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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/26/2006 4:02:56 PM

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I don't understand how having problems at work that are getting you down is an "achilles heel". Where did this notion start that Doms are super human and are above all problems? You are putting more pressure on yourself by buying into this silly notion. It's not a sign of weakness to be affected by the world we live in. It may be one to try to pretend we aren't.

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/26/2006 8:25:06 PM

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When I understand where there are struggles . . . whether they are life struggles or recurring struggles . . . . then I understand where my service is most needed.

I do not expect him to be a superhero, but I do expect that I will have the skills of service to help him feel like he is a superhero. Just as he will have the skills to make me feel as if I am of the greatest value in what I do for him. Even if he is the one to turn the coffee make on in the morning.

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/26/2006 8:37:04 PM

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For the longest time I kept everything bottled up inside Me. I never let it out. My precious boy, when I was suffering said to cry. Insisted on it actually. My boy said it is actually healthy and would strengthen O/our relationship. I never felt so vulnerable and so protected and strong all at the same time....sometimes that silly little slut of Mine really comes out with the most profound things smiles proudly.

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/26/2006 10:01:31 PM

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Any weaknesses or especially limits during play that I know about, I discuss with my sub because 1) we have a very open relationship and 2) maybe she can help me overcome or undestand those weaknesses or not unintentional stumble on them.

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/27/2006 8:32:54 AM

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All very good responses and so good to see that we are all human---I also wanted to add a thought here as well--and that is the perceived achilles heel could be in the reaction of submissive or Dominant to some behavior in the other--it is not merely for example My achilles heel but what if I have some behavior, issue, weakness that is the reverse achilles heel---it is My normal behavior, but My submissives reaction to is is so strong that it becomes an issue---it can work on both sides--

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/27/2006 8:45:19 AM

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My big one is my absolutely abysmal memory. If that doesn't fail me then I am a VERY reliable person but I have to use all kinds of ways around it, leaving myself notes in places I won't fail to spot them is one way.... getting my girl to act as an aid to my memory is another. Hide it? Why.... yes I find it annoying but keeping it upfront both means she knows it isn't a lack of caring and also she can help.

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RE: When a Dominant has an achilles heel - 6/27/2006 9:18:10 AM

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i think that many submissives are very nurturing people.....by opening up with your fears you would allow this quality to shine....no worthy submissive would think less of you for being human, they would love you all the more and be proud that you trusted them with your fears....

Fastlane, if my Dominant were to share with me that he was afraid of the dark, i would shower his feet with kisses in gratitude that he could confide so deeply in me....

I couldn't agree more. I relish the fact that my Dom confides in me and that he is open with his fears, wants and desires. It makes me feel even more special that He will do this with ME and no one else in his life. He knows that I will understand and love Him despite what some would perceive as a weakness.

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