Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Biases on collarme?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> RE: Biases on collarme? Page: <<   < prev  6 7 [8] 9 10   next >   >>
[Poll]

Biases on collarme?


Posters tend to be more sympathetic to women
  24% (24)
Posters tend to be more sympathetic to men
  0% (0)
Posters tend to be more sympathetic to subs/bottoms
  9% (9)
Posters tend to be more sympathetic to Dominants/Masters
  8% (8)
Posters tend to be more sympathetic to slaves
  3% (3)
There tends to be an anti D/s bias here.
  3% (3)
There tends to be an anti M/s bias here.
  7% (7)
Posters tend to take women more seriously.
  9% (9)
Posters tend to take men more seriously.
  2% (2)
Other
  34% (34)


Total Votes : 99
(last vote on : 10/8/2012 7:10:16 PM)
(Poll will run till: -- )
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:27:30 PM   
gungadin09


Posts: 3232
Joined: 3/19/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
I don't see a favoritism toward female posters, but then I mostly see females posting!


i do, and i think it has to do with the fact that there are more females posting.

quote:


I see a lot of anti-femdom bias, from men and women.


i haven't seen much that i would describe as hostility towards femdoms, but i do often see the presumption that women must be subs and men must be doms. i admit i'm guilty of that myself, on occasion.

pam

_____________________________

[link] www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlvDnbFOkYY [/link]

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 141
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:29:06 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		Isn't that presumption--which is utter bigotry--a form of hostility? I know that I rarely post in the master forum for that reason.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to gungadin09)
Profile   Post #: 142
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:30:09 PM   
gungadin09


Posts: 3232
Joined: 3/19/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Isn't that presumption--which is utter bigotry--a form of hostility? I know that I rarely post in the master forum for that reason.


In my case, it is merely a form of ignorance.

pam

_____________________________

[link] www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlvDnbFOkYY [/link]

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 143
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:32:47 PM   
LillyBoPeep


Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline 		i think when someone saunters in with a pronouncement like "men are supposed to rule, women are supposed to follow" then that's a kind of hostility towards female dominance. -- they're basically saying "you're wrong by every scope of imagination," which is a pretty hostile thing to say about the core of someone's being.
i've seen quite a few profiles with "female supremacy" set as a hard limit. =p

there is a bias towards female posters, but, like you guys have said, that's probably mostly because those of us who post all the time are predominantly female.


_____________________________

Midwestern Girl

"Obey your Master." Metallica


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 144
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:39:12 PM   
Kaliko


Posts: 3381
Joined: 9/25/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

quote:

ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker
The only time people are being honest here is when they throw out insults on someone's personal character. 


Fair enough.

pam



No, not fair enough at all. Being honest doesn't have equate to being rude.

(in reply to gungadin09)
Profile   Post #: 145
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:41:14 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Isn't that presumption--which is utter bigotry--a form of hostility? I know that I rarely post in the master forum for that reason.


In my case, it is merely a form of ignorance.

pam



I think that's true of everyone who feels that way, but I consider gender superiority to be akin to "racial" superiority---utter bollocks.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to gungadin09)
Profile   Post #: 146
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:44:35 PM   
LillyBoPeep


Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I think that's true of everyone who feels that way, but I consider gender superiority to be akin to "racial" superiority---utter bollocks.


agreed -- it's a reflection of an "-ism" that needs to be done away with. it doesn't do any good for anyone.


_____________________________

Midwestern Girl

"Obey your Master." Metallica


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 147
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:46:49 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


Posts: 6562
Joined: 3/22/2011
From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline
quote:

The only time people are being honest here is when they throw out insults on someone's personal character. It shows they dislike them to a great degree and certainly beats the pussyfooting a lot often do.


I strongly disagree, honestly !!

I think there is a lot of honesty on this forum, it's why I like it. There is also attacking personal character, petty vindictiveness, and all the rest.

Certainly there is too much beating up on newbies who make (innocent) mistakes, as well as making assumptions about what someone is saying (often based on who they are perceived to be) instead of politely asking for clarification.

