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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 7:35:17 AM

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Geez, Bunny.. I think that guy has a brother in California!!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 7:44:54 AM

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I hope to all that's holy that this particular freakazoid was an only child!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 7:47:29 AM

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I see both because I talk to both men and women. If the tag says slave I will normally write back just to let them know what my idea of a slave is. I often start with "We won't be fucking(I have someone for that) so don't assume we will be trading sex for anything" and to be honest a lot of the women I talk to get the thought. The men on the other hand....oh gee can they be slow.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 8:00:08 AM

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I've heard the term "limits will be pushed" so many times, it makes one wonder why even bother listing them. I could easily see a Master saying "the vacuum is in need of use today. Here is the manual, and it is to be pushed."

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 8:12:56 AM

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LOL annie!!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 8:36:32 AM

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If you had a perfect in every way, except she didn't do housework, would that really be so bad though? Maids are very affordable these days!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 8:38:39 AM

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Geez, Bunny.. I think that guy has a brother in California!!

And another in Tennessee!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 9:13:32 AM

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When I was single I was approached by a lot of guys that thought a submissive was a built in maid and easy, kinky sex. They weren't looking for a relationship. They were looking for sex and free maid service. So, I can kind of understand why they would list it.

My standard response was "I don't clean my own house, why should I clean yours?" (I have a cleaning service)

That said, I work full time (run my own business). I have no urge to be the stay at home house cleaner. But, I do think that if only one partner is providing the income the other should be providing the home life.

And as far as weird limits, I have bowling and sky diving listed as hard limits.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 9:25:18 AM

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Hmmm, I think I need to revise my profile as I didn't list my hard limits..

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 9:25:58 AM

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It's easy to say that the slave does all the housework, but not if she's working full time. That's going to mean that she's overtired and cranky and won't be in the mood for kinky sex.

Do you really want a partner who makes it clear you don't arouse her, Hilly? Remember the axiom; more dishes means more kisses.

Besides if she's working 8 hours a day plus two hours commute plus three hours keeping the house going, shopping, cooking, etc, then in no time she's going to view you not as dominant but as a lazy user. And rightfully so.

The other thing is that although someone might want a relationship which eventually becomes m/s, it's not smart to start out like that when you barely know each other. Maybe you'll progress to that, with her staying home, but you don't start out this way.And by hard limiting housework you screen out the guys who really are looking for a mother to take care of them.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 9:45:32 AM

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Besides if she's working 8 hours a day plus two hours commute plus three hours keeping the house going, shopping, cooking,

Speaking of which, Master's view is that he'd rather have my attention on him when we have alone time rather than spending that time being here, but not really with him.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 10:32:01 AM

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I think that people who put art galleries and whatnot as a hard limit do so before getting into the lifestyle or into the site even and realize that it is meant for your "danger zone" when playing. Even allowing these kinds of things to be selected as a hard limit is kind of misleading.

I would say the more irritating "hard limits" I've come across are the ones where they are asking for online play in CBT, anal play, torture, etc but refuse to buy toys or use household items, can only cam between 10-11 am, don't have a mic, refuse to show their face, and want me to still play...yeah, because you're making it so enjoyable.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 10:40:46 AM

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I think that people who put art galleries and whatnot as a hard limit do so before getting into the lifestyle or into the site even and realize that it is meant for your "danger zone" when playing.

I've been in the "lifestyle" for 20 years. There's more to life than playing and BDSM. Quantifying that list of likes and dislikes as only something that relates to "playing" is one dimensional. Listing those items as hard limits gives you insight into the person. There are things in life that each of us truly detest and we won't do.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 11:47:50 AM

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Some people aren't here for the D/s lifestyle, some just want really rough or interesting sex. Putting "no housework" as a limit merely implies that they're looking for a vanilla relationship with fun sex.

I have seen some odd ones though. I've seen dominants that "hate" collars and bondage.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 1:47:04 PM

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When I was single I was approached by a lot of guys that thought a submissive was a built in maid and easy, kinky sex. They weren't looking for a relationship. They were looking for sex and free maid service.

This is all over the other side, it's the generic 'Dom' profile. That and a whine that no one answers their emails and they can't find anyone and why is it so hard. I should specify that I am familiar with men's profiles, not women's.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 1:50:20 PM

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That story is hilarious, bunny.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 2:29:00 PM

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Actually Matilda, I think those people mean what they say. They hate spending their Saturday touring art galleries while listening to people talk pretentiously about the art. Personally I agree with them. Now a top notch museum, no problem. But openings of new artists without vision or skill? Count me out.

Oh yeah, and no opera. Despite having a brother in law who was an opera singer, I still detest it.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 3:34:35 PM

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That's why I specified slaves wonder. To me, slavery extends outside the bedroom. I mean, I dont expect a casual bedroom sub play partner to come over and do my laundry and mop floors when I'm at work but if I have a live-in slave, I'm NOT gonna be the one doing the dishes and vacuuming.

I'd say you are getting too hung up on labels. Ultimately, it doesn't matter if someone calls themselves a sub, or a slave, or a bottom or whatever, especially on a web site. There isn't a firm definition of any of those terms that people agree to. Someone who calls themselves a slave may want nothing more than some kinky fun in the bedroom. So don't assume everyone shares your idea of what a slave is.

What matters is the specifics of what they tell you about themselves. Anybody can have any limits they choose. All you can do is decide if you will accept their limits or try to negotiate.

But, to your original question: Nope, haven't really seen any weird limits. It's just that people are all over the map in what they will and won't do, and what they do and do not like, no matter what label they use to describe themselves with.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 3:37:17 PM

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I think that people who put art galleries and whatnot as a hard limit do so before getting into the lifestyle or into the site even and realize that it is meant for your "danger zone" when playing.

I think it's more basic. They simply put "art galleries" or whatever as a hard limit because they hate to go to art galleries. And I don't see any problem with that -- we all get what they mean.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/5/2011 3:50:42 PM

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I'm inclined to say maybe not. I'd be into D/s for the right person, but I am not a maid, and would refuse to let someone treat me like one. I expect they'll pull their weight in house keeping too, just as I will. I will not be the only one cleaning house, cooking, and house keeping.

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Some people aren't here for the D/s lifestyle, some just want really rough or interesting sex. Putting "no housework" as a limit merely implies that they're looking for a vanilla relationship with fun sex.

I have seen some odd ones though. I've seen dominants that "hate" collars and bondage.

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