Lockit
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I see that the vast majority of you have bashed my age and my authority. This is very common. I dont believe there is a set age to become a Mistress, and in my profile i do claim to want mentors to teach me to better my skills. But this thread has obviously turned into a pride issue and a worthiness issue. My servants tears were genuine and it is true that i questioned whether to punish him or firmly console him. If this thread sincerely offended you, i find that to be quite juvenile. If you think that mentoring a growing Mistress is insulting, then thats rather humorous.
Thank you for the email you sent. I am sorry if you were hurt by what I said, but I cannot say I am sorry that I took you to be something you say you aren't, because you did present yourself in a manner that assisted me in my conclusions or assumptions. It is only that, that I have to go on. As I said... most young ladies coming here claiming to be a princess or goddess superior, really have one interest and that is money. To assist in the assumption that many have are many reports that I have personally seen on the young people entering the sex industry in some manner and why they do so and to what effect upon their lives. Having the history I have, in working with a lot of young girls, pimps, prostitutes, johns, parenting, making life work and helping in crisis, etc. and seeing the effect upon their lives and trying to help them and protect them, I may have an added attitude about it all.
It isn't just a kink when it all plays out, a great deal of the time. However, there are also those that simply want the cash and it is there because there will always be horny men with different ways of wanting to meet their fantasies, etc and they will want young women for various reasons and will be willing to pay for what they cannot get without paying for it as well as having a kink or intimacy reasons for what they do. Knowing the ugly side of all of this, helps to taint my view of it all. You fall into basically a category... though I hate categories for the most part, that is sometimes the only way one can view it without being close to the situation. Trust me, I know I am in a category too.
There are times we get ahead of ourselves in life. We jump in wanting to really live, experience and explore and often don't know the pitfalls, the danger, the damage that can be done, the effect of what we do on our own lives as well as others. We tend to do more without a lot of knowledge or experience base when we are younger. While many believe all is fair in seeking happiness, how often do they think of the damages that families, friends and people we are involved with, will have to face and work through or be ruined by, when in a mad rush to appease some desire or experience? Having been on the other side of this and trying to save families and people effected by life choices some have made either by true choice or by no other choice and seeing the heartbreak and damage close hand... I have very firm opinions and attitudes about it all. We are not isolated beings and what we do often not only harms us or our life, but others. Because something is fun, doesn't always make it right. Because something that isn't always right in the long run doesn't mean it is all bad, but I will make the choice to error on the side of... be careful... thats a life you may be effecting.
You say you have been involved with some public events and watching other dominants and wish to have mentors. Being involved in a more personal manner with others rather than those here that you do not know, one could assume that you could ask these dominants to mentor you and I do hope you seek mentoring before actually getting out there in the game if what you do could have an effect upon your life as well as the lives you touch. Know a bit of what you are doing before you jump in and start making messes. I would say you jumped in a bit too fast if this is your kink, because of your post. First of all, your profile is only a few days old. You may have started this before this profile, but that is unclear. Now... you have an it... a pathetic guy that you are going to release. You don't know about his tears, what to do about them and you came to ask what to do. We can't always know what to do until we are in the moment, but if you really didn't know what to do in this situation, it suggests, since this is a fairly common type of situation, that you might want to consider more mentoring before you are actually running peoples lives.
Many men will play the begging, tears... oh no please mistress... let me stay with your superior self, I know I am a worm. They do so as part of the game and sometimes to manipulate. I guess many that are into its, worthless worms and being superior, might laugh and play along or actually believe what they are doing. You would have to ask someone more into that kink, if you will and that might have been what you were trying to do. However, personally speaking, you really need to examine what you are doing and why and see the pitfalls and have enough balance in what you're doing to know that you aren't hurting yourself or others because really... don't we all know... that people really aren't all bad or worms and deserve to be treated cruelly and as if they have no worth? Sometimes a kink can have a huge effect on a person and this is why some kinks are hard limits to people.
You having had two opportunities besides your profile to be known to us and both coming off in your proclaimed kink rather than an introduction is going to set some people off. Some will find no problem with it and some will. That too is part of what we do. We all may have some aspect of that and if we can't stand our ground in what we do without being hurt, wounded, ect. then we might need to examine things. For instance... I too have some challenges in what I do. Dom men for instance... some think no woman can be a real dominant. They attack, they try to position themselves to change/break the female domina and prove she is really a submissive, but hasn't yet met the right dom to help her see the error of her ways. If I am not able to withstand the things they say, meet whatever situation they present to me and not let it effect me... then I am not ready to go public with what I do and could be harmed by it or make mistakes. Then there are those trying to play with a woman simply because they feel entitled. If I can't handle them and know to some degree how to handle them or the situations that come up without it effecting me negatively then I need to back track and prepare. A man crying because I won't do something he wants or in taking a man on or releasing him... I best know to some degree what is going on if I want things to go well.
After your introduction, you had to have been given a clue as to how you were coming off and that not all here were into the kink you are into and how they respond. You had to know there might be something there to think about and consider how you would deal with it. Yet, you rushed in again with this thread. Another way to handle this might have been to read some dominant profiles, note who might be into the same kink you are into and contact them.
I encourage you to really think and examine yourself and what you are doing. Is this kink right for you? Will it bring about life events or changes that you can handle? Do you really feel men are worms or do you play a role? Find answers before you are out there, maybe causing harm to yourself or others. You don't have to be perfect at what you do. Most are not perfect in any manner... but you damn well can be pretty damn good at what you do and can offer balance and assurance that you aren't doing harm.
< Message edited by Lockit -- 11/24/2011 10:50:56 AM >
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