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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:39:26 PM

Deceptakon

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I just don't take it lightly when people try and tear apart something that came from my heart, and is how I feel and view things. Specially after I already mentioned about the negativity. I understand not many want or care about other's wishes, but being respectful I could of sworn was something common place still, maybe that was only when I was Air force. Anyways, everyone do try and have a good one, and treat others with some regard to their mindset. Other people could be going through other things that can make situations more than they can appear to be.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:39:47 PM

hlen5

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I realized my mistake and retracted. Thanks for the assist!!

Deceptakon,

Lockit doesn't mince words. I myself am wondering how you chose your nickname?

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:41:27 PM

Deceptakon

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you should try reading people's things before trying to assess who they are and talk out your own ass to them.

thank you

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:42:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: Deceptakon

When teaching a class, you don't teach by telling everyone how they are fucking up, You point out what they are lacking in, or otherwise not maybe getting to heart and explain it a bit better in a sense maybe they would be able to understand better.

I have never heard of pouring negative comments into someone's ear and having them do better in life, for the most part that just depresses some, and makes others see it as a means of spite or just being rude.

Teachers, professors and Any other job that instructs, helps people everyday without calling negative interjections into the mix.

Sorry, I lol'd. The reason education is in such dumps is because we are no longer allowed to be critical and negative about things.

The reason your 12 year old goes out to sneak joints with his mates isn't that he doesn't understand the health risks, it's because you are not punishing him for it. The reason your 5 year old doesn't understand that torturing little animals is bad is because instead of being upset and punishing him for it you're trying to reason with him in words and reasonings he does not understand. The reason this 5 year old and this 13 year old becomes the 18 year old facing the penal system is because you let him get away with shit by trying to be "understanding" and never raising your voice. The reason he thinks at once that he is Godlike and scum is because you never show him what he's doing WRONG, just the things he's not quite achieving.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:45:26 PM

Alecta

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Deceptakon

you should try reading people's things before trying to assess who they are and talk out your own ass to them.

thank you

You asked a question, I answered in an unbiased and inpersonal way. How is that talking out my ass?

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:46:33 PM

Deceptakon

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I chose it randomly, knowing my nick hasn't much to do with who I am, an after having 4 other nicks before, decided with something that would make people think possibly before going, oh prolly just a jerk with that name.

Honestly much is done with forethought, but also I see I am easily fodder for the women and others who have been in far too experiencing situations with the failed of my sex, yes lots and lots of men as assheads, thats a fact, lots and lots of women are assheads too, but I don't go around grouping them into one pot. that would be ignorant of me.

I just am unsure as to why there is nothing but hostility and presumption when all I was here in the 1st place for was to ponder the true nature of the selection process of users when they saw a profile, reply, or just random chat banter.

Otherwise the hits on my person, profile, journal, and words are faily uncalled for and will just leave me to withhold other non helpful words.

If my profile talked of nothing but ignorance I would of expected this, but the fact I am getting good replies from this matter in email, and the ballsy ones on this thread, should also speak volumes.

thank you

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:47:02 PM

poise

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ORIGINAL: Deceptakon

No the negative undertone is never worth the reply, nor the read.

Then for heavens sake, how do you suppose your journal is going to attract anyone?
The good news is, you are now getting the attention you were so hoping for.
The bad news is, it isn't in a very positive light.

But, back to your question.
I don't care much for your journal entry mainly because I hate to see a Dominant man whine,
and even more so because it is insulting for you to say that those women that passed you by only
did so because they prefer assholes and jerk offs to mister knight in shining armor. Do you really feel
that painting your competition in such a negative way is going to make you shine any brighter? Really?

I know you didn't ask for a review of your profile, but I feel it may help you to see it as a submissive woman does.
You start off with a silly little warning about how profound your profile is going to be, and that some just may
not understand. I carried on reading expecting to be enlightened by something....and sure, while you sure did type
alot, you said a whole lot of nothing. You say you have many other interests outside of BDSM, but didn't mention a single one.

This may sound petty, but I'd also reconsider that name as your id here. It may be one other reason you aren't getting the veiws
you had hoped for. I know for me, the first thing I thought of was deceipt, and then I thought of that silly movie.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:52:43 PM

MissToYouRedux

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I know that I'm not your demographic or what was in your previous profiles, but since you say this in your journal entry: "What I want is to help, nurture, guide and involve myself with someone who is of need of such." perhaps having a positive Daddy-Dom profile would help get more positive results.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:54:18 PM

Deceptakon

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Fair enough, and thanks for explaining your thought process, without sounding like you knew what I did last summer...

