones, differentiate between Canadians and Americans, and so on.

Sure grammar and spelling are important elements of language but far more important in English are usage and context. Then there's tone.

Tone is very important because it indicates (to me at least) the attitude of the writer towards you. This is why textspeak bugs me. Textspeak on a cellphone in a text is fine. In a Tweet it's acceptable. Elsewhere it isn't.

Online I have bigger issues with stuff like stalking, cyber bullying, people going out of their way to be abusive or unpleasant to others without any provocation but it doesn't upset me. People who talk tough online because they think it makes them more domly or hard make me laugh. But nothing really upsets me online.

Yet in this context we have people getting all upset about spelling and grammar.

Okay.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/10/2011 11:13:22 PM

MissToYouRedux

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I rarely do this, but somebody please add me to the list of folks happy to see Stella posting again.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 7:39:33 AM

LaTigresse

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I am always happy to see Stella! Whether in my in-box, any email address she has, or here.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 9:21:41 AM

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Stellauk,

quote:

The fact that you have received a message means that someone has made the effort to contact you. (snip) Sure grammar and spelling are important elements of language, but far more important in English are usage and context. Then there's tone.

I disagree slightly, but I think your follow-up is spot on. Sand blasting every potential candidate with the same message (in mass marketing, boilerplate style) hardly constitutes a great deal of personal effort, though there may be sincere intent. It's a hard line to know where to draw. I've spent hours crafting extremely personalized messages for people who ultimately just deleted them because my "pix" (netspeak intentional and used for literary emphasis) weren't to their liking. Also, it seems redundant and a waste of effort to re-craft every aspect of a letter when certain parts are general and others are specific. Thus, I now take a hybrid approach.

One thing is certain. When someone receives a message from me, if they take the time to read, they'll know my letter is handcrafted for them and is in response to something they shared that captured my interest. There's nothing generic about how I choose to contact people and what I write is usually carefully considered and intentional.

While the OP specifically mentioned spelling and grammar, I think a significant undercurrent is your second point. It's not just the grammar, but rather the context, tone, and intent (along with the grammar) that highlight the OP's distaste for certain kinds of responses. I share the same distaste when receiving what I consider are quick, effortless, drive-by responses. Very occasionally, a drive-by causes me to start a conversation and the progression reveals more substance and compatibility. However, I'll underline the phrase "very occasionally"... meaning this is an extremely rare occurrence. With me, starting with a good written impression, while not absolutely mandatory, certainly won't hurt your chances and it's quite likely to improve them.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 10:10:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Thus, I now take a hybrid approach.

FR off that quote:

That is generally apparent in messages I receive, and I give points for anything in the message that shows some personalization. (How hard is it to write a salutation?! Yeah, yeah, I only *start* with a low bar.

)

The irony often is that the perfectly handcrafted part is the boilerplate part of the message, and while I do appreciate the " earnest slaving over every word so that the message is just right" effort in its creation, that effort actually isn't directed to *me*.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 11:22:02 AM

LafayetteLady

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Stellauk,

quote:

The fact that you have received a message means that someone has made the effort to contact you. (snip) Sure grammar and spelling are important elements of language, but far more important in English are usage and context. Then there's tone.

While the OP specifically mentioned spelling and grammar, I think a significant undercurrent is your second point. It's not just the grammar, but rather the context, tone, and intent (along with the grammar) that highlight the OP's distaste for certain kinds of responses. I share the same distaste when receiving what I consider are quick, effortless, drive-by responses. Very occasionally, a drive-by causes me to start a conversation and the progression reveals more substance and compatibility. However, I'll underline the phrase "very occasionally"... meaning this is an extremely rare occurrence. With me, starting with a good written impression, while not absolutely mandatory, certainly won't hurt your chances and it's quite likely to improve them.

The main problem with that thought Stella, especially for the females, it is that it doesn't NECESSARILY mean there was an effort made to contact us. As ElanSubdued and MTYR mentioned, sometimes you can so easily spot the "boilerplate" part of the message which indicates there is a whole lot of people receiving the same email as you.

I think the most important difference is that "first" contact. When every other word is spelled incorrectly, not only does it make reading it annoying and difficult, but it makes a really poor first impression (excluding those for who English is a second language, which in my experience is much more uncommon in the States).

I recently received two "first" emails. The first, while grammatically correct and lacking in spelling errors was very impersonal, and while there was a single comment about my profile, the rest was generic. I did respond asking for more information and the next still seemed very generic. It just didn't ring well with my "gut," which I always trust.

The second email had some errors, both in spelling and grammar, but had a sincere quality that I found appealing. I've exchanged several addition emails with that guy, and I'm finding him engaging and interesting.

Context is extremely important.

As for "text speak?" It makes me nuts and I don't even do it when sending texts except for the very general, "LOL" and and an occasional, "OMG."

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 7:13:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressLilliana

I will fully admit that this isn't a huge deal and I know everyone will tell me that if it bothers me to just move on to the next. I'm also sorry if this has been posted before but I couldn't find it in the search.

I'm simply curious if it bothers others if the subs/slaves sending you messages make tons of typos or can't spell well?

I guess it would depend. I'm sure to some the intelligence of their sub/slave wouldn't matter as long as they do as they are told but personally I want my slave to have decent intelligence. Some typos are one thing but when it's constant and they obviously aren't paying attention to what they are writing it bothers me or when they misspell words that, if they paid attention to my messages or profile, they'd know how to spell them ( for example: Martial Arts is in my profile and I mentioned it in a message but when he wrote back it was "Marshal Arts"). I can't help but cringe.

Correct English. proper spelling, good syntax...all are vital for me to ever be interested in anyone.

Without that, they could be Pamela Anderson, my interest level fades.

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RE: Does it bother you? - 11/11/2011 7:55:48 PM

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I would think that would be a strong detriment......being Pammy.

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