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what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 6:13:05 AM   
totalservant


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Status: offline 		Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  
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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 6:32:59 AM   
FloridaISIS


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ORIGINAL: totalservant

Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  

Not sure if She's a Pro Domme, or just a Money Domme wanting tribute?
This is MY take on it.
Pro Dommes can serve a purpose and there are some sub/slaves who are into this. This isn't my thing at all.
I can maybe understand wanting some green to help contribute to the toy collection. Dongs shouldn't be recycled..some toys you just can't reuse. Also once You get into drawing blood and other body fluids are involved than, yes, You can't reuse that flogger on someone else.
This is the only reason I  can possibly see justification for tribute. (Again, this isn't My style).
As for a Dominant wanting money upfront, yes, I'd run!  I can understand the financial slave fetish, but ONLY if the slave is collared to the Dominant, and he feels the NEED to serve his Dominant that way by letting Her handle all the finances.
The problem comes in when the Dominant tries to drain him dry and bankrupt him, if the sub is forking out cash, then The responsible Dominant needs to have a separate emergency account set aside for their sub. Also, many who are into this fetish will put the sub on an allowance system and maybe give him say 10-30% of his  montly income.
This is just one take on it. This is what I have learned from being  in the chat rooms and  from checking out sites on this topic over the past 4 yrs.
Hope this is answer is along the lines of what you were seeking? 
 

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 8:07:44 AM   
Proprietrix


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Status: offline 		Piss on it and move on.
Would you start handing out money to ladies on a vanilla dating site?
Would you start handing out money at a speed dating event?
Would you pass around your wallet at the bar?
If not, why do it here either?
Money might buy you a date, but it's not going to buy you a relationship.
Don't get caught up in a total stranger's attempt to define you ("freeloader"), just because you didn't give her a free wad of cash.
I *could* say that all submissives who don't order me a pizza and have it delivered to my house are stingy, ungrateful, ogres. It doesn't make it true. It would just make me a gold digger whose missing out on some great opportunities to meet subs who aren't nieve enough to hand out their paycheck.


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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 8:14:34 AM   
Catillac


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Status: offline 		If you aren't looking for financial domination, then refuse.

If you are looking for financial domination, which is an actual fetish of some men, then you're better off finding someone that has a website and some experience in it rather than someone trolling a dating site.

To me it just looks like a scam. Especially if she's saying she offers anything more than online or won't give out more info.

Really, would you pay a vanilla stranger to show you're interested in a relationship?

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 8:30:09 AM   
iliv2servher


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ORIGINAL: totalservant

Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


To "weed out the freeloaders" is a plausable explanation.  However, there are many scam artists, both here in and the vanilla community, who will post a photo that is not theirs.  How would you feel if a man had posted that photo?  I would ask for more proof of who this person is before parting with any cash.

Having said that, there are submissives who enjoy financial domination.  If this is what floats your proverbial boat, then by all means go for it.   If you have the ability to provide a carte blanche shopping spree using your own money, then I view that as consentual.  Is this considered professional domination?  Who knows?  In my not-so-humble opinion, if two people enter into a contract that is mutually-understood and agreeable to both, and is within the law, then who is to say that it is wrong?




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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 9:33:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: totalservant

Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


Suggest to her that you are happy to donate a small amount of money ($10 or $20) to her favorite charity and provide proof of it. 
It IS plausible that some femdoms feel the need to "weed out the time wasters" or "freeloaders" (if she means pro style domination without the fee); however, there are a lot of ways to do it without putting money in her own pocket.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 10:23:16 AM   
onemajordomo


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Status: offline 		ok ok so I did made a paypal payment of $100...and no real responses,  putting it into dispute mode did got an immediate reaction, after a period of 'bickering' there was a partial refund and then finally a full refund, especially when I asked why a males name was on the paypal account and when I called that # ( anywho.com) that male answered....

Thanks for the advice...ok ok so eagernes over rules the mind sometimes

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 11:18:35 AM   
LadyTantalize


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Status: offline 		Damnit son, NOT ONE DIME initially like that, unless she is a legitimite ProDomme!   Hell, my deposit for new submissive-clients is only $50.00 and that is deducted from the tribute for the first session.

Sounds like she is a scam artist to me.

Sad!!!

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 12:37:50 PM   
totalservant


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Status: offline 		I understand a deposit, by that time youm ost likely also have spoken to the client, and he can verify you are what you are, byt here it was I need that $ then I will talk ONLINE to you and EVENTUALLY ( most likely NOT before Christmas, I won't say what year) I will talk to you in person...Oh I will send you many documents, whom I all have copied from the internet  like the infamous checklist

dang I should come to you  :)

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 12:51:29 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear totalservant, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I am not a fan for paying a stranger money for services that may not be real or realized.  There are so many ladies out there who just want to be good and kind to slave prospects, not really out for money but a life to live with a special slave.
 
