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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Stuff about stuff (12/9/2011 5:08:12 AM)
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I agree with Awareness on the point of self-determination. And something like that isn't a casual commitment - it's something someone accepts, again, after careful consideration. These are still, at the core, consensual relationships, though. I don't agree that every single one looks and works the same, which is what it always seems that people are trying to get at. If that makes me a brainwashed milquetoast, "meh."
In ancient Rome, some people built tombs for their slaves, considered them part of their family, and let them come & go, while others treated them horribly and exercised their right to kill them. Which one is more real? If a Master chooses to give a slave rights, or doesn't care to take them away, or gives them and takes by whim, is he less real? By whose standard?
Historical slaves rebelled, attacked or killed their owners, and made attempts to escape. Comparing a consensual relationship to that seems asinine. To me, the M defines the relationship, but it's consensual - s-types are free to find someone they can take the plunge with.
I identify the way I do here because that's what I'm seeking. Not everyone is interested in establishing and maitaining the O/p mindset. But the nebulousness of the titles has led me to want to chuck them all annd start from blank. Anyone could be talking about anything, and a man maintained that mindset with me before, even though he called me a sub. :p so how much do the words really matter? :p not much.
One guy can say "I like bratty girls" and find one he likes, have a fulfilling relationship for the both of them, etc, but who am I to say "she's nnot a real /s" just because I don't like her type of behavior? The only opinion that matters, her D's opinion, says "she's exactly what I want."
(ETA: I'm nnot saying that you can't have opinions on it - obviously you can. Some thinngs look like M/s "to me," and others don't I'm not a fan of brattiness. But having an opinion is different from expecting YOUR opinion to apply to everyone. That's... self-aggrandizing. :p by all means, define "slave" in your universe, but keep in minnd that that's the only place it definitely applies.)
I don't believe we owe anything to "words." They're something we invented, something we continually redefine, replace, invennt, and dissolve into obsolesence. They don't create reality, we do, and we use them to explain our realities to others. They only go so far, though, because they are NOT concrete. They are not universal. They aren't ultimate self-defining goalposts, they're tools for uss, not the other way around.
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