Honestly, I cannot be something I am not, So I wrote the profile myself, without having much in the way of what I needed to change when I wrote said profile, I felt it was good. Kinda like when someone does a work of art, many will love it, many will hate it, but honestly it's very relative.

If that is the case, being who I am regardless, life can take notches from people's belts, and otherwise cause them to feel down at times, I am sorry for showing I am human in my writings.
It is who I am, and would not want to give a false impression of who I wasn't

but thank you again, it helped enough to know this place isn't for me regardless of my interests, that the personable people I seek just aren't. Journals were meant as a form of self expression, but on here I see they are nothing more than a means to make fun of someone or call them out for various other things.

But that is how life is, and the challenge is to rise to the occasion.

Do have a good day, and thank you.

< Message edited by Deceptakon -- 11/19/2011 12:55:01 PM >

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:59:08 PM

searching4mysir

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Deceptakon

Awesome, thank you for replying, Although, you feel as if you already know who I am just like the rest of the sub missives and subs.

I am not asking if my profile is good enough, I am asking why we as a human race feel we know everything, to the point we can easily and instantly know who is shit and who is gold...

Sorry that I appear as shit to you, but again grouping me in some sort of imaginary box, is kinda showing what kinda person you are inside, which I really don't know you, but isn't seeming pretty.

If you read that I didn't want the negative comments, and posted anyways, you are just proving to be one of the mentioned in my journal entry.

I am glad you have reading skills, an a opinionated sense of self, there are plenty of house boys who need house breaking that your attentions will be better focused on.

Do have a great day.
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to the 1st poster
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Wow....maybe it is your whiny bitch attitude that you are showing here that turns them off. That isn't dominance, it is insecurity and weakness. If one post sets you off like that, I couldn't trust you not to abuse me or my trust (and that is judging by your behavior here, as I haven't even looked at your profile).

First impressions are made in an instant. Sub women, particularly when they are new, are bombarded with emails. For the most part, when a female sub is new on this site, she doesn't HAVE to contact doms, they contact her. At 42 yrs old, my first week on this site I had over 200 emails (the younger women get about 75-100 a day). One line emails treating me like a piece of meat were quickly discarded and the men blocked.

I don't have to know everything about you to email you. I just have to think he isn't a douchecanoe and he just has to try not to offend me.

When I received an email, I first looked at the user name. Anything referencing whore, slut, or a body part I deleted without reading as it shows me that he lacks class. I then looked at the content. "Hi", "you're pretty", "you're sexy" or anything that overly focused on my looks and/or his dick and/or a picture of his cock/ass or another woman being used meant I didn't need to go any further as if he led with that then he didn't see me as a person. After reading the email, I read the profile and looked at his essay, his likes/limits, and his journal. Excessive negativity or things that are on his "lives for" that are my hard limits got a "thanks but no thanks" as we just were not compatible. If he seemed like a nice enough guy, I wrote back. The minute the hackles on the back of my neck went up, he was gone.

I don't have to know everything about someone...I only have to know enough to know that they AREN'T for me.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 12:59:58 PM

DesFIP

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The first paragraph of your profile is snotty.

You claim to treat everyone with respect yet you have attacked almost everyone here who posted.

Your journal entries are negative.

Your profile, your post and your journal entries all scream that you have anger management issues. No woman in her right mind wants to get involved with someone with uncontrolled anger.

Additionally in your journal you rant how well written it is. It isn't. But your attitude towards others drives them away. If all your relationships have the same problem, then it is past time to examine the one common denominator - you.

Suggestion: take a year off from trying to find a relationship. Get a thorough physical including thyroid tests to see if the anger has an organic cause. Get psychological testing to see if there's a treatable diagnosis, if so, get appropriate treatment. Get into therapy and find out where the anger comes from. Only after fixing yourself should you try to get in a position of power over others.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:00:09 PM

Deceptakon

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Very true, but I have revised my profile more times that I can remember, this certainly isn't the 1st reconfig, or complete redo I have attempted, nor is it the 1st message board post, although they all went alot nicer than this one.

It wouldn't matter what I put in my profile, Some will love it some will hate it, that's nature of the beast, but really what it is coming down to, is this magical aspect of which I haven't any clue as to what it is.

I could make 40 profiles, all different in every nature, and still be in the same situations, hell, I could get all of you to write me one, and get the same outcome.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:07:03 PM

Deceptakon

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You know, I am sure coming online to a random thread and posting about how fucked up he and his writings are is just as equal fucked up. :)

Would you like me to post a new picture of my Ass, so you can kiss it?

