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RE: New anything will help - 11/5/2011 1:06:37 PM

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Another good piece of advice is...if you are talking with someone, and all they are interested in is your 'kinks'...tell them you are not interested and walk away. If they DEMAND to know why, tell them because it is your choice.
If they ASK why, let them know that you are interested in more than just BDSM; that you are interested in a real relationship that may have kink involved.

Oh...and webcams. If you want to use your webcam with others while talking, that's your choice. Just accept that most; not all, but most will demand more than just a face shot

Be prepared for how you are going to handle their demand that you take your clothes off.

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RE: New anything will help - 11/5/2011 1:19:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Another good piece of advice is...if you are talking with someone, and all they are interested in is your 'kinks'...tell them you are not interested and walk away. If they DEMAND to know why, tell them because it is your choice.
If they ASK why, let them know that you are interested in more than just BDSM; that you are interested in a real relationship that may have kink involved.

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RE: New anything will help - 11/14/2011 9:05:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Another good piece of advice is...if you are talking with someone, and all they are interested in is your 'kinks'...tell them you are not interested and walk away. If they DEMAND to know why, tell them because it is your choice.
If they ASK why, let them know that you are interested in more than just BDSM; that you are interested in a real relationship that may have kink involved.

Oh...and webcams. If you want to use your webcam with others while talking, that's your choice. Just accept that most; not all, but most will demand more than just a face shot Be prepared for how you are going to handle their demand that you take your clothes off.

Yea thanks for the advice, I want be talking to anyone that is just in it for the kink. DX
As for the web cam, I dont even have one so They will just have to accept that. And even if I did, I wouldnt just get on it with anyone. Its like my yahoo messager, Ill get random messages of people saying to add me so we can talk and its like No I will only give that to people I really want to get to know.

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RE: New anything will help - 11/15/2011 5:40:04 AM

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Getting to know a potential partner is the same, irregardless of kink..like the others said, take the time to get to know them, and them you. Don't be in a hurry, it will come.

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RE: New anything will help - 11/15/2011 6:46:12 AM

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As far as learning about yourself kinkwise, google BDSM checklists and fill them out. Stuff you really want to try, stuff you never would do and stuff you could tolerate on occasion to make your partner happy.

Men want to know that women are compatible in kink before they take the time to find out if they're compatible in the rest of life. Women tend to operate the opposite. So the very last paragraph of your profile should have one or two sentences telling what you're in to. This way if you crave bondage and he's hopeless with rope, he'll know you aren't compatible immediately. If the guy doesn't even bother to read three whole paragraphs in a profile, you should just write him off

Beyond that, don't build up online relationships till they get to a point where meeting will be a disappointment. Meet for coffee sooner to see if there's any real life chemistry. If there is great, if not at least you haven't wasted six months.

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