Creditials can be forged or made up, pictures can be somebody else but altered. 
 
I don't need money to weed out the willie whankers and men who need rosie and her five friends to dance with mr. dick. 
 
As for slaves paying for toys, I have slaves buy and keep the toy.  It is theirs, it is only used on them and no other.  If they wish to give me a gift, then ask for a wish list but, I would hope it is my collared slave who does this.  It is embarrassing to me to get a unsolicited gift out of the blue by a stranger.  My thought is, that the best gift a slave can give me, is their financial independence.  Perhaps through wise spending, they can retire early and be a full time slave to me.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 2:00:08 PM   
ADomDoc


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ORIGINAL: totalservant
Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


That's just fucking absurd!  Send flowers or candy if she wants a token!  But if YOU want a hooker ... more power to you!  And, I don't differentiate between pro Dommes & hookers ... except that, at least you get to fuck the hooker.  With the proDomme, you just get a tease.  To each his own.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 2:04:01 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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what do you do when a dom wants $
If He/She is your Dom/me, you give it up; if he/she isn't, you block him/her for being a wanker, and move on.  
Replace that question with "what do you do when your dom wants sex, your shirt, whatever..., and decide for yourself as you are a grown thinking adult.   M

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 2:47:05 PM   
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Suggest to her that you are happy to donate a small amount of money ($10 or $20) to her favorite charity and provide proof of it. 


This is an excellent idea. I used to run a gaming site and one of our prizes was a $25.00 or $50.00 donation to the person's favorite charity and we did provide proof the donation was made. I'm a big fan of charity, but never thought to apply it this way.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 3:14:05 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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ORIGINAL: totalservant
Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


I'd pass this one up.  Sounds like a scam to Me.  There are any number of ways that a sub can prove to Me that he is sincere and interested, and they don't include forking over cash.

Lady Topaz

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 5:25:54 PM   
Misstoyou


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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Suggest to her that you are happy to donate a small amount of money ($10 or $20) to her favorite charity and provide proof of it.


This is an excellent idea...



I totally agree with this, too. A donation that will do some good in the world "in honor of" would be a cool thing.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 7:00:25 PM   
HouseofBear


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Status: offline 		If you want to throw your money away, or are looking to be financially dominated (and go broke), go for it.  I know better ways of a potential proving their sincerity to a non pro.

Lady Ursa

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/26/2006 7:42:17 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		Anytime I am instructed that first contact involves me producing money, that's the last contact.

In my area of the country, I face this all the time. Quite often, I'll get a PM out of the blue from some really hot looking woman who is 20 years old who talks me up, and then by the second PM, she wants "tribute" to know that I'm serious. I have the same thing happening when I have found someone's profile to be intriguing, and I contact her, thinking she might be a perfect match. Then I get that response. I think it has a lot to do with my area, which is why I've pretty much given up on my area.

But again, if faced with that choice, it's an easy choice. Discontinue contact.

I once had a woman test my sincerity by requiring me to write her a story involving her as a character. She knew I was a professional writer. It was a hard story to write, and it wasn't erotica, or even strong bdsm (had some elements to it but very limited). She was overwhelmed and extremely happy with it. THAT, to me, is an appropriate test of sincerity. A check for $100 is a test of stupidity.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/27/2006 4:00:13 AM   
draba


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Status: offline 		If she is a Pro and wants money for session time, that is differant. But it is a big deposite. I did tribute my mistress for a while and did not have to give her money until it was time for the session. After 3 sessions, she found out that I gardened for a living and was not overly financially well off. She preferred to have my gardening srvices and now refuses to take any money from me. She would rather I spend it on my wife. I am so lucky to have such a good mistress and a wife that is a goddess.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/27/2006 1:47:54 PM   
LadyAlexa


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ORIGINAL: totalservant

Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


My response would be: a sucker is born everyday.  Don't send cask the anyone who states she wants proof that you are real.  What a fake I say she is.    I think once a relationship is set, if a sub wants to give me anything freely, then they can.  But I don't expect tributes....I'm not a pro....and them having trust in me to use them....wow..that is enough.

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RE: what do you do when a dom wants $ - 5/27/2006 1:50:19 PM   
LadyAlexa


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: totalservant

Her comment is 'to weed out the freeloaders'.  She has not even given any show of who she really is (except 1 picture on her profile).  By getting some $ she feels you are interested.  


Suggest to her that you are happy to donate a small amount of money ($10 or $20) to her favorite charity and provide proof of it. 
It IS plausible that some femdoms feel the need to "weed out the time wasters" or "freeloaders" (if she means pro style domination without the fee); however, there are a lot of ways to do it without putting money in her own pocket.

Akasha



I like that idea about giving to her favorite charity.  It's good for the charity and good for the sub who would then find out just how much the Domme is not a freeloader.

Think: would you give this person your credit card info or bank info?   NO....so don't allow her to take.

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