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ColeYote -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/8/2011 9:58:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain
*oh* and I would excuse you but you wouldn't like the excuse I came up with [:D]


I'm... not sure if I want to know what you mean by that.

(Also, future warning, I tend to edit my posts. A lot. By the time you reply to one I might've added some more detail or changed direction entirely. I'm going to avoid doing that with this one, though.)



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/8/2011 10:06:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ColeYote

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I in no way implied you were mine. You wouldn't want to be and I wouldn't want you to be...we are more than clearn and in agreementon that. I was not aware that ment we could not have a conversation. I was not asking to find out if you were cmpatible with anyone. I just wanted to understand your point of view. It was my error to bother wondering.

Well excuse me for taking the implications that A) unstructured relationships mean nothing, B) being gay has nothing to do with romantic attraction, and C) existentialism and nihilism are the same thing the wrong way.

Parts of that post were out of line, though, and I apologize. To more respectfully explain where I'm coming from; I'm unlikely to be with a dominant who expects me to routinely clean the place. Alright? Maybe I'll do it if I'm being punished for something, or it's made more fun in some way, but other than that, no go. As I'm sure you'd agree, it's a bad idea to date someone who's expecting you to do something you're not willing to do.


If you don't want to answer this one I will understand but....Did your mother hit you to get you to clean your room? Because I'm sorry if you don't understand why but the idea that you punish someone to get them to do something seems very wrong to me. You say it's wrong to date someone that asks you do something you don't want to do but seem to be saying it is ok to date them if they make you do it by force. I may be reading this wrong but it seems to be what you are saying.



ColeYote -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/8/2011 10:22:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain
If you don't want to answer this one I will understand but....Did your mother hit you to get you to clean your room? Because I'm sorry if you don't understand why but the idea that you punish someone to get them to do something seems very wrong to me. You say it's wrong to date someone that asks you do something you don't want to do but seem to be saying it is ok to date them if they make you do it by force. I may be reading this wrong but it seems to be what you are saying.

I think I miscommunicated something. I was trying to say a D/s relationship is generally a bad idea when the dominant partner expects things of the submissive partner that the submissive partner isn't willing to provide (and vice-versa). I'm generally not willing to provide cleaning services, but, I am perfectly fine with the idea of being disciplined for acting out of line in the context of a D/s relationship, and I would accept cleaning duties as discipline. You know, the kind of things that should be sorted out in the negotiation stages.

Also, I wanted to apologize again for that earlier post, I have a bit of a tendency to be an asshole toward people. Not sure if it's because I have Asperger's or because I dislike people for the most part or if it's a defence mechanism or what, but that doesn't really matter. I'm trying to keep that under control, but it still pops through every now and again. Again, I'm sorry.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/8/2011 10:37:55 PM)

I believe I understand what you are saying but, again, to me it seems wrong. Opinions differ though and thats ok. It's not as if we have to agree on this. Maybe we should just wait and see what others have to say. Added opinions can't hurt can they.

As to the excuse thing....when I typed it the first time I typed "you wouldn't like he excuse I came up with" <this is a Freudian slip because it implies the only excuse I could come up with for what you said is the fact that you are male. Those that know me very well know that my opinions as to the behaviour of men can be extreme. Which is why I said you didn't want the excuse I would come up with.



BeautyDebased -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/8/2011 10:42:50 PM)

i wouldn't know,

i'm hardly expected to do much housework [:)] and Master loves cooking so He always cooks.

we have gardeners for the weeding etc and someone mows the lawn, neither of us wish to do those things...dirty and annoying and certainly too much hard work when there's better things to be spending your time doing.

i'm expected to look after my appearance and always have Him on my mind, that's what's important, to Him at least.

mittens



xtwoofusx -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/9/2011 12:39:16 AM)

Those galleries can be pretty scary



tazzygirl -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 4:54:25 AM)

~FR

What is up with all these new accounts?



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 4:57:00 AM)

someone's spam/troll sock puppet........



tazzygirl -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 4:58:26 AM)

sorta what I figured... not enough guts to do that under the known account. coward



Hillwilliam -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 7:27:38 AM)

That's basically it taz



HannahLynn -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 10:22:29 AM)

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sorta what I figured... not enough guts to do that under the known account. coward
i don't know, when i saw that i had been swatted i thought it was fucking brilliant.

think it through, it really is very fucking astute of whoever. and the whole fucking gimick doesn't really work without the profile name.



alexislave4u -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/10/2011 10:32:45 AM)

I get a ton of messages from men and women asking if I'm into animals etc. that's just disgusting.



TheLovedOne -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/18/2011 1:39:55 PM)

I have bird watching as a hard limit. Nothing against birds, I just thought it was hilarious that you could even have it, plus it is at the end of my profile. So if someone mentions it. i know they have read the whole thing and not just looked at the pictures. :-)



stacey4u2luv -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/29/2011 8:57:49 PM)

i hate housework but still have to do it everyday. booooooooo i just want to serve Master as a masochist and wish there was a slave that likes housework that would do the housework for me.



ilearn -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/29/2011 8:59:53 PM)


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ORIGINAL: stacey4u2luv

i hate housework but still have to do it everyday. booooooooo i just want to serve Master as a masochist and wish there was a slave that likes housework that would do the housework for me.


Wishful thinking?



stacey4u2luv -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/29/2011 9:33:03 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ilearn


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ORIGINAL: stacey4u2luv

i hate housework but still have to do it everyday. booooooooo i just want to serve Master as a masochist and wish there was a slave that likes housework that would do the housework for me.


Wishful thinking?



Yes, i really really really wish. Where is a working wishing star when you need one?



Fetters4U -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/30/2011 12:11:17 AM)

If I have a 24/7 live in slave and I am paying the bills, I am not doing the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry etc... If it's a live in sub and we both work, that's different.

I can see putting things like Opera as dislikes, but a hard limit, really?

A seat at the Met that does not require an oxygen mask or binoculars to see the stage, costs about $100. Factor in the travel cost, dinner afterward and so on, it's quite a hunk of change. Call me cheap, but if you don't absolutely love it, why would I want you to go? I could use the money I save to hire a maid.

Or, are we talking about using Opera as a punishment. You know. Tying her in front of the TV and making her watch the ring cycle. Hmmmm...




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/30/2011 3:56:16 AM)

TheLovedOne, that's a good point. Haha




DesFIP -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/30/2011 11:03:55 AM)

The whole problem with this thread is that people are judging other people's hard limits based on their own likes and dislikes and never bothering to ask someone why they might have an unusual hard limit. Because most people do have a good reason.



kanina -> RE: Slaves with 'wierd' limits. (11/30/2011 12:01:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TheLovedOne

I have bird watching as a hard limit. Nothing against birds, I just thought it was hilarious that you could even have it, plus it is at the end of my profile. So if someone mentions it. i know they have read the whole thing and not just looked at the pictures. :-)


Actually i do not meantion it but i do have a trauma with death pigeons, really really hate them... Its very sad but true...[>:]



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