But as with all things, it is what it is. You can't change it. You can only change your part in it.

You don't like angry insults? Then don't make any. You don't like those who read into other's words, making huge assumptions, and then go on a completely erroneous tirade? Well, try not to be one of those people.

Of course there is bias here, this is a forum made of people, and it is human nature to be biased.

< Message edited by ChatteParfaitt -- 11/12/2011 1:47:35 PM >

_____________________________



(in reply to NocturnalStalker)
Profile   Post #: 148
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:47:03 PM   
Lucylastic


Posts: 40310
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Isn't that presumption--which is utter bigotry--a form of hostility? I know that I rarely post in the master forum for that reason.


In my case, it is merely a form of ignorance.

pam



I think that's true of everyone who feels that way, but I consider gender superiority to be akin to "racial" superiority---utter bollocks.


This

_____________________________

(•_•)
<) )╯SUCH
/ \

\(•_•)
( (> A NASTY
/ \

(•_•)
<) )> WOMAN
/ \

Duchess Of Dissent
Dont Hate Love

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 149
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:57:58 PM   
gungadin09


Posts: 3232
Joined: 3/19/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
I think that's true of everyone who feels that way, but I consider gender superiority to be akin to "racial" superiority---utter bollocks.


i didn't say i thought one gender was superior. However, i have occasionally made an an assumption about a new poster's orientation based on their gender, and then found out, to my chagrin, that i was wrong.

When it comes to people's kinks, i think it's the other way around. People get ripped apart for saying that they have male superiority as a kink or racial superiority as a kink, and i don't think they should be- not for having that as a KINK. When it comes to real life, well, that's another story.

pam

_____________________________

[link] www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlvDnbFOkYY [/link]

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 150
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:57:59 PM   
Ninebelowzero


Posts: 3134
Joined: 8/5/2011
Status: offline 		Agreed.

Besides a good percentage of the insults are bloody funny.

_____________________________

More come backs than Frank Sinatra

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 151
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 1:59:37 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
I think that's true of everyone who feels that way, but I consider gender superiority to be akin to "racial" superiority---utter bollocks.


i didn't say i thought one gender was superior. However, i have occasionally made an an assumption about a new poster's orientation based on their gender, and then found out, to my chagrin, that i was wrong.

When it comes to people's kinks, i think it's the other way around. People get ripped apart for saying that they have male superiority as a kink or racial superiority as a kink, and i don't think they should be- not for having that as a KINK. When it comes to real life, well, that's another story.

pam



As a kink, yeah, but MOST of the time...it's kink giving them permission to express how they really feel.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to gungadin09)
Profile   Post #: 152
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 2:00:57 PM   
LillyBoPeep


Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

As a kink, yeah, but MOST of the time...it's kink giving them permission to express how they really feel.


YEP.


_____________________________

Midwestern Girl

"Obey your Master." Metallica


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 153
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 2:01:36 PM   
gungadin09


Posts: 3232
Joined: 3/19/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
As a kink, yeah, but MOST of the time...it's kink giving them permission to express how they really feel.


Fair enough.

pam

_____________________________

[link] www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlvDnbFOkYY [/link]

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 154
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 2:04:01 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		That said, race play is a perfectly valid kink, as is Nazi play, and a whole host of other things that to me are really edgy psychological minefields. I think that the proliferation of black femdom/white malesub couples is a form of race play in itself, however subtle.

I will say that CM is not the most kink-friendly place when the kink is outside the zone of flogging...

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to gungadin09)
Profile   Post #: 155
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 3:02:19 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		I don't think I've ever seen someone say that they believe women are superior just during sex/play but equal the rest of the time. And that's the problem with female or male superiority, it isn't just as a kink. It's always a whole life issue.

But for myself, it's too damned awkward to write things out from gender neutral perspective. I've tried it and I can't find a way to make the sentences readable. It's simply easier to write it out from my pov which is male dom/fem sub and trust that people will change it to fit their own circumstances. The fact that there simply are more male doms and fem subs than the other way around doesn't mean we therefore view those who are different from us as wrong. Or at least I don't and most posters who I respect also don't.


