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ORIGINAL: oneluckysub

Dominants who enjoy bottoming or submissives who enjoy topping...

Do you (as a Dom or sub) get "bored" in your role and want/need/long to have things switched up occasionally?

As a sub, I have never had the urge to top my Dom but a recent conversation with my ex has brought the topic to the forefront. It has made me wonder if this is something I could do if asked. I am not sure if I would be just going through the motions because my Dom wanted me to or if I would begin to think less of him if I were to Top my Dom.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I view submission as something entirely different from masochism. For me topping is nothing more than indulging someones need for masochism. I don't think of myself as having to be dominant  I don't consider my partner as defective because he might have a desire to have an itch scratched. From my POV, that would mean "I" was unsure of my role if I felt confused or uncomfortable in serving his needs in what ever way he required. I know who I am. I know what type of partners I choose, and not one of them, even those that like a bit of CBT, could be considered submissive.
Our personalities were set.
Sensations are another matter entirely.

But if like so many here you feel the bottom role is inherently less than the top, then do not take the chance your feelings for your mate may change, if you like things the way they are now.

could do if asked. I am not sure if I would be just going through the motions because my Dom wanted me to or if I would begin to think less of him if I were to Top my Dom.