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crazyml -> RE: "What a True Master Does" (12/7/2011 9:43:37 AM)
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Hi Mazterlock,
This will be a long'un, as I'm going to take your OP in steps.
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ORIGINAL: Mazterlock
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"Maybe I am just noticing more but it seems like many more women on Myspace are trying to sort out real Masters from posers. That is a very good thing. Here is my opinion of what it means to be a true Master.
This has been true since the very dawn of the internet. IRC used to be chokka block with all sorts of predators and poseurs.
I used to love the irony that was #bisexfem - A channel full of dudes, pretending to be women, having hella-awesome cyber lesbian sex with .... other dudes also pretending to be women.
Oh, the interweb was simpler back then.
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A real Master is much more sensitive and caring than a macho type of man.
While personally, I'd identify much more with "sensitive and caring", I don't think this is true at all. There are plenty of smart sub women that look for a macho type of man. A macho type of man is no less of a dom - he's just different.
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This can seem ironic at first but there is a big difference between aggressive dominant behavior and the behavior of a true Master who often waits quite a long time before asserting his dominance.
Meh... again, lots of subs love aggressive dominant behaviour... and it's lovely that they get a chance to meet men who do the aggressive dominant thing, isn't it?
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Submissives, by nature, do not assert what they want.
What the fuck? Sweet mother of god, I'd hate a sub who didn't assert what she wanted. Not saying for a second that she'll get it mind you...
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A true submissive is a very strong person with the confidence to surrender control to a Master.
I want to agree with you, this is certainly a good description of my ideal sub, but to generalise it.... nah.
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A submissive is NEVER a victim. But, she knows that the very act of telling a man that she wants to be tied up, for example, can run the risk of "topping from the bottom" which ruins the moment and eventually the relationship.
Surely this is only true in the event that the dom is inept?
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While on the surface, especially to a novice, it appears that the Master is simply dictating what the slave must do, the reality is that a true Master is intensely tuned in to the unspoken aspects of a relationship and is constantly adjusting his approach. A true Master always has the goal of getting as deep inside the head of his slave as he possible can. Wearing leather and carrying a whip and hand cuffs at the ready has nothing to do with it.
Aww c'mon! It's just not right or sensible to make these generalisations.
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Some submissives have rape type fantasies. That is the hardest "scene" for a true Master to play out. True Master's hate the idea of forcing themselves upon a woman. They crave the opposite. For myself, I do not want to complete the final act of intercourse until a woman is literally begging for it - she should be so on the edge of ecstasy and pain and emotions - that she simply must have me. That is what most true Master's seek.
Dude, if you think that rape play is the hardest scene for a master to play out then you need to get a little bit more experience!
So.... you've expressed some views that really relate to your own personal take on what dominance and mastery mean to you - and that's awesome.
And by the looks of things, I'm not too far off you in terms of my personal preferences - But really.... to set this up as some definition of what is "right" is to completely miss the point that there are plenty of women out there (smart, independent, sassy women) who would find your style of dominance (and mine) to be way way too softcore for them.
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