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HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 6:53:41 PM)
quote: The bottom who acts up so the top will spank her and if the top doesn't spank her she sits there pouting I would have sooooooooo much corner time if I tried pulling that! [:D] As far as getting bored in a D/s, S/M context, I don't know, its never happened to me, or any of us really. In a vanilla context, I get bored very easily, I usually get over it by looking something up online. Hanners drives me nuts though, she basically never gets bored. If she has nothing to occupy herself with, she just thinks about stuff and is perfectly content. She can spend hours happily smoking and staring off into space just thinking about whatever it is she's thinking about.

tazzygirl -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 7:08:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn What is your boredom threshold? Most submissive people have low boredom thresholds and expect the dominant person in the relationship to keep them entertained. Oh glory me. I would pay hard cash to see her come up and say, "I'm bored, entertain me," Oh ko, you would be able to hear her vastly and abundantly entertained screams miles away. If you didnt scare me so damn much, I could fall in lust with you. [8D]

tazzygirl -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 7:10:07 PM)
OP, if you are bored as a sub, just tell your owner. If he/she is like any of the men/women on these boards... they will give that sub plenty to do to relieve that boredom. If you are an owner who believes he/she has to entertain their sub, just cmail me. I got a chose list that will ensure to have any submissive thrilled to never say... entertain me... again.

ilearn -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 7:19:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl OP, if you are bored as a sub, just tell your owner. If he/she is like any of the men/women on these boards... they will give that sub plenty to do to relieve that boredom. If you are an owner who believes he/she has to entertain their sub, just cmail me. I got a chose list that will ensure to have any submissive thrilled to never say... entertain me... again. How exactly do I mail you? I am not familiar with the protocols of this board. Again, the relationship is over. As someone said it is not my job to entertain her.

caelestis -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 7:44:45 PM)
I'm easily bored, but not when I'm with someone that I'm in a relationship with. I don't get involved with people who bore me. Though to balance things out, I'm also super easily amused/entertained.

sublimelysensual -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 8:09:40 PM)
I think long-term boredom in a relationship is all about expectations, as others have said. Situationally you could put me in a corner or a cage for hours and I could be perfectly happy inside my head- it would prob piss some off to leave me like that, come back three hours later and find a completely aroused girl, LOL..then again maybe not.. [;)] An s-type should never have trouble finding something to do, unless their Dom/me wants it that way.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Subs and boredom. (11/30/2011 9:41:30 PM)
Heather's choice for the Sunny's Quote of the Day goes to Kana [sm=champ.gif] for this explanation of the proper method of keeping a submissive from getting bored: Oh glory me. I would pay hard cash to see her come up and say, "I'm bored, entertain me," Oh ko, you would be able to hear her vastly and abundantly entertained screams miles away.

Suleiman -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 1:03:38 AM)
If all your submission is online, I can see how you might bore easily. I got so bored with those one-fisted tales of frustration, I haven't entered a chatroom in over a decade.

Kana -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 6:00:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn What is your boredom threshold? Most submissive people have low boredom thresholds and expect the dominant person in the relationship to keep them entertained. Oh glory me. I would pay hard cash to see her come up and say, "I'm bored, entertain me," Oh ko, you would be able to hear her vastly and abundantly entertained screams miles away. If you didnt scare me so damn much, I could fall in lust with you. [8D] Me? Scary? Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I'm simply a sweet and innocent angel, much maligned by the slings of rumor and supposition :-)

poise -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 6:49:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn Most submissive people have low boredom thresholds, and expect the dominant person in the relationship to keep them entertained. Is that a pretty much the standard fare? I'm not certain how you can declare that most submissive people bore easily as it would indicate that you are intimately aware of oneheckofalottasubmissivepeople, which is hard to imagine. So, assuming that, in your experience, the majority of you're interactions have been with submissive people that have become bored quite easily, and based totally on the content of your profile, I would suggest you expand your vocabulary so that your attempt at erotic, lusty, salacious phone play doesn't come across as being rehearsed. You are setting their expectations up of being entertained by inviting them to write you so they can get their panties wet. In this case, it sounds like it is up to you to entertain them, and perhaps not being as successful as you'd like to be. Of course, you could be speaking entirely about a one on one in person relationship, but you aren't giving us much to go on.

