Awareness
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Christ, this thread would be a lot better if people could ignore the Quebecois highjack. No good comes from giving the French or French-wannabe's any form of attention - they already think the world revolves around them. Talking about them just encourages this view.
It's axiomatic that everyone has their own biases, I think we can all agree on this. To me, what this thread refers to is the resulting group-think exhibited here which is a product of politics.
Yes. Politics.
Politics is the movement of power in groups - social and otherwise. It's an intrinsic part of human society, so there's no getting away from it. With this in mind, it's not hard to see the majority of interactions on these boards as an example of playing politics. Indeed, I tend to have a meta-view on this which sees most interactions between human beings as having a political component.
The resulting biases are a reflection of the political games which have been played on these boards up to this point. And there are some natural factors which tend to favour that progression to the current state. That being, a FemDom bias and general anti-MaleDom attitude - with exceptions. Male Doms are tolerated if they're either fluffy or don't ruffle any feathers. The FemDom inability to deal with a mind-set which doesn't flatter their pretensions is one of the reasons why I have trouble taking them seriously.
I - as you've all discussed ad nauseum - have my own bias against male subs. I think it's a waste of potential. This, of course, enrages the FemDom set because male subs are their target market and the fuckers are fluffy and make good pets.
Basically, if you're a Male Dom and actually have a spine, you're a target. From the FemDoms of course, but also from a fair amount of fucked up subs. I tend to ignore that, because there's as many broken, twisted subs out there as their are fucked up MaleDom wannabes. As I've said before - this lifestyle attracts dysfunction.
So, the natural factors which favor this. Women are - by nature - usually more loquacious than men and they grow up playing politics, whereas men grow up playing games which teach them how to target. Strong men, are rarely going to give a shit what someone thinks so attempting to convert a whole bunch of people by trying to argue them into the ground is always going to be seen as a waste of time. Men also tend to have no problem going it alone, whereas women are almost automatically drawn into mutual assistance.
Don't believe me, pick a pages-long thread and watch how many of the women in it:
* Respond to a contrary opinion by reinforcing and supporting each other.
* Attempt to attack a guy by talking ABOUT him to other women, rather than addressing him directly.
* Descend to random insults whenever they see a poster they don't like.
I had one particularly nutty bitch with "sexy" in her name - an irony if ever there was one - follow me round for literally MONTHS making personal attacks whenever she saw a post of mine. Not once did she get pulled up by the moderators, but if I take someone's head off, I do it so effectively, I get an email from the fuckers. The inconsistency is amusing but simultaneously mind-boggling.
Personally, I find posting wank-fodder for the chicks kind of demeaning. It's an appeal for popularity. If a chick wants to know what's in my head, she needs to invest some time and effort. Nevertheless, some dudes do it and it always makes me roll my eyes.
I think the most damning aspect of all this is the general flavour of intolerance which comes from this FemDom established board hierarchy. In general, the BDSM community is on the fringes of society and is acquainted with intolerance and the various ways in which their kink can be used against them. Should we therefore be surprised when those adherents turn out to be as intolerant of others whose kink doesn't match their own?
Not really. It's just people. I'm always going to look down on the scat-fairies, I don't care how you wanna dress it up. And while the FemDom folks would - you think - have something in common with Male Doms, more often than not, it becomes patently obvious that they feel threatened. As I've said, I find FemDoms unconvincing, but I seriously don't have the time and inclination to hunt down their posts, post rebuttals to everything they say and make up pet insult names for them. Whereas I've experienced all those things on a consistent basis from those very same people.
I just shrug and note it as further evidence of their weakness. There is one exception which comes to mind. although I'm 50/50 on whether she's the real deal or just more experienced. We'll see.
Oh, and I'll agree with the newcomer thing. Newbies get jumped unless they're hot. Chicks fawn if a dude has a pic up and is hot - provided he's not so arrogant they feel they could never score with him. Dudes just tend to fawn if a chick is hot, regardless of her attitude. Again, just people, but it wouldn't hurt for some of those to think about their actions and realise what they're telling us about themselves.
Edit: Oh, forgot this one. If you want to see the female need to belong in action - check how many female signatures have nonsensical addendums which state they belong to this or that miscellaneous group, they're "approved" by some individual or they have this many points.
Now check how many dudes have the same thing.
You're welcome. For further enlightenment, just quote your credit card #.
< Message edited by Awareness -- 11/13/2011 1:27:24 PM >
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