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ORIGINAL: Kirata

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ORIGINAL: tolovetolaugh

That they stay together is the main condition of anyone who wants to adopt them, as they have been together all 5 years of their life since they were born together in Australia, and lived in Portugal, England, and now here without being separated once. They love each other, and freak out when separated.

If I'm understanding you, they haven't just been together with each other for five years, they've been with YOU for five years. You're their family. How do you think they're going to feel watching you turn your back and walk out on them? Nice new home, shit. YOU aren't going to be there.

I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I just want to make sure you're thinking straight. I admit, I don't understand the situation, what's possible, how temporary it might be, etc. If it absolutely positively has to be done, I'd go with Termy's advice. But first, I'm going to tell you a true story.

I once "had to do" what you're doing. And I honestly believed it was the right thing in the circumstances. Fortunately, a couple of good people took my pal. They liked him, and he was well cared for. He was healthy. He had a good home. And I guess anybody would say he was happy.

But every single day, when people started coming home from work, he would jump up on the window sill and watch. He sat there and watched and watched, until the last person passed. He didn't do that if I was home. Now he did it every day. Only the person he was looking for never came.

They had him a year. Then one day, he just put his little head down on his paws and died. I only learned about this afterward, when they took the trouble to find out where I was living and wrote to tell me that he was gone. You don't want to get a letter like that.

It ain't gonna happen twice, I can tell you. I'll find another way. I'll fucking make one. I know you're doing this because you love them. It was the same with me. I just neglected to factor into the equation that he loved me too. Maybe there's food for thought there.

K.

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He allows me to have my one fluffball of a cat, but no others.

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At the moment she is keeping them locked in a tiny powder room which barely has room for the kitty litter and food, which drives me insane everytime I go visit them.

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First, I have tried emailing bengal rescues, but its been a week and no response.

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So far the best advice seems to be charging an adoption fee, and from what one lady emailed me on craigslist, asking for vet references from any potential families, and calling said vet.

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminAlpha

http://pets.groups.yahoo.com/group/bengalcatrescue/ That is the national rescue group on Yahoo, of which I am a member of, and they have been known to even get transport from other places arranged and "convoy" the kitties to a new home.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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He allows me to have my one fluffball of a cat, but no others.

Are there other animals in your father's place? I really don't see the difference between one cat and three. (My ex had 10, which I thought was insane, but he managed with twice daily scoopings and frequent vacuuming.)

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At the moment she is keeping them locked in a tiny powder room which barely has room for the kitty litter and food, which drives me insane everytime I go visit them.

I hope you are visiting them regularly.

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First, I have tried emailing bengal rescues, but its been a week and no response.

So email again. Better yet, if there is a phone, call.

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So far the best advice seems to be charging an adoption fee, and from what one lady emailed me on craigslist, asking for vet references from any potential families, and calling said vet.

There you go.

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

It would seem to me to be the father who makes the strong distinction between one and three cats, and that one is his limit. Seeing that she is under his roof, like it or not, she must accommodate him. No all are as cat friendly or tolerant as you or I may be.

Personally, I could tolerate a sudden and temporary addition of 2 furballs, especially if they belonged to kin. Tho' painful and hard for some of us to understand/condone, he has a right to his rules, boundaries and limitations. He is the master of his home, and has the final say so.

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Hows this for cuteness, all packaged and ready to go! Another baby pic, so false advertising. Then again, wetpaw's a runt- so he has perma baby face! http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r160/ankhofbast/IMG_1666-1.jpg