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Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:22:56 PM   
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I've been wondering about this I mean is it common to give your slave a new name or to just address them as somthing else like a number or just slave?
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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:25:31 PM   
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I've been wondering about this I mean is it common to give your slave a new name or to just address them as somthing else like a number or just slave?



what are you talking about? Who renames anyone or calls them by a number except on Star Trek?

HELLO... Im SEVEN OF NINE... whats your fucking name?

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:28:29 PM   
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I've been wondering about this I mean is it common to give your slave a new name or to just address them as somthing else like a number or just slave?



Lets cut to the chase. If you change it, and she answers to it, then thats your sign.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:29:44 PM   
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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I've been wondering about this I mean is it common to give your slave a new name or to just address them as somthing else like a number or just slave?



what are you talking about? Who renames anyone or calls them by a number except on Star Trek?

HELLO... Im SEVEN OF NINE... whats your fucking name?
I believe the general term is a slave name I have come across the topic on other sites.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:31:39 PM   
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Legally change someone's name? No he's never done that but it would be his perogative if he wants it.

He does however call me all kinds of other names other than my given name. About the only time he uses my given name is in public or around friends and family.


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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:34:23 PM   
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GO FOR IT !! And while youre at it, make sure that they address you as Master of the Universe at family functions and reunions. that will be a real knee slapper for the grandkids to remember.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:42:08 PM   
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GO FOR IT !! And while youre at it, make sure that they address you as Master of the Universe at family functions and reunions. that will be a real knee slapper for the grandkids to remember.
Here's an excerpt of what I'm talking about TROLL.

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Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

When this name exists 'within' the relationship it can provide meaning to the individuals involved in the relationship, it can represent an expressed devotion between them. However, the stripping of extant names or associations can and may serve to destabilize the mental health of the submissive/slave. The increased dependency may appear to represent the desire of the submissive but in fact may contribute to the actual destruction of the relationship. One of the most recognizable traits of abuse and coercion is actions which 'isolate' the individual (submissive/slave). In addition, diminishment in front of friends, family, coworkers by the imposition of 'slave behavior' or name publicly can be severely injurious to the individual. When considering 'naming' your submissive or slave clearly define the 'arena' in which this name shall be used. Names used in privacy or within scene can be experienced with great pleasure. Names used in public displays (within BDSM community associations, meetings, munches and events) can provide clear statements of attachment and bonding between dominant and submissive. Every human should have a full and robust life which includes family, friends, occupations, hobbies, passions and desires. This medley within a life radiates the health of the life, the health of the person. If you are seeking to 'scene name' your submissive/slave, some of the more favored ways of approaching this is to carefully consider the characteristics, traits and personality of your submissive and match to your submissive a descriptive name which suits or represents those characteristics the best. Always try to ensure that your action is taken to enhance the quality of your relationship. Care should be exercised to ensure that this 'naming' is not a reflection of insecurity on the part of the dominant or based in a need to 'show off' before other dominants.

www.steel-door.com/tagging.htm

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:49:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

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ORIGINAL: JanahX

GO FOR IT !! And while youre at it, make sure that they address you as Master of the Universe at family functions and reunions. that will be a real knee slapper for the grandkids to remember.
Here's an excerpt of what I'm talking about TROLL.

quote:

Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

www.steel-door.com/tagging.htm



Youre Awsome ... I am WICKED JEALOUS OF your slave that you are going to RENAME OR NUMBER. Now then, ... I am going to go off to cry in my soup -now that you have put me in my place.




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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:51:10 PM   
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Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

That bolded part doesnt bother you?

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:52:47 PM   
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Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

That bolded part doesnt bother you?
I didn't read all of it I just searched, skimmed, copied and paste I didn't even see that part.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 9:59:41 PM   
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IM sorry ----> ME BAD.. youre just a kid.

Have you ever looked into GOR? That seems to be right up your ally.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:02:45 PM   
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IM sorry ----> ME BAD.. youre just a kid.

Have you ever looked into GOR? That seems to be right up your ally.
It does interest me actually.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:03:45 PM   
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quote:

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IM sorry ----> ME BAD.. youre just a kid.

Have you ever looked into GOR? That seems to be right up your ally.


Oh come on, cut that shit out.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:05:03 PM   
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Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

That bolded part doesnt bother you?
I didn't read all of it I just searched, skimmed, copied and paste I didn't even see that part.



When you are reading sites, you should read a bit more closely. Those bolded words should have told you.... whoa!.. and at least made you pause.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:06:31 PM   
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I've never cared for my given name... And so my Master, when I became "officially" his, gave me a new one. He named me. We've yet to have it changed legally yet (will most likely be doing this when we get married to avoid having to do 2 name changes.) I love the name he gave me, and most of the people I associate with (family, friends) use it as well. I don't see it as depersonalizing me or separating me from my past/relations to others. All of those things are still perfectly intact and healthily encouraged by my Master.

I have no idea how common this practice of renaming is (quite frankly it doesn't matter to me,) but the way we look at it is, well... I'm his property, so it's his right to do so. To us it is akin to the naming of an animal upon adoption as your pet. I am my Master's pet, and so he chose a name for me. I like it.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:08:16 PM   
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And thats fine. You didnt like yours, so he gave you a new one. Mutual agreement.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:09:01 PM   
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FR - did NOT read teeny, tiny print, thank you very much.

Quick answer: Master's perogative.  Depends on depth of relationship as well. 

I'd like to ask why you're asking?  Are you trying to discover the "one true way" to handle a slave?  Good fucking luck with that!!!  Plenty of answers to that will be - ain't no such thing as "THE" way.  Okay?  Just be natural.  Enjoy.  There are NO "BDSM Police" that will come and fine you or take away your slave or ......

RELAX!  Oh, and your question asks "Is it common?"  Define "common."  And then conduct a survey..... Is it known to happen?  Sure.  I named a boy once upon a distant time, far away..... didn't sound "right" to either of us and was dropped. LOL!

RELAX! 

Lordy, these young'uns.......

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:13:02 PM   
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I was also going to use the "pet" analogy.

And that word "adopted" reminds me of two gay guys - not all that different in age, but the top was older.  Since they couldn't marry, the elder legally and formally did an "adult adoption" of the younger who then took the elder's last name and changed over everything.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:18:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Within the BDSM community there are those who enjoy the practice of 'naming' or 'tagging' the submissive/slave within the relationship. This issuance of a 'name' is to suggest that the submissive/slave existed in a nameless or non-genuine state prior to becoming the 'property' of their new dominant. The removal or 'stripping' of existing family name is sometimes seen as a way to separate the submissive from their past, from their family, ties, associations and responsibilities, to redirect the individual solely toward service to and responsibility toward the new dominant.

That bolded part doesnt bother you?
I didn't read all of it I just searched, skimmed, copied and paste I didn't even see that part.



When you are reading sites, you should read a bit more closely. Those bolded words should have told you.... whoa!.. and at least made you pause.
Thanks I will deffinetly pay more attention now.

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RE: Renaming slaves - 11/26/2011 10:46:12 PM   
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the part of changing someone's identity to strip them of their past would be perfectly fine with me. It wouldn't even bother me in the least and I wouldn't see it as bothersome. I guess it just depends on how attached you are to your past and/or your name. I mean my last name changed when I got married so I was already separated from my family by that little change in my life upon marriage. Why would changing my first name be any different?

I just think it would be a pain in the ass having to change every single document that's in my name and my daughter would probably look at me a little nutty for awhile lol.



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