< Message edited by Deceptakon -- 11/19/2011 1:08:09 PM >

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:13:35 PM

risktaker9

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Whoa, Dude, the defensiveness coming out of your profile, journal, and thread is hard to take. Just because it 'came from your heart' (speaking of the journal) doesn't make it automatically of value to the rest of the world. Maybe if it's that precious to you, then you shouldn't post it on an internet site and then go invite strangers to read it. I can't imagine why you treat something that you care about that much in that manner. It's almost like setting yourself up for failure....see they weren't nice to me just as I thought! I shall take my toys and go home! This site has failed me once again!

When I went to see your profile I honestly thought you'd be younger because that's where the rebel without a cause, no one understands me thing usually occurs. Till we grow up and mature that is. Maybe calm down and get away from the computer for a while. Have a drink or something. I don't know but the impression here is that all of this is way too filled with drama to ever be appealing.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:16:57 PM

Lockit

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Deceptakon... look, I gave you a bit of a hard time. I'm not saying I'm sorry, but I am saying... the way you insisted on how things were to go, wanted everyone to look at your profile, etc. was a bit of a wrong move. No one, not even the best of submissives want a stranger directing them.

Look, most of us get flamed at some point. Mine was a fifteen page of attack and defense, fighting between computer and programing experts and all sorts of serious attacks upon my character etc. They were true attacks. I am not saying it is okay to attack just to attack or that because it happens a lot that it is okay. Even when I do it. What I am saying is, we all step into something once in a while... but there is life after stepping into doo doo. It is all in how we respond.

You show things in your profile/journal that are red flags to people. You showed things in your posts on this thread that are red flags.

We have a bunch of sadist... looking for some fun. We have people just loving the laughs of a good beat down. We have people trying to humorously make a point. It takes all kinds. But someone coming in and directing people is sure to get you a beat down, attitude or puts you in a category of not taken seriously.

So with that said... welcome to the boards... you can learn, grow and have your own fun... but it will be up to you on how things go. You really have to watch your ass around here and how you phrase things and it helps to really be consistent, as well as examining where you might be going wrong.

We can beat you up one moment and be lovin on you the next. Its the nature of the beast... I don't know a message board anywhere that doesn't have its beastly moments.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:19:31 PM

Deceptakon

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Doesnt matter who I am on this site or others, I am text to random people, therefor I don't matter. nor does my opinion, my ideals, my morals, my thoughts. '

Sooner I realize this, and delete myself off of these wild derailing fuck trains, the happier I most likely will be, the internet is just not able to handle decency, and or politeness.

I only broke out the rebel without a cause, when I saw that my person was under attack.

Yes, fun is fun, I don't take offense, I just get pissed. How I handle my pissed offness, is what makes me who I am, I control it, meditate with it and turn it into something more useful.

< Message edited by Deceptakon -- 11/19/2011 1:28:22 PM >

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:24:21 PM

poise

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You know, you aren't forced to list yourself as Dominant here. There are other options.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:28:49 PM

Deceptakon

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It's who I am, regardless of what you may be picking up from text.

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:35:50 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit
Well shit... many already know I'm bad...

Lockit, you aren't bad. And you're funny as hell on the phone!!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Deceptakon
the journal entry is on my profile, enjoy and thank you.

http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/1251278/details.htm

As to the OP, which journal entry were you talking about? The really long one in which you are whining? It did not impress me, as I'm not impressed by whining. Sorry. Maybe the reason you aren't getting replies is your WHINY ATTITUDE.

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise
You know, you aren't forced to list yourself as Dominant here. There are other options.

I love this! ^^^^^

OP, maybe you should delete this profile and start totally over with a better attitude.

NBMG

< Message edited by NiceButMeanGirl -- 11/19/2011 1:38:36 PM >

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RE: A plea for some assistance. - 11/19/2011 1:36:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

quote:

ORIGINAL: Deceptakon

No the negative undertone is never worth the reply, nor the read.

Then for heavens sake, how do you suppose your journal is going to attract anyone?
The good news is, you are now getting the attention you were so hoping for.
The bad news is, it isn't in a very positive light.

This is very true. Temper tantrums are unattractive, especially in a dominant.

quote:

I don't care much for your journal entry mainly because I hate to see a Dominant man whine,
and even more so because it is insulting for you to say that those women that passed you by only
did so because they prefer assholes and jerk offs to mister knight in shining armor.

I absolutely agree with this. The fact that you believe that a sub female passes you by it's because we're shallow is a huge insult.

A) The negativity portrayed in the journal entry, would have made me move on to the next profile.

B) The insult that women that aren't interested in you must be shallow, would have made me move onto the next profile.

C) The journal comes across as someone who thinks they can "fix" me.....and I would have moved onto the next profile.

It's an advertisement. You're trying to sell yourself. I bet you wouldn't buy into an ad like that if it were a female submissive that posted it.

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