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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 5:36:34 AM   
tazzygirl


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: HannahLynn

i will advise cheri on  matters regarding what courses to take and what school to go to and so on, but it is her decision, she is a submissive, and has overall control of her life, but follows my lead and guidance.


Considering that in another thread it was stated that Cheri's parents are paying for school, I doubt you have any influence over what school she goes to and what program she would be involved in. Unless what was said in the other post wasn't true, of course.



Why would you believe cheri's parents have control over what courses she takes... or even would want too? Like most students, the parents pay the bills and hope and pray their kids graduate in 4 years and can get a job.

Hannah is a bit.. quirky... but she is far from stupid. I can see cheri asking Hannah for advice.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 5:47:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		My father is such a control freak that the last time we had lunch, he wouldn't let me order my first two choices...yet he made no attempt to influence my course of study, which I paid for, or my sister's, which he paid for.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 5:49:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		My dad has huge control issues as well... over certain things. Education wasnt one of them as long as we were getting one.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 7:17:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

My dad has huge control issues as well... over certain things. Education wasnt one of them as long as we were getting one.
Lucky you. My father was not pleased that I chose psychology and had an opinion about everything. The only thing that gave me any peace was that I wanted to graduate as fast as possible and worked my ass off.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 7:21:39 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I know many many many parents who won't pay for college unless their children are going to the school and major of their choosing.

I wish I could do that with my daughter lol. I don't pay for her college though and she doesn't live with me.



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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 7:32:56 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I think there are nearly as many variances as there are parents with children. As a parent, I had very little argument with what path of education my kids chose, only that they follow through. When my daughter wasn't following through, she got no financial assistance from me.My son barely made it through high school and followed his interests to the trades. Again, as long as they are following through and being responsible adults, I am proud of them.

I would not have any problem, as a parent, if I was funding either partially or fully, an education and knowing that my child was asking for advice from others. The more input they can get in their decision making, the better.

As far as the topic........I think that if a 'slave' is going to have a limit they had damned well better be sure that it fits in with my limitations also. Otherwise they won't be MY slave.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 8:17:59 AM   
HannahLynn


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Awws, DD, your crush on Hannah is so cute!
it is sometimes isn't it. though i get a little fucking embarrassed for her now and then, she says some really dumb shit in her efforts to get my attention. take her comment on this thread as a good example.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 8:18:56 AM   
LaTigresse


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 9:24:01 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		We've given the kids a limit of how far away from home they can go to school. Since it's too damned pricey and difficult to fly back from California.

And when my daughter was dreaming about Texas A & M, because they're a Division One NCAA Equestrian team, I shot that down. She went instead to a school that is perennially in the top twenty private universities in the nation. Albeit only a Division Three. But she was high point rider and went to nationals IHSA which was just fine. Now she's going to community college to add a CASAC to her psych BA and will follow that up with a MA in the field. Again within a reasonable distance so she can come home for Thanksgiving. That's the cut off, if you can't get home for Thanksgiving, go someplace closer.

My son's high school grades were not great. Instead of going to the state's worst SUNY school, he's going to a good community college and aiming to transfer to Syracuse University instead. So yes, I'll interfere when necessary.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 9:34:52 AM   
DesFIP


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It would never be a 'set' definition merely guidelines, of which none currently exist.  I think that we can agree a girl who occasionally likes to have here hands tied to the bed posts is not a slave; but at which point does she go from having some kinky fantasies to being a sub?




Actually I disagree. She could well be a slave to someone who doesn't much enjoy restraining his partner during play. Or to someone who does it to her, while she suffers through it without any enjoyment except that he's getting his jollies from it.

Slave doesn't automatically include kink or enjoyment of any particular activity. Just that she (eventually) does what she's told.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 5:41:25 PM   
SweetCheri


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynn

i will advise cheri on  matters regarding what courses to take and what school to go to and so on, but it is her decision, she is a submissive, and has overall control of her life, but follows my lead and guidance.


Considering that in another thread it was stated that Cheri's parents are paying for school, I doubt you have any influence over what school she goes to and what program she would be involved in. Unless what was said in the other post wasn't true, of course.
Why would my parents paying for school have anything to do with who I go to for advice? As a matter of fact I go to a number of people for advice on various different things. My parents, my cousin Luc, my friends Louise & Natalie, my friend Caro's father, Mme. Campbell (our neighbour when I was growing up), two of my profs, Suze, Heather, and Hannah Lynn.

