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"What a True Master Does" - 12/6/2011 8:26:12 PM

Mazterlock

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Many years ago when Myspace was new, it was discovered by the BDSM community. It thrived, got messy and as everybody knows, eventually faded away. I was going to edit this very old blog and update it for collarme but I decided this community might find it more interesting to read this blog exactly as I wrote it all those many years ago...

WHAT A TRUE MASTER DOES

"Maybe I am just noticing more but it seems like many more women on Myspace are trying to sort out real Masters from posers. That is a very good thing. Here is my opinion of what it means to be a true Master.

A real Master is much more sensitive and caring than a macho type of man. This can seem ironic at first but there is a big difference between aggressive dominant behavior and the behavior of a true Master who often waits quite a long time before asserting his dominance.

Submissives, by nature, do not assert what they want. A true submissive is a very strong person with the confidence to surrender control to a Master. A submissive is NEVER a victim. But, she knows that the very act of telling a man that she wants to be tied up, for example, can run the risk of "topping from the bottom" which ruins the moment and eventually the relationship. Submissive women always find a wonderful, but often subtle way of showing that they want you to take control but it is up to the Master to interpret nuanced behavior in order to uncover the details of what she wants through his own perceptions and experience.

Every woman is unique and every submissive woman has unique needs, desires, fantasies and hopes. The only thing submissives have in common is the desire that the right type of dominant man will unveil their submission and push them to explore the extreme limits of their deeply rooted desires. Pain is just one example, but a good one. Every submissive woman I have ever been with had a different level of tolerance for pain and a different psychological reaction to the role or pain in an M/s relationship.

While on the surface, especially to a novice, it appears that the Master is simply dictating what the slave must do, the reality is that a true Master is intensely tuned in to the unspoken aspects of a relationship and is constantly adjusting his approach. A true Master always has the goal of getting as deep inside the head of his slave as he possible can. Wearing leather and carrying a whip and hand cuffs at the ready has nothing to do with it.

Real Masters understand that what is happening on the surface when you observe an M/s relationship is usually just a hint of what is going on deep inside the mind of the slave. Speaking for myself, the physical submission is very exciting but it is tapping into the psyche of a truly submissive woman that is most fulfilling.

Some submissives have rape type fantasies. That is the hardest "scene" for a true Master to play out. True Master's hate the idea of forcing themselves upon a woman. They crave the opposite. For myself, I do not want to complete the final act of intercourse until a woman is literally begging for it - she should be so on the edge of ecstasy and pain and emotions - that she simply must have me. That is what most true Master's seek.

If you keep these things in mind, it will be pretty easy to sort out the hundreds of men on Myspace who are posturing as a Master as opposed to actually being one."