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Here is what he "actually" said:

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2. The company almost openly encourages fraternization as long as it's not with a supervisor.

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Unlike you, I live in the real world and have worked for actual companies that have policies on things.

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I've also been around long enough to know that people easily see a video with co-workers dating and jump to the idea it is "encouraged."

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The OP's "evidence" that she might be submissive

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so she is deferring to him for that direction

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Yet, we all have told him to get to know her

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Yet, we all have told him to get to know her and lay off the whole detective search to determine if she is submissive. That if after getting to actually know her, finds she is more than just his physical type, to go ahead and date her as per company policy.

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Oh and, it may be a good idea to not complicate your workplace by striking a relationship with a co-worker. 

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Think with the big head and not the little one when it comes to getting your honey where you get your money.

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Workplace romances often get very complicated. Are you prepared to change jobs if it goes badly, or even if it goes well? It is just not an ideal situation.

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Workplace romances are difficult under the best of circumstances. Add a little kink to the mix, and it could literally be unemployment waiting to happen.

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If both of you think that you would like to take it further, one of you should just look for a new position before starting.

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you ever heard the saying "You don't fuck where you eat"?

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And imo, you don't date where you work. It becomes complicated and messy.

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I do not think it is ever a good idea to date a coworker.

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Coworker = bad idea.

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you dont lose your job/sabotage your career on top of it all.

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Take a chance on a relationship, sure. Take a chance on a job, sure. Take a chance on a relationship with someone at your job? In this economy, losing a job isn't worth the risk.

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There is also always the possibility that should they break up, she may not want to have to see him everyday, and report to managers that it is a problem.

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Most have no desire to lose their jobs

But if the guy doesn't mind looking for another job then go for it!

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it possibly could. I've worked at jobs where women had men fired for sexual harassment for that very same thing. He flirted with her at work, she would make small gestures to show she wasn't interested, he'd not catch on, he'd finally ask her out, she'd say no, he'd continue to bother her about it, she'd still say no till it got to a point where she had to file charges with HR.

I've also had a woman at my last job who had an attorney almost disbarred for simply asking her out. She didn't like the attorney. No other reason.

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no company encourages their employees to hook up, the odds of it making the workplace and emotional nightmare are too high.

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynn

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Oh and, it may be a good idea to not complicate your workplace by striking a relationship with a co-worker. 

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Think with the big head and not the little one when it comes to getting your honey where you get your money.

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Workplace romances often get very complicated. Are you prepared to change jobs if it goes badly, or even if it goes well? It is just not an ideal situation.

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Workplace romances are difficult under the best of circumstances. Add a little kink to the mix, and it could literally be unemployment waiting to happen.

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If both of you think that you would like to take it further, one of you should just look for a new position before starting.

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you ever heard the saying "You don't fuck where you eat"?

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And imo, you don't date where you work. It becomes complicated and messy.

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I do not think it is ever a good idea to date a coworker.

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Coworker = bad idea.

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you dont lose your job/sabotage your career on top of it all.

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Take a chance on a relationship, sure. Take a chance on a job, sure. Take a chance on a relationship with someone at your job? In this economy, losing a job isn't worth the risk.

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There is also always the possibility that should they break up, she may not want to have to see him everyday, and report to managers that it is a problem.

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Most have no desire to lose their jobs

But if the guy doesn't mind looking for another job then go for it!

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it possibly could. I've worked at jobs where women had men fired for sexual harassment for that very same thing. He flirted with her at work, she would make small gestures to show she wasn't interested, he'd not catch on, he'd finally ask her out, she'd say no, he'd continue to bother her about it, she'd still say no till it got to a point where she had to file charges with HR.

I've also had a woman at my last job who had an attorney almost disbarred for simply asking her out. She didn't like the attorney. No other reason.

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no company encourages their employees to hook up, the odds of it making the workplace and emotional nightmare are too high.

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I'm surprised to see such negative responses considering the work place is consistantly considered one of the top places to meet a partner.

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather
I'm not really, most of those remarks come from Americans and people living in America, and not to be rude or anything, but the U.S. is a very weird country and the people there are really weird as well. Despite all the similarities and the cultural dominance of the U.S., they really are not like us at all, they have a very, very different way of thinking. In all honesty, I find them much more "foreign" than people from the U.K. or Australia, or even other western Europeans I have talked to for that matter.

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For all you know, I'm from there.

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

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I'm surprised to see such negative responses considering the work place is consistantly considered one of the top places to meet a partner.

I'm not really, most of those remarks come from Americans and people living in America, and not to be rude or anything, but the U.S. is a very weird country and the people there are really weird as well. Despite all the similarities and the cultural dominance of the U.S., they really are not like us at all, they have a very, very different way of thinking. In all honesty, I find them much more "foreign" than people from the U.K. or Australia, or even other western Europeans I have talked to for that matter.