DesFIP -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 7:07:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn How exactly do I mail you? I am not familiar with the protocols of this board. Again, the relationship is over. You mail people on the boards by clicking the PM under their names and date they joined on the left side of the screen. It stands for private message. However I'm curious if she expected you to entertain her or if it wasn't that you weren't well fitted for a relationship due to the fact that she needs more interaction than you do. If so, then you should have been more honest in the beginning about how much time you were willing to spend with her.

ilearn -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 4:27:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn Most submissive people have low boredom thresholds, and expect the dominant person in the relationship to keep them entertained. Is that a pretty much the standard fare? I'm not certain how you can declare that most submissive people bore easily as it would indicate that you are intimately aware of oneheckofalottasubmissivepeople, which is hard to imagine. So, assuming that, in your experience, the majority of you're interactions have been with submissive people that have become bored quite easily, and based totally on the content of your profile, I would suggest you expand your vocabulary so that your attempt at erotic, lusty, salacious phone play doesn't come across as being rehearsed. You are setting their expectations up of being entertained by inviting them to write you so they can get their panties wet. In this case, it sounds like it is up to you to entertain them, and perhaps not being as successful as you'd like to be. Of course, you could be speaking entirely about a one on one in person relationship, but you aren't giving us much to go on. Excellent Feedback! I think you're right about coming across as rehearsed. Perhaps I should get rid of it altogether, considering that there never have been any takers for it.

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 4:41:41 PM)
quote: Me? Scary? Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I'm simply a sweet and innocent angel, much maligned by the slings of rumor and supposition :-) [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif] Your rep precedes you.

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 4:49:19 PM)
Granted, I'm in a fairly new relationship, but neither one of us gets bored. I have yet to watch a movie and see either the beginning, the end or any parts in between. OTOH, we can also just cuddle and snuggle, read, go out for a walk, take off for a drive, whatever. We're adults, not children, and act as such. The first time I met with him, 2 days later I fell down a flight of metal stairs and badly bruised my tailbone. He looked after me, wouldn't let me get out of bed (not that I could), and made sure I had everything I needed. There was no BDSM or D/s, he looked after the injured party, his submissive. I was in a lot of pain, he knew this, and we got to know each other even better. I wasn't expected to perform like a stage monkey, nor was he. We both found things to do when I wasn't fast asleep in his arms.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/1/2011 5:17:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe quote: Me? Scary? Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I'm simply a sweet and innocent angel, much maligned by the slings of rumor and supposition :-) [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif] Your rep precedes you. Hahahaa :D

Kana -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/2/2011 8:07:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe quote: Me? Scary? Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I'm simply a sweet and innocent angel, much maligned by the slings of rumor and supposition :-) [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif] Your rep precedes you. See, that's what ya get for listening to rumors. I'm all warm and soft and snuggly and cuddly- a regular Teddy Bear-that's me.

heartfeltsub -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/2/2011 8:55:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe quote: Me? Scary? Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh. I'm simply a sweet and innocent angel, much maligned by the slings of rumor and supposition :-) [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif] Your rep precedes you. See, that's what ya get for listening to rumors. I'm all warm and soft and snuggly and cuddly- a regular Teddy Bear-that's me. You would have to remove some of the pictures from your profile for anyone to believe that. What is it with Sadists claiming to be sweet and innocent when we all know that they are evil, evil, mean men and women. [:D]

crazyml -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/2/2011 9:05:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ilearn Most submissive people have low boredom thresholds and expect the dominant person in the relationship to keep them entertained. Horseshit. Next?

LordNMasterGrey -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/2/2011 9:07:05 AM)
I find the notion of being bored in this context perplexing! LOL

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Subs and boredom. (12/2/2011 9:09:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub What is it with Sadists claiming to be sweet and innocent when we all know that they are evil, evil, mean men and women. [:D] +1 :p Bait and switch? Shock and awe? A terrible sense of humor? :p

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