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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 1:59:46 PM

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No worries, LL, I understood -- I just keep wondering if we're missing something, but .... I dunno.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 2:30:30 PM

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I have a feeling the girl is a little eerr...slow. She probably has some mental issues plus the fact that this causes her to live in a fantasy world. She reminds me of some people I know who have mental incapacities. They don't really grasp the real world. I think this ties into a previous thread about using bdsm as a way to deal with traumas in one's life.

If that is the case, then she IS in an abusive relationship because she lacks the compacity to consent. She isn't simply in a one on one BDSM relationship, she is one of those subs that is "loaned out." If it is as you say....well, damn, no wonder she ran from the DV booth.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 3:42:52 PM

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I don't know that her relationship is abusive....just that she uses bdsm as a way to deal with her shortcomings and a way to escape her dull life...one of these people that makes things more exciting and thrilling than they actually are but yet it's real to them. I don't know how else to explain it. Basically they're childlike....you know how little kids are excited and thrilled with a plain brown cardboard box that they can make it seem like a castle, a car, etc...? I think that's how she views the world.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 5:09:01 PM

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Someone I used to know had her pinkie chopped off because she was ok with it and he was sadistic.
She often talked about how someday she expected to die at his hands.
People can take this shit way too seriously.

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Oside,

She doesn't get that.

But I'm actually curious, what would the man have done if she was ok with it?

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 5:17:01 PM

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What did Stacy post that was so offensive? I mean, maybe I'm just a retard too, but I didn't see her post anything mean spirited in this thread.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 5:45:54 PM

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What did Stacy post that was so offensive? I mean, maybe I'm just a retard too, but I didn't see her post anything mean spirited in this thread.

It's not that anyone is offended exactly by Stacy, concerned though, yes. Although her posts on another thread bordered being offensive to the subject, its more her odd responses that seem strange. No one called her a retard either. No one is saying she's mean spirited exactly, but that her replies don't make much sense in being connected to real life or they're not connected to what is being said here in the forums. It's the disconnect that was, and is, worrisome to many of the posters. Might be nice if you noticed that no one was slamming her at all for being a 'retard', but quite a few people have, as a matter of fact, showed concern.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 6:47:58 PM

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Please try to use a diff word than "retard". I'm not trying to be an ass..but it's incredibly degrading and offensive to special needs peeps, and those that love them.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 7:26:46 PM

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 7:28:31 PM

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Please try to use a diff word than "retard". I'm not trying to be an ass..but it's incredibly degrading and offensive to special needs peeps, and those that love them.

I apologize Fornica, you're right. I used it because I was quoting HisPet21. I do find that word offensive as well which is why I replied to her, because no one actually ever used that word that I saw before she did.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 7:29:29 PM

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Oh, I know Lizi. I figured that was how you were using it <3

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 7:58:31 PM

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It's not that anyone is offended exactly by Stacy, concerned though, yes. Although her posts on another thread bordered being offensive to the subject, its more her odd responses that seem strange. No one called her a retard either. No one is saying she's mean spirited exactly, but that her replies don't make much sense in being connected to real life or they're not connected to what is being said here in the forums. It's the disconnect that was, and is, worrisome to many of the posters. Might be nice if you noticed that no one was slamming her at all for being a 'retard', but quite a few people have, as a matter of fact, showed concern.

I didn't get concern. I just read the whole thread, and there were a lot of unnecessary insults thrown Stacy's way, and then some nice comparisons to Stacy and a three year old playing in a box. Now, I haven't read many other threads w/ Stacy's commentary, but I didn't see her being all that bad in this thread. Maybe this is just more new poster hazing, IDK, but its still rude.

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Please try to use a diff word than "retard". I'm not trying to be an ass..but it's incredibly degrading and offensive to special needs peeps, and those that love them.

