IrishMist
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So Im new, Ive been on the site for a little while. And I've been stalking out peoples thread's seeing if anything really answers, or tells me things I want to know. I've had lot's and lot's of Dom's write me, I've quickly learned the kinds I dont even want to talk to. Which I've seen Im not alone in my choices. But one problem Im finding Im having is what I want to talk about with dom's I do like. I find a lot of them want to know what Im here for, and I know but when I try to put it into words I draw a blank. I also not sure how to just jump into talking about things I want to do, I find myself getting nervous. I wonder if it's because of the type of person I am, I keep everything inside. And dont really talk about this side of myself, so it could just be Im nervous to open up. But I guess what Im asking really, is do other sub's feel like this? And to dom's what's an easy subject to talk about. What do you like to talk about, what do you expect to know from a new sub?
Please anyone's imput would be very helpful, and hopfully help me see Im not the only one like this.
No, you are not the only one who feels and thinks like this  You are actually, part of a huge majority...and I am not just referring to those who are new. Even some of us 'old timers' get to the point where we just don't want to talk about ourselves with STRANGERS.
Since you are new, you are going to find that 99% of the people you talk to on the other side are fucking idiots. Straight up. They are after a quick lay, they are after a 'discreet' relationships because they are cheating on their other half, etc, etc. They are fuck heads
What you should do, since you are new, is take some time to do some in depth research...not only the reading kind...but the deep, soul searching kind. My advice would be that if you really need to talk to someone, find someone on the boards that you connect with 'word wise', and then ask them some questions. Most of us are pretty nice in that regard...sometimes lol.
My next bit of advice would be...don't come here looking for someone to 'help' you with this. That's a recipe for disaster, meaning that some nice, kind, gentleman/lady on the other side will say all the right things that you want to hear...to the extent that you are only more confused than ever. So, DO NOT look for someone. Instead, spend your time talking with others, and learning ABOUT YOURSELF from YOURSELF. Find things that interest you, things that you want to discuss...and then make informed decisions about whether or not you actually want to do those things.
Also...get out there in the real world. Go to munches. Go to demos. Talk to people in the real world who are actually 'living' what interests you.
Most important of all. Remember that you are a human being, and you deserve ...no DEMAND that you be treated as one. Don't let anyone try and tell you that you HAVE to act a certain way, because it's total bullshit, and the person saying it...is a fuck head 
Enjoy the experience of learning, and have fun while you are doing it.
edited because, well...I can't fucking spell tonight.
< Message edited by IrishMist -- 11/3/2011 9:23:38 PM >
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