And of course Hannah Lynn has a lot of influence over all aspects of my life, how could she not; she is one of my best friends, one of my lovers, my main confidante, and one of my dominants.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 6:04:19 PM   
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I saw one once that said something like "I refuse to pick your icky underwear off the floor or put them in the washer".. not word for word, but that is what it amounted to..

I can identify with that.  I've seen some gross underwear in my time...I'd rather pick 'em up and carry them to a burn barrel!!

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 6:33:47 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		a submissive has autonomy except in those areas where she has ceded it to her dominant, a slave has autonomy only in those areas where her owner has granted it.

Reasons why I love Hannah. She always goes for the jugular, and as such is *always*
on point.

Thank you, Hanners.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 9:56:50 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: SweetCheri

quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynn

i will advise cheri on  matters regarding what courses to take and what school to go to and so on, but it is her decision, she is a submissive, and has overall control of her life, but follows my lead and guidance.


Considering that in another thread it was stated that Cheri's parents are paying for school, I doubt you have any influence over what school she goes to and what program she would be involved in. Unless what was said in the other post wasn't true, of course.
Why would my parents paying for school have anything to do with who I go to for advice? As a matter of fact I go to a number of people for advice on various different things. My parents, my cousin Luc, my friends Louise & Natalie, my friend Caro's father, Mme. Campbell (our neighbour when I was growing up), two of my profs, Suze, Heather, and Hannah Lynn.

And of course Hannah Lynn has a lot of influence over all aspects of my life, how could she not; she is one of my best friends, one of my lovers, my main confidante, and one of my dominants.



Gee, where did I say that you didn't go to her for advice? I said she had no influence over your choice of school and program since your parents pay for it. But I understand why you missed that point.

As for the rest of your post? Uhmm...I'm not interested so...don't care.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 9:58:44 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

a submissive has autonomy except in those areas where she has ceded it to her dominant, a slave has autonomy only in those areas where her owner has granted it.

Reasons why I love Hannah. She always goes for the jugular, and as such is *always*
on point.

Thank you, Hanners.



You might have another opinion if you had read some of the posts of hers that I have read.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 10:01:51 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynn

i will advise cheri on  matters regarding what courses to take and what school to go to and so on, but it is her decision, she is a submissive, and has overall control of her life, but follows my lead and guidance.


Considering that in another thread it was stated that Cheri's parents are paying for school, I doubt you have any influence over what school she goes to and what program she would be involved in. Unless what was said in the other post wasn't true, of course.



Why would you believe cheri's parents have control over what courses she takes... or even would want too? Like most students, the parents pay the bills and hope and pray their kids graduate in 4 years and can get a job.

Hannah is a bit.. quirky... but she is far from stupid. I can see cheri asking Hannah for advice.


To answer your question, either hannah or heather had made the comment in a previous post. Something about how they had to convince Cheri's parents about moving in with the other girls because they were paying for her education, etc.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/7/2011 11:45:01 PM   
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...a submissive has autonomy except in those areas where she has ceded it to her dominant, a slave has autonomy only in those areas where her owner has granted it.







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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/8/2011 2:53:34 AM   
SweetCheri


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I said she had no influence over your choice of school and program since your parents pay for it. But I understand why you missed that point.
I know that is what you said, and you are wrong. Also I did not miss that point, I addressed it. I assume that was the part of my post you were not interested in. I'll repeat it for you:
quote:

And of course Hannah Lynn has a lot of influence over all aspects of my life, how could she not; she is one of my best friends, one of my lovers, my main confidante, and one of my dominants.
Since my choice of school and program is an aspect of my life, it would follow that she has a lot of influence over that as well, regardless of who is paying for it.

quote:

To answer your question, either hannah or heather had made the comment in a previous post. Something about how they had to convince Cheri's parents about moving in with the other girls because they were paying for her education, etc.
That is correct, but that doesn't have any bearing on the question of who has influence on my educational decisions. That was simply a matter of making sure my parents were satisfied that the living arrangement was one they could accept, to avoid any possible fight that might have led them to threaten to withdraw financial support.


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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/8/2011 6:55:07 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		So if refusing to pay for education isn't one hell of an influence on your educational choices, then what is? Because if they don't pay for it, you don't get to go.

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RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. - 11/8/2011 8:55:08 AM   
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