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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 2:56:32 AM

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I tend to wonder if the flogging deal is just a massage or for show.

For me, yes the thuddy floggers are a nice massage. I much prefer the stingy ones.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 2:59:54 AM

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In the UK and in Germany latex is probably the most popular outfit when it comes to female fet clothing but it is for men too.
Besides whats already been mentioned, I have noticed more women into pony play than men. During my time of owning a pony girl I was approached by many women showing an interest than I was by men.
There are also lots of adult little girls with a daddy than there are adult little boys with a mummy but theres probably an obvious reason for that. More males seem to be into being adult babies but not adult little boys.
More dominant women are into being worshiped than dominant men and whilst more men are into shoe worship, more women are into owning a large collection of shoes.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 3:01:25 AM

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Hilly gets closer and closer to being my dream date. Except I am not eqipped for BWC..

Lotsa lube and patience My dear.

What is this lube of which you speak?

Well, I DO eat pussy like a fat kid eating cake.

<perks> huge cock, loves eating pussy, you are getting closer and closer to my ideal man. We just need to work on the flogging thing.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 4:31:08 AM

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I'm surprised that nobody has gone for the obvious.

Cross dressing. While I do know women who prefer at times to dress in more male oriented attire, they don't put it in the fetish category. Males on the other hand have fetishes for wearing panties, stockings, full outfits (french maid, etc), including shoes. If women talk about wearing boxers or some other such thing, it's about comfort. If males talk about wearing panties, it's generally about the fetish or connected to their sexual feelings in some way.

Cucks. This isn't universal, as I'm quite aware that there are some females who enjoy this kink. However, by far there are more male cuckolds.

Foot fetishes. You'll find some women who also have this fetish, but I believe there are far more men. At the same time, I don't think that it continues to be unequal when it comes to boots. I know just as many female boot blacks as I do male ones. I think that actually has more to do with the leather than the foot itself.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 4:47:58 AM

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there were mentions of cross dressing and foot fetishes. but not cuckolding -- that one definitely seems to be mostly male.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 5:51:45 AM

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Interesting topic and one I have given some thought to. I would define a sexual fetish as something a person desires to enhance his/her arousal. Something a person NEEDS in order to achieve arousal and/or orgasm is considered a paraphilia (in my mind, not the topic of this discussion).

I would say universally males tend to acquire more fetishes than do females. As a general rule, they spend more time thinking about sex, and also tend to have more compartmentalized brains. For whatever reason, it's been my experience there are far more men fixated or obsessed by certain sexual turn-on then females.

Males tend to lean towards feminine objects, such as lingerie, hosiery, high-heeled footwear (stilettos and boots), along with latex, chains, leather, etc. Some go for certain body parts, feet, breasts, asses, armpits, others for particular deeds, almost always centering around some form of humiliation: cuckholding, forced fem, etc.

Although wearing lingerie or dressing as a female enter into many men's sexual orientation, I don't exactly consider cross-dressing a fetish. It may be for some, for others, it's so much more (and again not the topic of this discussion).

Female sexual fetishisms tend to revolve around masculine things, the feel of a beard, the smell of leather (or latex), along with corsets, pain, bondage of all types, and all kinds of medical-related fetishes. One of my personal favs is "talk dirty to me."

I think female fetishes have come out of the closet so to speak more recently and so there has been much less study about them. And I agree, males are more obsessed on certain things, or certain acts, females more on aquiring a specific mindset (and thus their draw to BDSM).

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 7:03:49 AM

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I'm struggling to think of one that the women enjoy that the men don't

Are there any men into sniffing my pillow, that might count?

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:25:13 AM

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you can send the scruffy ones my way. =p
burly shaggy dudes for the win!

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:26:26 AM

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grey is a-okay. haha =p

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:28:23 AM

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Conversely I hate body hair aside from chest hair.

Hopes deflating....this thread is a real emotional rollercoaster ride.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:31:12 AM

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Lotsa lube and patience My dear.

Be careful, she's a fickle one Hillie, not too long ago I was her dream date....

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:32:31 AM

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OOH yeah! I forgot about pony play, and yes I have noticed a lot more women into that type of play.
As far as worship, I can't even tell you how many men demand worship... only that always seems to be cock worship.

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I have noticed more women into pony play than men. During my time of owning a pony girl I was approached by many women showing an interest than I was by men.

More dominant women are into being worshiped than dominant men and whilst more men are into shoe worship, more women are into owning a large collection of shoes.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 8:35:39 AM

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Swoony swoony swoon swoon :)
I don't really mind other people's body hair, I just don't like my own.

OK, that does it....

Hi Lilly, I don't think we've been formally introduced...allow me....

My name's Bob. Can I fuck you up the ass?

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 9:39:20 AM

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I'm struggling to think of one that the women enjoy that the men don't

Are there any men into sniffing my pillow, that might count?

Oh yeah, I think many females are into sniffing male odorant, pillows, t-shirts, groin area. If I like how a guy smells, a good whiff is both a turn-on and a comfort.

Females, in general, are more attuned to olfactory reception, so I suppose this shouldn't be a surprise.

Pony play and pet play of all kinds is more a female fetish, for sure (from my experience).

BTW: according to brain maps the area of the brain that stimulates sex and that stimulates feet are very closely related in proximity. Possible reason for all those foot fetishists?

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 10:27:19 AM

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Nope, lotsa guys are into Mommy/baby as subs or bottoms.
But I've never seen a woman's profile as a Domme or sub state that her fetish is fecal diaper play, also

a personal hard limit, probably since far more women deal with diapers, babies' and adults', in real life.

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I find that a lot more women are into the Daddy/ little girl dynamic then men are.

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 1:24:05 PM

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Swoony swoony swoon swoon :)
I don't really mind other people's body hair, I just don't like my own.
OK, that does it....

Hi Lilly, I don't think we've been formally introduced...allow me....

My name's Bob. Can I fuck you up the ass?

hahaha what?

uh... hello Bob. ass fucking for the win...?

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 2:08:35 PM

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Hmm... I find this interesting. I am attracted to rubber for the scent, not for the look or feel.
I forgot about pet play too, which I also note as more female oriented unless you count furries.

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Females, in general, are more attuned to olfactory reception, so I suppose this shouldn't be a surprise.

Pony play and pet play of all kinds is more a female fetish, for sure (from my experience).

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RE: Fetishes & male vs female - 10/28/2011 2:37:12 PM

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Conversely I hate body hair aside from chest hair.
Hopes deflating....this thread is a real emotional rollercoaster ride.

Sorry Bob but I was only thinking of your best interests. I feared you would explode from happiness and looking at your last couple of posts it appears I was right.

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