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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 3:46:50 PM

Celeste43

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The dom's lack of integrity doesn't mean the sub is equally lacking and therefore the sub may feel better if she begs for release. Ritualized closure? Probably, but that's not a bad thing.

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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 5:41:20 PM

shyinini

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ORIGINAL: majicatt

Begging release can provide closure. Especially if it's a situation where the Dominant one has repeatedly made bad decisions that has resulted in the loss of respect. Once respect is lost, trust soon follows accompanied by anxiety and the need to be free of the incompetent Owner.

Maji

I so completely agree with this postion. I see where Lady Hugs is coming from, esp if the s type ends up killed. That kind of closure is a bitch, I would think.
I also understand where the s type has her own mind and can just leave.

I didnt leave, he did and never told me ... since it was long distance, I never knew the whole story, still dont. If there had been that positive closure.... that exact "release" and his perspective, possibly my journey would havebeen different. Without that communication, Gawd how I begged to know what was going on, being left an option......

Yes, I would have liked that formal release from him.
This may sound funny weird or stupid...I dont give a rip...
but I do believe that a dominant can get into the mind of a girl and be there a long time.....that release, that closure, can make him disappear once and for all in a girls mind.

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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 5:58:07 PM

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I think some don't realize that actions speak louder than words sometimes. Sometimes a persons actions release more than the actual words. I have asked for release and left relationships based on the neglect or actions of the dominant at the time. I do not need to hear the words "release" to know things are over. I have asked for it as a "ritual" as some have said but have known I already was or things were over.

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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 6:01:29 PM

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In my eyes, the Dominant would have already broken the contract, and therefore no need to beg for release. The contract is null and void.

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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 6:11:51 PM

ownedgirlie

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Wow, this is an old thread, but I'm glad it came up again.

It really depends on the situation. My Master took a second slave not long ago, who offered her submission and asked for his ownership. When things became difficult for her (no contract, no lies, no lack of integrity, etc.), she wrote him an email saying it's too hard and she's leaving.

The way I see it, I asked for his ownership, and he was generous enough to take me. If I don't like it, I at least owe him the respect enough to talk to him about it, and/or ask him to let me go, rather than simply walk away.

It's one of the many things we talked about prior to ownership.

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RE: Begging release - 8/12/2007 6:31:29 PM

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Celeste

I would see it slightly differently from the way that you phrased the question. If the relationship has already got to the stage that I'm prepared to take the responsibility for handing a collar back...then it's already broken down and got out of order in the first place. If I'm 'petitioning for release' by saying 'are you sure you don't want this back?' then....I'm still offering the benefit of the doubt that the relationship has got more steam in it yet.

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RE: Begging release - 8/13/2007 9:16:40 AM

daddysprop247

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

The power exchange relationship shouldn't terminate when the sub/slave wants it to. It terminates when the owner agrees to it. Elsewise, there would be no necessity for the collar/TPE relationship in the first place; the slave would constantly have the option to say "nah, not worth it, bye."

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