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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

lbp,

you are absolutely correct on #3 and I suspect you are dead on or damned close on the other two. 

I have read a bunch of the threads on here ... I have commented on a few but honestly when reading some of them ... here I am referring specifically to the ones I find interesting and would comment on  ... I find that someone has often said that which I would have said and just do not see the point in redundancy ... perhaps I am looking at it wrong?

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As for #2, I really don't know the full answer.  I am in the process of becoming more active locally but do not know how the mainstream around here perceive it ... I am just as out of touch with the mainstream as I am anyone and everyone else hehehe and besides I really do not care what Mainstream's opinion of me or the lifestyle is.  I think the scene here is bolstered by and perhaps a bit insulated because of the college and industry in this county change the normal (for this state) demographics.

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Greetings and salutations dear reader,

Hello (We ain’t on Star Trek here. It’s just hi. And, speaking only for myself, I ain’t that dear.)

For some time my life has been moving in a generally positive direction and I have certainly been enjoying this latest period of activity and transition. The most glaring deficit in my life has been my lack of a deeply intimate interpersonal relationship. If I were a more vanilla type fellow this problem would have been a breeze to solve but I am not looking for a vanilla relationship … even if she likes to play a little kinky. If I am going to invest my time and effort into building a deeply intimate interpersonal relationship I want it to be holistic, encompassing all aspects of our personalities, desires, needs, proclivities and interests. If I am going to invest in such a relationship I will pursue that which I want … a slave.

I want a slave.

I have periodically given myself some window of time in which to find said slave and thus far no long term success. My membership here at Collar Me was something of a group intervention with many concerned kin and kith encouraging me to “get a life”, “find someone” and other such sentiments. The account I now have was created by an enthusiastic and well meaning slave friend I’ve known for a very long time. I paid little attention to the site/account until I recently reached a point where I might devote some time to the site and the search for my slave.

Though I’ve had an account for some time, I’ve been to busy to search

I admittedly thought of Collar Me as more of a “personals” for the kinky set. I mention this because I have also had as a goal the quality increase of my social circle, preferably in those areas of most interest to me. I had never really thought of an online site as being a place wherein I might find or develop social relationships. Still while recovering from recent surgery I found myself at home with a lot of time and a lot of activity restrictions … got on the computer. I began to look at the site and tinker with the various offerings. I spotted the chat rooms and thought this might be the way to go and jumped in … there is very little “chatting” that goes on in those chat rooms … or perhaps everyone just gets quiet when I come in … nah, I was right to begin with, there is very little chatting going on in those rooms … and that which is taking place is usually between established friends who have been there forever. The whole affair just doesn’t seem … productive. Honestly I believe I could chain myself to my chair, spend a day doing nothing but “talking” in the chat rooms and still not have a decent conversation much less have begun to get to know someone.

I thought CM was a hookup spot (It is), but the chatrooms were empty.

I next found the message boards and they at least had something to say … and people actually responded to what was said … nice. Then, one day, I found I had something to say, so I posted it and then posted another … didn’t really know what to expect but I was pleasantly surprised to find that people had indeed read my post and had actually commented. The great majority of the people I talked with were friendly, intelligent, insightful and they were nice enough to share their suggestions on how I might make a better go at this cyber undertaking.

Then I got on the boards, where people actually talk, and discuss, and have conversations. There’s even (Occasionally) civil discourse.   

I was quite pleased with all that had happened and pleased with the quality of the folks I had met. Then, I got busy again. I find that when I am busy and get some down time I am not especially drawn to sitting on my ass inside my house tap tapping at a keyboard … it lacks some aspect of socializing I find necessary to devote long term effort to it. Perhaps it’s the physical tangible realness of people or it could be my lack of enthusiasm for sitting on my ass inside or perhaps some of both. This is a dilemma for me as I genuinely enjoyed my interactions on here. So here I am again with something to say. Nothing profound so much just shouting out those things that are most vexing to me just now.

I met some folks, then I got busy again. Now I’m thinking about getting re-involved, but something seemed missing, that personal touch.

I will continue my search and I will continue to post and perhaps slowly I will come to know people and develop that circle of friends and acquaintances that draw me here more regularly. I will continue to become more deeply involved in the local scene … within the limits of my admittedly less than gregarious nature. It is in my nature and plans to allow my slave to lead us in the social pleasantries, obligations and such.

I want friends, and maybe some nookie from a slave.
(And purely WTF? Who asks the slave to lead. That's the dominant's job.)

Thoughts, comments, suggestions?

Brevity is beautiful.

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Post apocalypse I'm heading to Totnes in Devon, loads of Salmon, sea trout, venison. Via Stirling Lines to get the toys to survive.