_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 156
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 3:40:01 PM   
tazzygirl


Posts: 37833
Joined: 10/12/2007
Status: offline 		Dont hold back!

_____________________________

Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
Duchess of Dissent 1
Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

(in reply to Arpig)
Profile   Post #: 157
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 3:47:29 PM   
Arpig


Posts: 9930
Joined: 1/3/2006
From: Increasingly further from reality
Status: offline
quote:

That's odd because I've lived here all my life and have never heard anything but being fiercely Quebecois(e).
That's because you live in the real world.

_____________________________

Big man! Pig Man!
Ha Ha...Charade you are!

Why do they leave out the letter b on "Garage Sale" signs?

CM's #1 All-Time Also-Ran


(in reply to TheFireWithinMe)
Profile   Post #: 158
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/12/2011 5:12:16 PM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko


quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

quote:

ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker
The only time people are being honest here is when they throw out insults on someone's personal character. 


Fair enough.

pam



No, not fair enough at all. Being honest doesn't have equate to being rude.



Unfortunately different people have a different measure of what is rude.
There are people on here that would suggest that most nearly everything that isn't perfectly spelled, perfectly worded, properly punctuated, perfect grammer, in proper paragraphs, correct honourifics, no curse words, and only the very least little bit of being disagreeable with the current concept of what the mode of moderation should be, rude.

And yes, there is still an over all feel that hetro, male dominant female slave, M/s is THEE most acceptable relationship model.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to Kaliko)
Profile   Post #: 159
RE: Biases on collarme? - 11/13/2011 4:02:11 AM   
Zonie63


Posts: 2826
Joined: 4/25/2011
From: The Old Pueblo
Status: offline 		I only post here sporadically, but I don't think this board is any more "biased" than other internet forums. Every forum develops its own culture. Some tend to be more harsh and abrasive than others.

One thing that makes this forum slightly different from most other forums I've observed is that everybody's profile is linked to a personal ad of some sort. I often see references to "the other side" (meaning the personals side), and it seems that many regulars view the personals side as being a completely different site, for all practical purposes.

However, a newbie coming to the site for the first time may not realize this at first. That's where (I've observed) some of the problems and possible biases come into play. Similarly, when one looks at the forum and sees "ask a mistress," "ask a submissive," etc., it might make one tend to think that this is something like a "Dear Abby" forum, expecting "Dear Abby" type answers. They might be expecting good old fashioned arm-around-the-shoulder sympathy for their plight (whatever it may be).

But that expectation might be unrealistic for internet forums in general. I learned that early on when I first got connected to the internet in the mid-90s. I was thinking that "people are people, and there's no reason to expect that the people on the internet would be any different than the people I meet in real life." That was a huge misperception on my part, since I wrongly assumed that people would be just like the average person here in southern AZ.

But when communicating with people from back east or large urban areas with different cultures and ways of expressing themselves, it can feel a bit strange.

For example, others brought up how some are harsh, rude, or abrasive, while others view that as "just being honest." I find that when I travel to large cities, the people tend towards a more hardened attitude than one would find in smaller cities and towns. When I've traveled to the Northeast or the rust belt states, a lot of the people there tend to rub me the wrong way. I don't know why that is, but they just do. I understand and relate to the people of the Southwestern USA better.

Apart from that, there are those who are more free-spirited and rebellious, then there are pranksters and jokers who just like to have fun, and then there are those who go around like they've got a cucumber stuck up their butt (this last group is to trolls what a red cape is to a bull). When all these different types of people get together on the same forum, it can be interesting at times. That's what keeps me coming back.






(in reply to LaTigresse)
Profile   Post #: 160
Page:   <<   < prev  6 7 [8] 9 10   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> RE: Biases on collarme? Page: <<   < prev  6 7 [8] 9 10   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109