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RE: In a pickle - 6/1/2006 4:00:01 PM

Slavetrainer06

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I agree with Mercnbeth. Seeing your grown child being sent to her room would be upsetting to even me. I take it she don't understand your guy's lifestyle. Talk to your Master let him know what is going on between you and Mom.

If it's something you must be displained do it after the party.

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ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS

quote]ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave would agree with the folks that are advising you to stand up to your mother and let her know that her domineering behavior isn't appreciated in your household...and would vehemently disagree with those encouraging you "act" vanilla or "avoid" the visit.

let her know before she comes that it is not HER house to be setting down rules in, as in how your Dom/husband communicates with you, and if she is going to have an issue with it and become disrespectful about it, she can stay home.

I couldn't have said this better myself. beth is right on.
Your home, your domain. Your Dom calls the shots.

TNstepsout had mentioned using a signal. I came across a site once that talked about 8 or 10 different hand signals that can be used for the Domimant and submissive to "silently" communicate with one another. This may be an option in your case?

collaredheart, I'm sorry to hear about your mother.

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RE: In a pickle - 6/1/2006 9:29:32 PM

Celeste43

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If his boss came to dinner, would he talk that way to you in front of him? Or is it just because it's your mother that he feels he has the right to be disrespectful of a guest? Or does he not want her there and treats you like this in front of her in order to make her uncomfortable?

She saw you being treated like a child and assumed you were being mistreated and/or abused. You state she is domineering but your only example of this is her concern for you. Had she seen bruises as well which would only deepen her concern? Did she see any example of affection between the two of you, you don't mention any, or is his habitual way of treating you in front of her to ignore anything positive and simply zero in on any slight misbehavior.

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RE: In a pickle - 6/1/2006 10:29:32 PM

littlepetkana

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If his boss came to dinner, would he talk that way to you in front of him? Or is it just because it's your mother that he feels he has the right to be disrespectful of a guest? Or does he not want her there and treats you like this in front of her in order to make her uncomfortable?

A lot of the time Masters (and subs and slaves) would like to think that your family will be more understanding of your relationship and your lifestyle than a casual dinner guest.

That being said, I understand the situation. My mother was very disrespectful of my lifestyle, and as I live-in with her to help around the house, this was an issue. However, I finally let her know that there are somethings she does that I don't like/understand, but she is a grown woman and makes her own decisions, and unless she'd like to see much less of me she will respect my choices, because my lifestyle IS who I AM. (Seeing less of a woman who lives with you sounds difficult. It's not, and is actually more effective if you avoid someone socially who you must deal with day-to-day.

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RE: In a pickle - 6/2/2006 9:33:31 AM

BlouLady

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I need to reiterate. My Sir is who he is all the time. He doesn't pretend to be anything other then him. This is one of the things that I deeply respect about him. He is most loving in private and in front of people. My mother has seen that and knows through watching and me telling her how very happy I am. He has however told me that he will try out of respect for my mother to be more discreet.

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RE: In a pickle - 6/2/2006 12:19:01 PM

GMRTGS

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Hello hope everyone is enjoying the day!!! Well , my two cents is most likely more odd then help full.but here goes. In our house, a established poly house I am the boss, protector, daddy, and over all fixit man. you need to be open communicative and stand firm about your life, be clear, just do not give out the detials. I have seen many master/slave relationships go down the drain due to a over zealious parental issues on either side, most of them though in my experience have been the slaves parents not the doms. I find if you allow them to control you or manipulate your relationship it tends to desentigrate. Some parents are cool with it,while to others depending on the past and thier relationship with thier kids, can become real night mares.Some son inlaws, daughter in laws will never be good enough for thier offspring and they will make it known. the best advice I can give is You might want to sit down with your owner/master and make up talking points in how to address the issue when your parents come for the visit.

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