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone. I just feel that the term "retarded" has changed in the same way the term "moron" has. Both used to be technical terms for the mentally disabled and have, since then, become slang for "stupid." Since I find it rude to call the mentally disabled "stupid," I generally don't think of the term "retard" in reference to them. Sometimes I forget that others do.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/8/2011 8:51:03 PM

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People were hyper reacting to things she said in other threads - maybe not totally fair, but people tend to form opinions of each other based on posts - normal behavior on a messageboard...

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/9/2011 8:53:01 PM

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I don't know that her relationship is abusive....just that she uses bdsm as a way to deal with her shortcomings and a way to escape her dull life...one of these people that makes things more exciting and thrilling than they actually are but yet it's real to them. I don't know how else to explain it. Basically they're childlike....you know how little kids are excited and thrilled with a plain brown cardboard box that they can make it seem like a castle, a car, etc...? I think that's how she views the world.

Well, I don't know if you have read her profile, or paid much attention to things she said about being "loaned" out, but if there is "slowness" there, someone encouraging her to do that is being abusive in my eyes. People who are "slow" don't have the compentency to consent.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/9/2011 9:29:09 PM

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Here is a perfect example of what everyone is talking about.

In another thread, What a True Master Does, I made a suggestion to the OP who was Mazterlock, no snark .. nada. Was actually kinda serious about it.

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I think you need to do a re-write then. Try it, see if we like it.

to which stacey4U2luv replied all on her own even though the statement was to Mazterlock and had zero to do with her. But she felt compelled anyways to reply to me:

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hmmmm shove a sock in it already, how's that for submissive lol OK then shove the sock up my ass dry. Is that better?

to which I replied to her:

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What the hell are you talking about? How is that relevant to what I was asking the OP?

You obviously didnt excel in reading comprehension when you were in school... did you?

now yes that did have snark in it .. but this was really before I started reading anything this chick had started posting yet. She apparently had been around for a while, but I never paid any attention to her or what she wrote. She did reply to my question and my snarky comment:

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You obviously have your hand shoved too far up your sock, or is that your head? We all know your intent no need explaining unless you lack insight.

to which I started to notice that this chick didnt have her papers in order as the germans used to say. So I just tried to end it simply because it was useless to continue on with this, by saying:

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OH OK STACE ... if you SAY SO.
lol!

and then Thishereboi saw what was going on and jumped in and wrote this to Stacey asking her why she jumped in and answered for the OP (Mazterlock):

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Submissive, not unless you are going for the bratty submissive and I could never understand why anyone would like that. Also not sure why you felt the need to come running in to defend the guy this late in the game. Many people have already said the op was badly worded. Makes me wonder if there isn't another reason

And she decides to write to me again (even though I had pretty much let her know we were d o n e):

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It is OK your brain will awaken eventually once your drink wears off. I still love yah even though you missed the ass and rammed the sock instead. Your fisting abilities should return once you sober up.

and then she writes back to Thishereboi replying to his comment with this (tripping out on me again):

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Thank you for buying the vowel for her. Some people around here obviously need more clues as when to put a gag in their mouths and to finish instead of trying to bring on more. Maybe she is on the rag and is why she is constantly seeking.

and thats when I was like ---> what the fuck is going on here? And so I flat out asked:

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constantly seeking? seeking what dear?

Stacy .. I have a question for you.. and can you answer me honestly? Are you mentally disabled in some way? If you are ... I wont bother with you further. Im not mean like that.

but theres something here thats not adding up.

to which of course, I got no answer.

and when Thishereboi replied to her about the vowel thing:

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Was that supposed to make any sense? If anyone is acting like they are on the rag, it's you. So just what the fuck is your problem today? Someone piss in your cornflakes? And you still didn't explain why you went off on her and ignored the other posters who said basically the same thing.

he never got a reply back either .. and she flounced.

So thats kinda a senerio that might fit into what you were questioning.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/10/2011 8:06:33 AM

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Okay, well that makes sense then. I've really only read this thread and a few other posts by her, so sorry to spaz out. Internet hazing just annoys me, I guess. But here, perhaps its justified and I didn't know it.

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